I have been with my girl for 6 months now. She doesn't have a lot of girlfriends and does have more guy friends. I have learned and told her (when we first were getting to know each other) that when a girl says she gets a long better with guys it can only mean trouble. Either her and a guy friend missed around or you will think one of them is a tool. Believe me this has happened. Last night she went out with a guy friend she hasn't seen in 3 1/2 years. They went out about 11:30 and I recieved a txt marked 4:30am that she missed me and can't wait for me to meet this "friend". She works Friday and Saturday nights (bartender) sunday we have plans that do not include this "friend". I think she wants him to hang with us. It will not happen. Am I being a jerk? I know I am breaking my own rule of seeing a girl that has "guy" friends, but I do like her a lot. I remind her that I was her friend once. guys dont want to be friends with girls...they pretend to be to get something else.
2007-07-06 04:43:41 · 11 answers · asked by mickey n 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
FYI - Yeah I have major trust issues! I have also been single for about a year and a half and playing the field. I have burned some girls, due in part to my trust issues. She is a good girl and claims she wouldn't chest on me. However she told me a couple of months ago another old guy friend slept at her house about two months into our relationship. She said nothing happened and she sent him home at 5:00 in the morning. I know if I had done that she would be pissed. She isn't big on me having female friends. I am going to hold back and see what happens. I am not meeting this guy on Sunday becasue we already had plans and she needs to respect that. Maybe Monday. More insight?
2007-07-06 06:01:19 · update #1
you need to be more secure with yourself or you are going to lose her for good.
it also sounds like you might have some trust issues with your girl as well. just cause a guy might want something else out of the relationship does not mean she's going to run off and sleep with him.
be more secure
2007-07-06 04:47:32 · answer #1 · answered by jmum82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes this is okay. The problem is she is attractive to a lot of males so many males want her. There is a song about being in love with a beautiful woman and all the troubles this causes her man because of the cloud of men following her around. The real question is "Is she looking for something better than you?" I cannot answer this question, only you and she can. Having mixed gender friends is actually nice when not about the guys chasing the girls and the girls chasing the guys. A few people are actually capable of having friendships where the sex is not the top priority. Most are not in male female relationships. Just on the surface it seems like she is easily bored and always looking for some greener grass hence her job choice allowing for the "looking for something better" behavior in what appears to be an innocent way. My view of relationships is they should be about giving each other what the other person needs. Is this relationship working for you on this level? Finding a relationship that works for both is often the thing nearest impossible. If I were to guess I would say she likes that you are there for her when she runs around and does as she likes with you being the stable one. Search the Internet for "codependent" and read about that. I suspect the relationship is codependent.
2007-07-06 12:00:36 · answer #2 · answered by wapermaster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, it is possible for a girl to be "just friends" with a guy. I have a guy friend that I would never ever ever date. I just don't see him in a romantic way. Your girl may be like that. What you really need to think about it whether or not she is the type to cheat. If she is, it doesn't matter if she has guy friends or not, she will find a way. And though she may be attracted or has been attracted to these guy friends, it does not mean that she will do anything about it while she is in a relationship. She may act on it when she is not in a relationship, but not while she is taken.
2007-07-06 11:49:21 · answer #3 · answered by hotchic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a couple guy friends and I dont think they are my friend to get something out of me some guys and girls are just friends it can and does happen all the time. Some girls do only have guy friends and most the time its because they get along better with guys then girls because girls can be bogus and bitchy so some gilrs just dont wanna deal with all that drama that comes along with it. I do think you are being rude she has a friend she wants you to meet that means she wants you to be a part of her life and the things in it you should be happy about that it shows she cares about you a lot and wants to be with you a long time. You got with her knowing she has mainly guy friends so you cant be like that about it now.
2007-07-06 12:08:54 · answer #4 · answered by Amy D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your being overly insecure. She has a guy friend that she is excited about you meeting, why be an asshole about it? If she wanted to be with this guy then she would be, but instead she has chosen to be with you. Grow up, be a man, meet the guy and show your a stand up guy that is secure in himself and his relationship. You are reading way too much into this thing. I have been married for 15 years and have a male friend I have known for 25 years. It is possible to have a platonic relationship with a male. Perhaps the problems isnt hers, maybe its yours????
2007-07-06 11:49:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys pretend to be friends to get close to a lady, but I think sometimes things just happen we don't expect. I've been in both situations before. If you can't abide with her male "buddies" and she's not willing to give them up, I don't forsee a long relationship here.
2007-07-06 11:52:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps that's true in your case about being friends with girls but not true for all guys, I dated a guy and was best friends with his brother and that was 22 years ago we are still friends today and never for any other reasons then just being friends no absoluty no beinfits guys and girls can be just friends without any thing coming of it you are being a jerk in this situation by cutting her off from her friends and you not wanting to get to know people she holds dear in her heart you are setting yourself up for trouble you are going to push her away by pulling her back and for that she will start resenting you for it relationship is about compromise a meeting in the middle suck it up and support her for who she is and respect the people she cares about or you will lose her for selfish reasons good luck
2007-07-06 11:50:24 · answer #7 · answered by sassysandyinmi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have trust in her. If it is meant to be it will be. I have a lot of guy friends and can't imagine doing anything with them. Probably because my husband is my best friend and has been for 27 years. Good luck with your situation. Please don't be accusing this will push her away but at the same time don't be naive.
2007-07-06 11:54:31 · answer #8 · answered by uma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats crap you're being a baby. i have lots of girlfriends with absolutely no attraction to them. and many friends that i have once dated or fooled around with but its in the past and the feelings are gone. I think its a good sign that she wants you to meet him rather than hide him. just go with it, if you dont let her be who she is you should just let her go it will only end badly anyways.
2007-07-06 11:49:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A Jerk,NO,we'll talk about this later cause "I know this is you,BABY"
2007-07-06 11:49:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋