I didn't "cheat" because we were never officially boyfriend and girlfriend (because he didn't want to be, but I did). I was "dating " him and I did date other men. One time I was involved sexually with another man...no intercourse. He is devistated by this...After I was involved with the other man I broke it off with him (the current one), but he didn't want to let me go and now we are FINALLY bf/gf. BUT, he can't forget and move foward from my relationship with the other man. What can I do??? His sadness is killing me, I want us to be happy and move foward to build a stong relationship.
2007-07-06 02:13:09 · 12 answers · asked by Behappy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been with my current boyfriend for seven and a half years, for the first three of those we had an on off relationship because he didn't want to get serious with me/admit he cared for me, in part becasue I was a lot younger. I had been seeing him a year when he left me for another woman, he still saw me on the side, but she took priority. I took the view that he would get over it in the end, and I waited. When he came back to me I was so angry with him, I couldn't forgive him, the hurt was eating me up inside. I left him for another man, for several months. When that ended, he asked me to go back to him, this time as boyfriend/girlfriend. I have left him once since, for a brief fling that only lasted a few weeks. It took me years to get over what he did to me and it has been hard for him to get over my past, but we do love each other. He says he is old enough to have learnt that if you see a thread loose, you don't pull on it or the whole thing unravels. I forgave him because he hadn't made a commitment to me, so although it hurt I still believe I don't have the right to blame him for what he did. At that point we hadn't promised each other anything.
No, you didn't cheat, he needs to get over it and understand that you care for him and that the other man in the past should have no bearing on your current relationship. You can work through these things but it takes time. The further into the relationship you get and the more sense of security you have with each other the more that helps too. Try to make him understand how important he is to you and that it is him you want. You can move forward, but he has to be prepared to let go of the past.
2007-07-09 04:08:07 · answer #1 · answered by mayflower25 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I truthfully did. My female friend cheated on me and I went again to her considering the fact that she cried and instructed me how a lot she felt responsible and what kind of she adored me and the way she wanted she on no account did it. A couple months later I located via her nice pal that she cheated on me once more and I ended it then completely. A waste of five years alas.
2016-09-05 16:31:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly loves you, he can forgive you.
I know. I was cheated on by my wife. We ultimately wound up divorced, but that was her choice. Despite the fact that she had cheated and slept with another man, my love for her made me willing to forgive her and move forward and start over.
The point is this: Where does your heart lie now? If it lies with him, then he should be able to see it and move forward. If it doesn't, the relationship is doomed anyway.
Good luck.
2007-07-06 02:17:55 · answer #3 · answered by Scotty Doesnt Know 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was cheated on, and I forgave her. She eventually cheated again. I can understand why he'd be upset but its not fair for him to be too harsh about it because you two were not exclusively seeing each other at the time. You can just try to make him feel like he's important to you. Guys need that kind of feeling, no matter how tough they try to act.
2007-07-06 02:17:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say its good to find out saves a lot of time & money in the long run & you can get on with youre life i would be happy it coud happen latter then more of my summer times woul be gone i would let you go & thank the lord
2007-07-06 02:24:04 · answer #5 · answered by david p 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, my first husband cheated on me. And no I did not forgive him. I don't cheat either. No matter how bad the relation may get I don't cheat. I will end the relationship before I cheat.
2007-07-06 02:17:30 · answer #6 · answered by Nellie Angel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my ex cheated on me. but it was towards the end of the horrible relationship. so i didnt really care much. plus it got her crazy drug and alchool addicted A** out of my life, so it was a good thing. now the guy she cheated on me with, took her in and they live together, and hate each other LOL karma is wonderfull.
2007-07-06 02:18:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
show him he means more.. and I've been cheated on.. I forgave him but after he kept doing it and doing it.. i just gave up.. if he cant forget about it.. the end it hunn..
2007-07-06 02:16:40 · answer #8 · answered by Im just this typical girl. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL HE HAS TO MOVE ON BECAUSE AT THE MOMENT U WERE READY FOR A RELATiONSHiP AND HE DiDNT WANNA B iN A RELATiONSHiP SO JUST TELL HiM "LOOK,,U WERNT EADY AND i WAS SO....GET OVER iT"...
2007-07-06 02:29:02 · answer #9 · answered by babysuga817 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has to chose to forgive you and not mention it again or move on. The past is the past and he chose this - so he needs to get over it.
2007-07-06 02:15:43 · answer #10 · answered by aitkenpatty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋