I like all these guys and they say they like me......we go out they try to get to third base.....i wont let them.......they get mad.....they break up with me! I havent been able to find a nice decent guy to be my bf thru HS. Can anyone give me any advice or help me in anyway? Possibly a mail order boyfriend catalog? Jus kidding PLEAS HELP ME!!
2007-07-05 19:23:54 · 13 answers · asked by nicolas~cage~luver 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well you are doing the right thing if alls they want is to get to home base then you dont want them any way the right guy will come along you will see it may be frustrating but stick to your guns
2007-07-05 19:28:56 · answer #1 · answered by rick k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a little old fashioned, but why not just play the field?
Let everyone know up front that third base is off-limits and you aren't that kind of girl. Most guys will back off if you make it clear that's not what you're all about. If a guy really likes you and isn't trying to get into your knickers he'll understand.
Understand that most guys do at least part of their thinking with a part of their bodies that is not part of their brain. Most with any amount of character will respect you if you say no. If they don't you don't need them.
I admire your character and resolve. Don't worry. The guys won't vanish off the face of the earth if you tell them to back off.
2007-07-06 02:58:56 · answer #2 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fortunately, there is a simple solution to your problem.
Get a gay guy to become your boyfriend. The issue of sex will never come up, and he certainly won't pressure you. He'll even go shopping with you.
If you date heterosexual guys, they will (sooner or later) want to have sex. That's a feature, not a flaw. =) If you don't want this, then you should only go out with guys as part of a large group, and resist any effort they make to get you alone. That's about the best you can do.
Good luck.
2007-07-06 02:34:24 · answer #3 · answered by Marc M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look girl there is allot of guys that are not ready to hit the third base yet personally I'm not even ready to hit the third base yet and i go to high school and about to be a senior so ya u will find a guy that u want
2007-07-06 02:32:30 · answer #4 · answered by lilmed4ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK...This might not be what you want to hear, but I am going to say it. TOO many teens focus TOO much on BF/ GF relationships. I think that they feel that they have to fit into the crowd. Well, there is that old saying, "If all your friends jumped off a bridge...." I won't go there. I will say that you need to focus on other things. You are young, in HS, and have a hopefully long future ahead of you. In addition to that, you need to (hard part) focus on Christ. If you center your life around Him and His word, you cannot go wrong. Draw close to God, and He will draw close to you. The relationship that God wants to have with you is so much more important than any relationship you can have with any man. God loves you.
2007-07-06 02:30:46 · answer #5 · answered by Dead 2 Self 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well if they get mad over something like that then they ain't worth it. So far in life all guys have ever done to me is break my heart, and now I'm starting to wander if it's worth it anymore.
2007-07-06 02:29:42 · answer #6 · answered by Andrea luvs u...maybe...lol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the ones you described are pathetic..really it's not you it's them..they are looking to get laid , you are looking for someone 2 build a relationship with , dont feel bad for knowing what you want..keep looking and you will find a nice guy..most people says they find it , when atleast not expecting it..maybe your looking to hard.. just dont give in to those horny dogs... tell them you wont be used..
2007-07-06 02:31:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just wait it out ima junior in hs and i've had my fair share of guys who are pricks but there's always a bettre one out there, and no i dont think there is a mail order one either
2007-07-06 02:32:24 · answer #8 · answered by Heartfelt_Tragedy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikessss!!! WTH? Hmmmmmm.... Did I read right? You said "they." Wow girl you should just pick one guy and not a bunch because that makes you a whore. Sorry to be too direct but that is the truth.
2007-07-06 02:38:49 · answer #9 · answered by Version_Best 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
be yourself, there'll be someone for you. those guys just want what they want and don't think about you. you'll find a guy who thinks about you as much as about themselves. and remember, guys aren't the only thing in hs. there's also friends!
2007-07-06 02:29:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋