My daughter is only 12 months old and seems pretty vicious. When one of her brothers has something she wants she attacks them. She hits, bites and pinches. Most of the time she's sweet, but other times a beast. They always give her what she wants, so they don't have to deal with it. This isn't teaching her anything, except hitting gets her what she wants. I tell her "no", but she doesn't get it. She just keeps trying to get at them. She's still a baby so I don't know what to do with her. Any advice would be appreciated.
2007-07-06 03:55:38 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
With the kids in daycare, we immediately march over and grab their hands--hold them together in front of them and say "OW! NO!' And remove them from the situation. It will take LOTS of this before it sinks in because their memories and attention spans haven't developed fully yet. Be consistent and she'll eventually learn that her aggressive behavior gets her nothing but a scolding.
2007-07-06 05:19:44 · answer #1 · answered by mrs.v 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree that it is an age thing. She is learning to deal with her frustration and since she can't verbally communicate she is making her emotions known through physical agression. My 14 month old does the same thing - she grabs at my face and pinches and hits. She only bit me once, thought it was more of a test than her biting me out of frustration. I yelled with surprise and said "STOP" instead of "NO" because children hear 'no' all the time, it means less (my opinon). When she grabs at my face, I take her hands in mine (to release her grip) and firmly tell her that it's not okay and then show her how to be gentle. We did this until she seemed to understand what gentle meant and now when she grabs, I say gentle and she releases her grip. I don't believe hitting or biting back will solve your problem at this age. Good luck!
2007-07-06 04:30:07 · answer #2 · answered by Cindy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I disagree with your son no longer information a timeout. My daughter have been given timeouts around that age and she or he knew what it exchange into all approximately. in fact you're giving him a timeout by putting him in his crib. next time you try this, purely call it a timeout and finally he will affiliate it with a punishment. i think of you're doing the excellent suited issues. Get right down to his eye point, say it very purely, "No hitting. you're getting a timeout." and placed him in his crib. He maximum possibly won't get out of the hitting/biting section for a jointly as. although, you may cut back it so as that he in basic terms does it while he's truly annoyed or offended. I even have been engaged on my daughter for a jointly as, yet while she's in a undesirable temper, she'll hit. it somewhat is purely their nature. She is acquainted with the outcomes, yet does it besides. carry on. Be consistent and finally you will see effects.
2016-10-01 00:35:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people are not going to like the answer i am going to give, but if she hits someone, spank her... its not going to hurt her that bad if you dont beat her... if she bites someone, bite her back, but not hard enough to do any serious damage... just enough to tell her that hey biting someone hurts... i bit someone when i was little and my mother bit me back... i never bit anyone agian... but use punishment... spanking a child will not hurt them... i was spanked as i was growing up... i am 19... i'm fine... no brain damage, never broken a bone... perfectly healthy... there is a difference between punishment and abuse... but make sure her brothers don't do it... just you, or the father... and you could do the same thing with the brothers as well if they act out...i dunno if you will actually listen to waht i'm saying, but i'm telling you, it works with most children...
2007-07-06 04:03:26 · answer #4 · answered by Storm G. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me know when you figure it out. My son is just as bad. And he hits, scratches and pulls my hair too!
I'm thinking about getting little handcuffs. What? They'll be fur-lined so he doesn't hurt himself!
can you really teach a baby not to hit by hitting him? I dont' know the answer.... I'm seriously asking.
2007-07-06 04:05:52 · answer #5 · answered by Katie C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
theres the problem they give her what she wants..so everytime she bites or hits them it ok cuz she will get what she wants and there is no punishment for her behavior. put her in time out in a corner or somewhere away from her toys and tell the boys to keep the toy she wants at that time and tell her no......teach her how to share.
2007-07-06 04:01:02 · answer #6 · answered by $martA$$.com 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to be consistant......Just tell her very firmly not to hit/bit/pinch etc.....I would slap my sons wrist when he did it (not hard...just a tap) and say no very firmly...of course he would still do it, but I would do the same thing every time and he slowly started to understand the he was not to do that....so really consistancy is the key to punishment!
2007-07-06 04:00:28 · answer #7 · answered by tll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is also about a year old, and we tell him to do nice. We showed him this by like saying do niceand like taking his hand and run it down your face. He is starting to get the concept. Good luck!
2007-07-06 04:01:38 · answer #8 · answered by michaellandonsmommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ooh thats a tuff one. persistance is always good, its really hard at that age i am going through that same thing with my son. i pretend that he ended my world i cry make sad faces etc and he stops but i realize he sometimes does it out of jealousy good luck
2007-07-06 04:00:46 · answer #9 · answered by jessie a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww at her age shes just learning to cope with her emotions. just say a firm no and distract her, distraction is the only thing at this age
2007-07-06 04:04:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋