We got married abroad and invited all the relatives and said if you want to attend and can afford it then please do!!! As long as we were both there and our parents we did not really care who else attended!!
His sister did attend but her mother paid for the ticket. The sister and her other half did not buy us a wedding present. They are getting married in August and they sent an inviatation with a wedding present list - do you think we should but them a present?
2007-07-06 04:39:45 · 39 answers · asked by Babble 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well i am 33 weeks pregnant and will be 37 weeks gone by time the wedding is here. We have to pay out loads for the baby and we have had to buy outfits for the wedding - as they have been asking me what i am planning on wearing (i am worried they may think i will ruin thier photos by being a blimp! not to mention ruin the wedding by going into labour!!)
2007-07-06 04:56:09 · update #1
Hi I would still buy them a gift and even thought there parent bought them the ticket to go and see you wedding abroad they still had to have spending money to go with and maybe they couldnt afford it but wanted to be there for you and didnt think you would mind them not getting you a gift. Asking someone to go to your wedding to abroad is alot to ask even if they can afford it, if they didnt go to your wedding at all would this mean you wouldnt be going to there wedding.
So I would understand if I didnt get a gift as I would of already asked enough off my guests, but they are not getting married abroad and if they were it would of been alot more expensive than a wedding gift. So even if its something little. I know you having a baby and getting things for you baby will be quite expensive but if you have family they will always help buy things with the baby, and other funds and things help so there is no need to worry.
If they have an expensive wedding list at an expensive shop then get what they have written down but not from there, Say if they want a kettle get a £5 one from Asda it all works the same. and at least they have got something then. or just send £20 if money is a struggle then but £5 away for 4 weeks and then you will have the £20. And then you can concentrate more on you baby.
I dont see a reason why you need to hold a gruge on her for not buying you a present its a little childish. Were getting married next Saturday (im so excited) and one of my cousins isnt coming up and I know its because we didnt go to hers, but thats because we could afford it as we had to pay for everything out selves as its quite a posh family and were not loaded with money. but anyways they could of just understud and still come to my wedding but any hoo It doesnt really bother me as the people who are really important to me are going to be there.
2007-07-08 09:03:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all maybe she couldn't afford a wedding present for you at the time. or perhaps she put in on the gift you got from your partners mother.
You don't have to get a gift but a card with a little something in it would be nice, or a photo album , you can dress it up as a wedding photo album doesn't cost much.
Another idea for a gift is to make a little book of marriage advise from both you and your partners point of view, it can be serious and still have a few jokes inserted from both sides.
You don't have to stick with whats on the list they sent. If you feel resentment for the sister not getting you anything - how do you think she would feel if you didnt get her something for her big day.
2007-07-06 05:05:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, make them feel bad - I would. You don't have to go over the top - get the gift from one of the TV auction channels so that you're getting something that's really expensive but it isn't going to cost YOU a fortune. I'm going to a wedding in August also. Just got the invitation today - with info on where to buy the pressies (two stores). I've already bought the present, so tough. Wouldn't use these services anyway - I think it's a wee bit cheeky
2007-07-06 04:57:57 · answer #3 · answered by M'SMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think yes you should buy them a gift, perhaps not one on the list but something just to show your class and stature, because there is nothing worse than someone saying one thing and doing another, never leave an open ditch where you might have to walk over one day. Also think of it this way if you do go into labour then you didnt ruin the wedding just simply karma paid a visit, and we all know we have no control over destiny haa haa.
2007-07-06 05:02:57 · answer #4 · answered by R J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps they couldn't afford it - that's probably the reason her mother paid for the ticket. If you are going to the wedding, and you can afford a gift, then not to give one would be unacceptable. You're not really supposed to judge what you're going to give on what you previously got! Regardless of what other people do, your standards should remain your own and I certainly would NEVER go to a wedding without giving a gift, especially close family.
In my experience, most people who marry abroad realise that just to attend will cost a lot, and don't expect much in the way of gifts - let your anger go and realise that family is more important that that - and she IS your family now, whether you like it or not.
2007-07-06 04:48:55 · answer #5 · answered by f0xymoron 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
They dont sound very nice do they.... but to keep family peace, get them an ornament or something, turn up at the wedding, look as beautiful as you can [that will tick the bride off, hopefully.] and ignore the stupid game playing that seems to be going on, also ignore the wedding list if you feel the stuff on there is asking too much, you dont have to buy something from it!
2007-07-06 05:02:09 · answer #6 · answered by magpyre 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, don't be petty. That's never a suitable way to be. Wouldn't you rather attend the wedding with your head held high and happy for his sister, than going there with payback on your mind? And...you got married abroad! Cut me a break, not alot of people can afford that, and of someone doesn't attend a wedding, they aren't obligated to give a gift!
2007-07-06 04:48:44 · answer #7 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes of course you do. It doesn't matter that their tickets to your wedding were paid for. Their gift to you was schlepping to another country just to watch you get married. I'm sure there were other expenses related to that besides the airfare, including the fact that they probably had to take a few days off from work.That was a lot to ask of them. Anyway, is it worth causing resentment for the next 30 years or so to save a few bucks? Probably not.
2007-07-06 04:50:00 · answer #8 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Buy them a present. She obviously couldn't afford to buy you one for your wedding, she couldn't even afford the ticket!! . Buy them a present and have a jolly good time at the wedding. Feel happy that even though she couldn't afford to buy, she did attend, in other words, she didn't blank you.
2007-07-06 04:58:36 · answer #9 · answered by Curious39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, buy a gift. Don't go so inexpensive that it's obvious you are trying to be petty. On the same note, don't by them something so super expensive that it reminds them that they may have been rude in not getting you a gift. This is her day, and you wouldn't have wanted someone to do that to you.
Get them something in the middle, or something sentimental. Be the better person and forgive and forget!
2007-07-06 04:55:06 · answer #10 · answered by LSU_Tiger23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋