We were invited to a wedding of my husband's co worker's son. I have never met the co-worker and we have never met the son. We have no intention of attending the wedding. Do we have to send a gift?
2007-07-06 02:53:55 · 20 answers · asked by Kabu 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No, its not necessary. Just send back your RSVP card with the decline box checked and write a little note on the card wishing them well in their marriage and thanking them for the invitation.
2007-07-06 03:22:31 · answer #1 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Gifts are never, ever mandatory - so please don't feel like you're obligated.
I know it can be frustrating, too when invites come in and you don't even know the people -- and it seems like they're just fishing for gifts. May I ask if there's a reason you're planning on not attending? Is your husband not close with the co-worker, or are other co-workers not there, and you won't know anyone? It was a nice gesture for them to invite you, regardless...
Even if you decide not to go, I would say to send a small gift, or even a card with a small gift certificate in it, or even just a pretty picture frame, or a bottle of nice wine with two glasses. Don't feel you need to go overboard. It's a nice gesture to the couple, number one, and it's a nice show of support for your husband's co-worker, number two.
2007-07-06 11:40:13 · answer #2 · answered by sylvia 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, you do not, but you may want to do so anyway for office politics.
Normally you would send a gift if it was family or a friend, but you stated you never even met the co-worker.
2007-07-06 10:30:58 · answer #3 · answered by no_frills 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you don't want to send a gift, and I don't blame you. Otherwise, wedding invitations would be a shakedown instead of a special day all about love.
When I don't go to a wedding I don't send a gift unless I want to. Anyone who wants to can call me rude. I have suspected people invite me for my check more than my azz in the seat eating the chicken cordon bleu or fish.
2007-07-06 10:58:08 · answer #4 · answered by danashelchan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were invited to the wedding, it is only proper that you send a gift. It doesn't have to be an expensive one.
2007-07-08 22:40:12 · answer #5 · answered by L F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally you do not have to send anything, you do not know either. i would ask your husband if he is a close enough co-worker to send a gift. i would send a card, but the couple does not know you and will probably go 0_o who are these people?
2007-07-06 14:14:54 · answer #6 · answered by Christina V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not expected to send a gift if you are not attending the wedding.
2007-07-06 11:48:09 · answer #7 · answered by J3NN 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you would have to. I'm sure the couple wouldn't even notice that you didn't send one.
If you wanted to make sure that your husband's co-worker isn't insulted, you could check the couple's registry for an inexpensive item to send them. That way you are being thoughful, without breaking the bank for someone you don't know.
2007-07-06 09:59:52 · answer #8 · answered by Stacia T 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
yes. a $25 girt card to a local restaurant, supermarket, or home improvement store such as Lowels or Home Depot. They will have spent a lot of money on their wedding and a gift card is nice to help them get started on their new life.
Just think back to when you got married. Wouldn't a gift card have been useful?
2007-07-06 10:51:13 · answer #9 · answered by nykate_winslow 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since your husband sees this person often, I would send a small gift. No you are not obligated to. So rsvp, and check the registry on the wedding channel.com and if they are registered, you can select something inexpensive and youll be glad you did
2007-07-06 10:37:18 · answer #10 · answered by barthebear 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋