People's wedding days?

Question

Why do apparently normal women turn into spoilt, controlling brats over their wedding?

A big price tag or wanting a perfect day(what is a perfect day anyway?) doesn't give anyone the right to demand everyone does as you say,despite your own life.And it doesn't exuse bad behaviour. No silly answers please, like 'I wasn't liket that',etc.

Answer 1

Yeah I'm sorry many people are that way. I'm italian and my husband was surprised to see the way I handled the organization of our wedding. First of all I hate people who say that it's supposed to be the best day of my life: if that was true, now that I'm married I should know nothing as good as that could happen? Isn't it sad? Don't these people realize that maybe when a child is born, or holidays and moments of joy spent together can be even happier than the wedding itself?
Besides that, I didn't go crazy over the dress ( I was ready to rent one but then I found one that was less expensive than renting it!), I didn't invite too many people, I didn't diet the months before, I didn't get a fancy make up or hairdo, I liked to be natural and I wanted my husband to recognize me when I entered the church! Lol
The only thing I wanted is to get married in my hometown, Rome, and my husband was more than happy to do that because I've had one of the best locations in the world!
That's it. Maybe girls here should be more like me, I hear a lot of comments on how the wedding day is their day...I always thought that it was my husband and I's day, and also of all the people who really care about us: our families.
Question of culture maybe..

Answer 2

Not all women are like that. However, just to guess, I would say that it has to do with our culture drilling into girls from the time they are wee that being a beautiful bride is the most important accomplishment a woman can anticipate in her life, and that she is not really a legitimate person until a man has made her one by marrying her.

Answer 3

Because they think this will be their one big day and they want everything to be perfect. It isn't a good excuse, but that's the way it is. Obviously there is never a good reason to turn into a spoiled brat.

Answer 4

I don't think you are giving proper consideration to the stress of the day. She has probably planned the thing for a long time and wants it to be perfect, not to mention she is about the pledge her life to another person with all her friends and family watching, and probably commenting. Cut her some slack.

Answer 5

I resemble that remark :o).

Many women in this country in particular have dreamed about their wedding day since they were little girls. When you have wanted something for this long, and have planned what you want it to be like for that long, you want everything to be exactly what you want. I have met very few men that care what goes on that day as long as they are married at the end of it. Since the wedding is their day, if one of them doesn't really care, shouldn't the one who does get everything they want and can afford? I loved planning my wedding, and the few aspects that my husband cared about, I let him have his way.

Answer 6

Yes and if it is not perfect having built up a maximum of ill will they blame everone else if things go wrong, forgetting that allt of the people she has annopyed were on her side and wish her and her husband well well

Answer 7

Because they think they're gonna look stunning but the groom is only ever thinking "fk I wished I'd picked the bridesmaid now".

Answer 8

It's their (presumably) one chance to be the centre of attention.

When I got married, my wife sorted the whole thing out. All I had to do was turn up on time & settle the bill.

Answer 9

Well, first of all have you seen the price tag that comes with it? Secondly, all they want is a perfect day.

Answer 10

Stress. Everything has to be right for "their" day. And if something is off by just a slight bit, it's thrown off.