why do guys act this way. please help?

Question

I am just going to come out and say it. I will be 20 years old, October 8th, 07. And I am single. But latley I have been going on a few casual dates with guys and getting to know them. But its like everytime I go on a date with a guy or talk to one of my guy friends. All they seem to think is about is sex or "experimenting" And there is more to me then just sex. I mean I like to have fun, laugh, watch good movies, write peotry, hang out with my friends.

I am not into these little high school games. I want a real relationship, with a guy who is loving, caring, smart, kind, romantic, honest.

check out my myspace, and add me if you have myspace.
www.myspace.com/crysup

Darleen

Answer 1

Darleen ,
I am 24 and I truly understand what you mean. It is not the age of the man it is the maturity of the man. You only get what you give. But if you set your standards too low you will end up with the same old same old. The best I can tell you is when a man asks or insinuates he wants more then to fall in love before jumping jiggy stay firm tell them you are not that kind of woman and if that is all they want from you they can find that on any street corner you are a real lady with old fashion values and modern believes.
I wish you all the luck oh and one more thing try to prevent sleeping with every boy you meat other wise men will call you lose and you will struggle to get the respect you deserve. I have seen it happen to so many of my friends. I truly hope this helps and that I was not to forward or offensive at all.
Love me

Answer 2

Hi Darleen! Where are you meeting these guys? You're not 21 yet so (i assume) they're not a bunch of drunks you met in a bar, which can be a challenge for a twentysomething trying to find a real relationship. I think the best connections happen when you meet someone through a mutual friend, or join a league or something, or your church? or even get in touch with someone you haven't seen maybe since highschool but was always friendly with, you never know what could happen. I met my husband in 7th grade and we were always friends (sorta) but never dated. It wasn't until after highschool when i ran into him in the mall that he asked me out and now we have been married for almost 2 years. don't write off someone who you weren't attracted to, or didn't know that well in highschool because you have something in common with these people and one little thing in common can blossom into a wonderful relationship. As for the sex thing, when they start pushing for it, make them wait. you'll never regret making them wait. good luck sweetie and i'm sure you'll find love! have you thought of trying match.com or even just casually connecting with people in your area through myspace?
- danielle r

Answer 3

Darleen, I checked out your myspace and found you to be a most charming and lovely young lady who any man would be priveliged to have beside him.

I agree with you that you deserve much more than just s*x (that is not to say that it is not an important part of a relationship because it is---just not the only part). There seems to be true depth to your inner being plus when mingled with your work in assisting others in their struggle for survival. I am totally impressed with what i saw.

If you care to contact me, please do so.

I wish you the best
Bob

Answer 4

Darleen date guys older than you as girls mature faster than guys and you might be better off dating older guys and see if that works . sounds like you are dating immature guys and maybe see if the older ones are more your speed . good luck .

Answer 5

Its what drives us. You may want to try to date a slighter older guy than you (20-24). There are some nice guys out their who are looking for realtionships just be patient.