We've been together for a while now and we've gone through so many things. We usta talk all the time and tell each other everything. Now-a-days, we don't talk at all becuz he's too busy w/ sports, his friends, and boy cousins. We don't even communicate like that anymore, and when we do we argue becuz we don't talk, I have to fight just to get his attention when we talk, I cry scream, etc....I love him and he loves me, I'm giving my all to this guy and I don't feel like he's doin the same, I don't know what to do anymore, plz somebody help me!!!!
2007-07-05 19:26:04 · 16 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been through a lot with my ex too. We were together for over a year. He put me through a lot of mental abuse... like what you are going through. I put so much time and effort on my part... his side was just filled with fake promises. He decided to stop talking to me for a week or two, and then I found pictures of him all over another girl. I finally decided to end it right then. It's weird how it took him cheating on me to realize I don't deserve someone like him.
And when I ended it, I felt stronger... better... free-er. It's been 2 months, and I am so much happier. No more waiting for his calls, no more arguing, no more of his absolute bullsh!t.
Don't wait till he cheats on you to end this relationship. He isn't worth any more of your time.
God does not take something away from you without giving you something better.
2007-07-05 19:30:13 · answer #1 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP SUFFOCATING THE POOR MAN!!!! just let him do whatever, do your own thing (if you don't have a hobby or your own friends- get one!) and call him without demanding an account of his day and tell him how your day was. if you just ease off a bit and stop worrying why the relationship isn't how it used to be, you might actually get back to the way it was- cos the way you're going now with the screaming & crying- he's going to leave you. it's not attractive, all this clinging. maybe he's been trying to communicate how he feels but can't get it across because you're too busy complaining that you two don't talk anymore! worth a thought, yeah?
2007-07-06 02:32:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its you who is doing anything wrong. It sounds like your boyfriend is being immature. If I was in your situation I would probably dump him, you don't need that drama in you life.
But, If you really love him and he loves you, that may seem easier said than done. Maybe you should tell him that you would like some time apart, yes its a risk, but it may work. Hopefully he will realize what he has been missing once he has a chance to be alone and think about everything, he will come running back. But if he decides to stay apart, just remember that you're better off without him, and that his next girl is going to have to deal with his immature ways.
2007-07-06 02:31:50 · answer #3 · answered by Julia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it comes down to screaming and crying you definitely need to have a talk with one another to see if where you are headed is where you want to be. It doesnt sound like you are very happy...and sometimes people do just grow apart. Screaming and crying wont fix anything though, try to stay calm and just have a conversation...maybe he gets too frustrated if you react by crying. Go out and do things with your friends and give him a little space, see if he just needs a little breathing room...you would be surprised.
2007-07-06 02:32:06 · answer #4 · answered by BlueEyedBabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know exactly what you mean. maybe he just needs some space, or it could also be that he doesnt realize he's not giving u the time u deserve. either way, talk to him. let him know how you feel and ask him if he just needs a break or some space. it will all work out. its best to keep your communication clear, as you have pointed out. so just talk to him, and sort this issue out.
best of luck :)
2007-07-06 02:31:42 · answer #5 · answered by maya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALL RELATIONSHIPS GET LIKE THAT AT ONE POINT AFTER UR TOGETHER FOR A LONG TIME...BUT DONT WORRY..U SHOULD SET A DATE NIGHT..WHERE YA CAN GO OUT ATLEAST ONCE A WEEK 2 DINNER OR A MOVIE N THATS YALLS TIME 2 TALK N STUFF..THATS WHAT WE DO..B-CUZ SOMETIMES U JUST NEED A BREAK 4RM EVERYTHING...SPECIALLY IF THERES KIDS INVOLVED...WELL GOOD LUCK
2007-07-06 02:31:06 · answer #6 · answered by l love my babies!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sounds familiar with me
but gender is flipped
well get him alone and be together one day
ask him when theres a day he doesnt have to do all that sports and stuff
just tell him that you feel divided or begining to drift or something
just get him alone with you and talk
idk
well good luck
2007-07-06 02:31:21 · answer #7 · answered by Daron 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I which I could help you but I am in the same situation :< not much of communication.
2007-07-06 02:29:36 · answer #8 · answered by strawberryshortk86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to approach him calmly, not with bad intentions, and tell him how you feel. Tell him that you love him and you want him to love you. Tell him you are confused, and don't know what to do, but don't waste his time, and don't interrupt him. Let him talk too, you want him to open up to you.
2007-07-06 02:37:00 · answer #9 · answered by Smoothie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he just doesnt care, he wont give you the time of day but will for everyone else. I guess the honeymoon is over
2007-07-06 02:31:09 · answer #10 · answered by jen w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋