Does it hurt the first time? I am 14, amd he is 17. What can I expect? Will it be very painful? I am not sure if I am going to though, sometimes he wants to have sex with me, but sometimes he tells me he wants to wait so he does not hurt me....
What does he want? What can you expet the first time you have sex?
2007-07-06 03:24:28 · 19 answers · asked by Klava♥ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My advice would be for you to wait. I understand the urge, that both of you must have. I remember being a young man of 17 once, and the urge is so strong. But, much like the answer I gave to a young lady yesterday, you must be prepared for the responsibility that comes with the act of sex. You must be prepared for the possibility that you become pregnant (contraceptives are not 100% effective), catch a sexually transmitted disease, or simply the emotional baggage that comes along with the first time.
It can be painful, and not just physically. Having sex is a major, major turning point in a young woman's life. You should understand the value of your virtue. Do not give it away without understanding that you can never get that experience, or that moment back. It should be special, and you will know when that moment is.
It is not in a car, or in a spot where you can have a 'quickie'!!
Be smart, and wait. I know if you were my daughter, that is the advice i would give.
2007-07-06 03:33:54 · answer #1 · answered by wlegend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really shouldn't do this. For one I don't think you are ready, this is a major decision. You don't want to make the mistake of giving something precious to someone who may or may not be there in the long run. Is he pressuring you to do this? That would be a good reason to say no and not see him anymore. Another thing, in some states I know here in Texas, 17yrs is adult as far as the law goes. If you have sex with this guy and someone finds out, your mom or whoever he can be charged, sent to jail, even have to be registered as a sex offender for the rest of his life. It's not worth it. I hope you make the right decision. There will plenty of time later for sex. WAIT.
2007-07-06 11:04:44 · answer #2 · answered by goodgirlabout2gobad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
14 and 17? You are waaaaay too young. Please stop and think about this or talk to an adult about it first. If you go and have sex at 14, you will definitely regret it. And you never know, your boyfriend could just be using you for it. Don't ever do something you are uncomfortable with just to make a boyfriend happy. I hope you make the right decision to WAIT. Good luck!
2007-07-06 10:29:19 · answer #3 · answered by SmileyFace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLZ don't do it.... You'll regret it every day for the rest of your life if you do. you're only -14- and he's 17! Do it with that person in life (later on in life) that you will marry. listen to the song S.E.X by Lala Brown;Lyfe Jennings.....then you'll know if it's right for you! I almost lost my virginity to an older guy but I listened to this song and it changed my mind everytime. and if people at school find out then you'll get a bad reputation even if you're not a slut. people will think a lot differently of you (in a bad way) and the guys would only like you b/c they would know that they could get some from you. JUST DON'T DO IT.....AND THINK BEFORE YOU LET IT GO...
2007-07-06 10:34:41 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Courtney♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Klava,
No hunie maybe ur tired of people telling you "He is to old for u!" & it's Okay ur getting to know him more.
But ask your self is he going to be it?? Your probobly even more tired of people telling you "U r waaayyy Pretty find some-one better" But you keep on telling your self NO!!! I LOVE HIM!!! & that he is your every-thing that with out him your nuthing & you would kick any slutty girls *** if they were to try take him! Hunie he is not am sorry but you 14years old Think about wat you are doing! In the long run you will NOT might WiLL find that special Man you have been waitting for & you will want to give him every-thing!Don't give it waayy for him he will be 18 and your going 2 be 15 he will move on and So will you think about it babe DON"T DO IT!!!
2007-07-06 10:43:41 · answer #5 · answered by ღ̣♥ E && A ♥ღ̣ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. They put a guy in Alabama in prison for having oral sex with his 15 yr girlfriend. He was 17. The idiots took a video. A Federal Judge recently reduced it to two years, but it was still hard time.
2007-07-06 10:27:53 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it may hurt and it may not..for every girl it's different and depends on how relaxed she is and how careful the guy is.i do have to warn you that after the whole thing is done you may regret it.
as you can see ur bf isn't quite sure himself if he wants to do it.
so a little advice from me is you guys can wait a while more...don't rush things...
you don't want ur first time to not be special and meaningful...do you?
wait a little more and just continue to get to know each other ...not intimately..and i assure you..when you do get to being intimate after you both are totally comfortable..it will be worth the wait.
so be careful and goodluck
2007-07-06 10:34:34 · answer #7 · answered by pixie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
14 is way toooo young. Your boyfriend should go to jail for even thinking it!
You probably wont cos most young people don't now days, but you should wait. It wont be worth it and chance are you'll regret it for the rest of your life.
If your boyfriend doesn't understand, then kick him to the curb!
2007-07-06 10:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by Danni 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I feel so sorry for you young girls today you don't have a clue. If he respects you enough to wait then you should . Having sex is a big step in life. You really should wait if at all possible until your a bit older.
2007-07-06 10:30:58 · answer #9 · answered by Tivas Tivas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
14 is too young. You will have plenty of time for stuff like that later, when you can handle the possible ramifications. Enjoy your youth, it goes by way too fast.
2007-07-06 10:30:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋