My wife and I have been married for 2 years she is the best thing that ever happened to me. My first cousin who I only met like one time used to date her when she was in high school for like 6 months he was 23 but lied about his age. They had sex twice the second time he forced her to have sex. After that he would try to fight her when her saw her and even threatned her at gunpoint not to leave him. We are both saved and I couldn't ask for a better wife. Sometimes it bothers me that he had sex with my wife should it? Please only sincere answers!
2007-07-05 22:41:40 · 24 answers · asked by meke 79 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
everything seems perfect with your life and I hope it remains to be so, who do you bother yourself with something that has happened years ago and only twice and when you dont see that cousin again???? this will rotten your happiness for absolutely nothing...just keep it out of your head and enjoy your happiness
2007-07-05 23:01:10 · answer #1 · answered by Ginie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read your own words, she was in high school and he was a "pedophile", a maniac, a stalker,should I go on?
She suffered because she was young and made a bad choice.
Who among us has never made a bad choice?
Or never had sex before marriage?
Sounds like she met her guardian angle when she met you.
If your cousin is telling you bad things about your wife it is only because he wants to start trouble for you both.
Be a husband to your wife and stay by her side, support her do not let this evil man get between you and her.
keep your vows!
2007-07-05 23:16:23 · answer #2 · answered by BlackWidow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That was in the past, leave it there. Why create a problem when there is none. You and your wife are happy now, that is all that counts. How would you feel if she brought up women you had sex with in your past? It is just not fair. Your life together started when you made a commitment to each other. Anything before that is history.
2007-07-05 23:00:13 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Allow yourself to feel sorrow that she went through that horrible time. Allow yourself, for a short time, to feel anger, that your cousin did a bad thing, and might still be a bad person. But don't feel guilt. You didn't do those things, you didn't know that they were being done, and so you could not have stopped them. It is bad situation, but it sounds to me as if you are on a good path in your life. Don't let the past take that away, or spoil it for you now. By the way, how does your wife feel about it now? Is he still in your lives?
2007-07-13 21:48:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bit late now isn't it? Wake up if she is a good wife to you that's what matters. Who you both slept with in the past should be left in the past. If you want to mess with your own head and ruin your marriage keep thinking it. No serious wake up and make the most of your lives TODAY. If you want to feel bad about something feel bad about what your cousin did to this poor girl, but again it was before your time.
2007-07-05 22:53:06 · answer #5 · answered by deb m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She your wife and what counts is now. If you feel bad for anyone it's your wife she was raped and abused by your cousin. I don't know the whole history but this must hurt her or atleast bring back unwanted memories if he ever attends family events. But as a family ( husband and wife ) you can't focus on to much but you two and if you have children then they get your energy not him.
2007-07-13 17:04:37 · answer #6 · answered by My Three 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That Dude Was Crazy Don't Worry About It It Was Way Before U Got Wid Her Just Let It Side
2007-07-13 22:37:43 · answer #7 · answered by PirC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the time you marry your wife, you must forget the past. Acceptance and forgiveness is the great thing. What you must do is to create wonderful memories of your married life. You can not move on if you keep on reminiscing those unhealthy past thoughts of you.
2007-07-05 22:52:16 · answer #8 · answered by dorie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. He's not even really family too you like you said you've met him once. I think you have alot of info about her past but you already married her and it's too late to have second thought. You say she is the best thing that has happened to you so don't screw it up dwelling on the past.
2007-07-05 23:03:22 · answer #9 · answered by marie s 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A wise person once told me that my past made me what I am today, and it can't be undone.
Any man who can't get over what a woman did before he met her has a problem, and she's not it -- he is.
Your wife's past has made her the woman you fell in love with. You should let it go at that and move forward instead of dwelling in the past.
2007-07-13 19:23:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋