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I have been intimate with the same guy for the past 2 years but he will not call me his girlfriend. He doesn't date anyone else and is always with me and very sweet to me, but says that he "is not ready for a relationship". In his culture (Bermuda) they don't say "girlfriend and boyfriend" unless the couple is nearly engaged, but we are living in America. What do you think of this? Would it be wrong if I dated other men while I'm seeing him?

2007-07-06 03:17:47 · 5 answers · asked by Behappy 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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It would not be wrong, but it wouldn't be fair. You need to ask yourself: are you happy? If so, then what is in a name? Substance is more important than appearance. Respect his culture. How you feel and how he treats you is much more important than a "label". "A rose by any other name will smell as sweet." But if you are unhappy, keep looking.

2007-07-06 03:20:34 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0 1

I would first try to talk to him about the way you are feeling. Try to find something that he can connect with in order for you to show him how important this is for you. Otherwise, if you are aware of his culture and have been okay with it til now, yes it would be wrong of you to see other men. I understand that we are living in America but the beauty of living in America is the fact that so many come from all around the world without having to give up who we are and where we came from. If he doesn't want to change this about himself then you have to make the decision of whether you want to stick it out or not. Good luck

2007-07-06 10:31:25 · answer #2 · answered by Kitten 2 · 0 0

It would be wrong for you to date other people if you and he are in an exclusive relationship, regardless of what words you use. It sounds like you are contemplating cheating on him because you don't like the way his culture operates when it comes to using the words boyfriend and girlfriend.

2007-07-06 10:22:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Have you told him this? You should talk to him first... tell him that you feel that you need to have a TITLE... or you will go find someone else. Don't just go out and find somebody else without consulting him. I really don't know how they do it in his "culture"... if that's even true. You just really need to know where you two stand so you can move on with your life if you have to. You need to be on the same page here.

2007-07-06 10:20:49 · answer #4 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0 0

I am sorry you had to be subjected to such lies and bologna, This is America, and we believe in stigmas and titles. This sounds like he is using you. What makes you think that you are the only one? Girl open your eyes, if he doesnt have the desire or sense to be your man after two years, then he is clearly someone's elses.

2007-07-06 10:40:39 · answer #5 · answered by Jan the Beautiful 5 · 0 0

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