Is it normal to talk about having kids with someone when you first meet them...then 2 years later decide you don't want them any more? Does it mean anything, or that we decided we are just too selfish and want our freedom?
2007-07-05 23:30:50 · 11 answers · asked by blue eyes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is nothing selfish about not wanting kids.
Deciding not to bring another life into this world, especially if you've determined you don't want to put forth the energy to raise that life, is the most un-selfish thing you could do.
And yes, it's normal, and there's nothing wrong with it. I'm childfree (which means no kids now or ever) and getting my tubes tied next year.
Not having kids doesn't limit your life. It merely presents you with different opportunities. There's no reason you must have kids if you don't want them.
2007-07-05 23:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There could be reasons besides selfishness and wanting to be free from responsibilities of raising children why you don't want to have them. Some people don't want kids because they are focused on careers. Some people don't like kids. Some people may feel like they don't want to bring a kid in the world where everyday they watch the news and see the world's problems in full digital clarity and 5.1 Dolby surround sound. There are also financial considerations when you decide to have children as well.
If you really in your heart don't want to have children, then don't have them. One needs to make sure that they are good and ready for parenthood before bringing a kid in the world. That doesn't make you a bad person. Having them and not giving them the full attention to raise them does make you a bad person.
2007-07-05 23:41:29 · answer #2 · answered by davester1970 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your downright selfish if you ask me. I know a couple like you two. Before they got married, they spoke of having kids. After they got married, they despised kids, never welcomed the kids in their house and became super anal about everything. This lead to the bragging of we don't have kids so we have this and that, we have this and we have that.
Try taking your Hawaiian vacation out for ice cream or to a ball game. Try taking you huge riding mower to a school holiday play. Celebrate Christmas morning with your huge TV and stereo system.
Best to keep your freedom and bragging rights because your selfish and greedy. Good parents you probably wouldn't be. You'd leave them home every weekend while you were out on the boat or in Vegas. You'd have them just for the sake of having them, only to consider them a burden on your lifesytle and blame them for your lack of free time. Spare them the suffering...don't have them.
2007-07-06 00:09:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Doesnt mean you are selfish. YOu just arent ready for that. Children arent like a puppy-when you get tired of it you can get rid of it. Its better you know what you want than to have a child and then dont want it once the new has wore off.
2007-07-05 23:37:17 · answer #4 · answered by firefly06 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your life is far from over yet, you may well decide you would like to have kids later, and thats completely normal, enjoy your time together first, then enjoy it with kids, because I could almost guarantee that later you will want them.
2007-07-05 23:34:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You may even change your mind two or three moe times before you completely decide. Yes,it is nomal. Wwhen you set your goals, sometimes children do not fit into the formula at that time.
2007-07-05 23:36:17 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably means that you realize how much kids change a relationship and you prefer to keep things as they are. Nothing wrong with that!
2007-07-05 23:35:59 · answer #7 · answered by 1M9 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no problem
its upto you to decide, when you need what.
just follow your comfort.
offcourse having kids is a beutiful thing, may be prepare your mind, without strain
2007-07-05 23:39:15 · answer #8 · answered by test 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all.you love each others company enough not to interrupt it with changing diapers.
2007-07-05 23:37:40 · answer #9 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
every body has there own opinon on things and that can change it is what ever you both want
2007-07-05 23:34:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋