what to pay for?

Question

im paying for the bridesmaid dresses, do i still have to pay for hair and make up and get my bridesmaids a present?

i wanted to pay for the dress because i was a bridesmaid once and i had to pay 300 bucks for a dress i have never worn again. i thought it was really ****** up and swore that at my wedding, that wouldnt be the case

Answer 1

You don't have to pay for anything. It is a lovely gesture though. Consideringyou are buying the dresses that is sufficient.

Gifts are done as a thank you for their support and time investment.

Answer 2

For every wedding I've been in the bridesmaids paid for their dress, hair, makeup, and shoes. Wedding etiquette says bridesmaids should pay for these things.
The bride's gift was usually the jewelry that the maids were going to wear (like pearl necklace and earrings).

If you choose to pay for there dresses, that is your choice. You do not have to do that. So you do not have to pay for the hair, make-up, etc. You do need to let them know what you expect them to do for their the rest of their attire, like if everyone needs the same do and shoes or if they can all be different but similar.

You can still get them a bridesmaid gift. That is your token of thanks for being by your side through the planning and on the day of your wedding.

Answer 3

The bridesmaids pay for their own wedding attire. This includes their dress, shoes, hair, make-up, jewelry, etc.

Any of those things that you choose to pay for is a gift from you. Usually the bride will give the bridesmaids the jewelry that they'll wear in the wedding.

You've already paid for their dresses, which is a big expense! Unless there is something more that you want to give them, I'd say the dresses are enough of a present.

Answer 4

I think that is incredibly generous of you to purchase their dresses. I've read in a bridal etiquette bk that its proper etiquette if you are requesting your maids to wear a specific dress that in some cases you or your folks will cover part/all the cost. It isn't a common practice, but I can see why you did it.

It all comes down to an issue of money. I think since you bought the dresses you are off the hook. However, a small gesture of a gift is a nice thought and doesn't have to be expensive.

My girls bought their own gowns. As a suprise I'm having their hair and makeup done and had necklaces and earrings custom made for each one. Generous yes, expected? Nope.

Answer 5

Heck no. You dont HAVE to pay for anything really - its a gesture so that you can tell them how much you appreciate them putting up with you during the planning of the wedding.... just kidding. I think they will be very grateful that they dont have to pay for the dress since they will probably not wear it again. Explain to them that you will be paying for the dresses as their gift. For my bridesmaids i got a cheap journal for each of them and inside i wrote something that was personal between the 2 of us and then glued a picture of the 2 of us on the inside cover. It was cheap and nice, you could do something like that if you felt that you needed to hand them something.

Answer 6

This is one of the most asked questions concerning weddings. My feelings...You have only ONE wedding. Pay for the dresses, make up and of course give a small gift to your attendants. It is an honor to be a bridesmaid or maid of HONOR. You do not present someone with an HONOR and expect them to buy their own trophy, do you? Give them a dress, makeup and gift. Yes, it is costly. So? What is money when you are talking honoring friends/family. MONEY DOESN'T MATTER. We all have money rated so highly in our society. spend it..you'll make more and you'll always need more..so what. focus on what is important in life...PEOPLE. why upset people over MONEY? Good luck with your wedding and my best to you all! God bless!

Answer 7

Since your buying the dress which is usually the bridesmaids responsibility, let them pay for hair and make-up. AS for gift, that is up to you, but I would.

Answer 8

no since you are buying their dresses that's like a present already. i think they should pay for their own hair too. When i was a bridesmaid i had to pay for all of that stuff.

Answer 9

As a former bridesmaid, I would be thrilled if the bride would have bought my dress. I wouldn't have expected a gift or the hair/makeup in addition.

Answer 10

I paid for my bridesmaid's hair and makeup on the day of the wedding. I also got them smaller presents at the rehearsal dinner BUT they paid for their dresses and shoes.

Answer 11

Usually, the bridesmaids pay for their own dresses...you pay for the hair and makeup session and provide a thank you gift and a place for them to stay and meals and transportation throughout the event.