We've been together for 4.5 years. Every now and then he had this outbursts of annoyance of being with me. Sometimes he wanted to have the total sigle life, and since he has a girlfriend, can't, therefor, frustrated. But did not dump me. Just treated me badly, which I endured thinking that all would pass and that he would eventually realize he really loves me. But as time passes, he complains more and more. Goes on and on about how he doesn't want to be tied down with me, still has more to do with his life, that he'll settle when he's done everything he wants to do. Has called me the 'hot potato', since we're both 25 and now he got 'stuck' with me. I know this is not working... but he recently got into an awful fight with his family. He says he feels dead inside. Things at his house are very bad. I want to help him, but since he doesn't quite love me, i don't know how. He suggested we rent together. But I don't feel the same anymore, all his bad comments have finally gotten to me.
2007-07-05 19:17:01 · 21 answers · asked by jade 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Time for this to end.
2007-07-05 19:35:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 25, too, and I have been in a very similar situation. I strongly suggest that you break up with him, even though it will probably be the hardest thing you have ever had to do. It may make him realize he does want to be with you after all and doesn't want to be single. Or it may give him time to be single and then settle down with you happily in a few years. Or it may give you a chance to find someone who will treasure you. You really do not want to be with someone who is telling you that he feels like he is "stuck" with you. You do not deserve that kind of emotional abuse. Staying with him right now will only lead to a more disastrous break-up later on or an extremely unhappy relationship.
2007-07-06 02:27:56 · answer #2 · answered by Emmy Jo (13 weeks with #2) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as though he may be using moving in together as just a way to get away and not deal with his family problem instead of actually living with you because he wants to. I would sit down and have a talk with him. Explain to him how you are feeling and where you want to go from here but also let him know that you are there for him if he needs to talk about whatever problems he is having (that is if you want to stay friends with him) Honesty is always the best.....staying in it for the wrong reasons will just make you unhappy!!
2007-07-06 02:28:27 · answer #3 · answered by BlueEyedBabe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously not ready for a commited relationship and the best thing for you to do is to let him go. If you don't feel the same there's no way that will come back. From his comments and threats he's hinting to you what he want but he doesn't want to hurt you that much or is to afraid of the change that will come. In the end both of your lives will improve if you both move on.
2007-07-06 02:25:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it's too late. He made you see that he doesnt want you anymore and the only reaosn hes aksing to rent with you now is because hes stuck in a hard place. When things are better, he will still resent the relationship and go back to telling you how much you tie him down. Leave him, you are young and will find someone who apreicates your comitment in a relationship, unlike this shmuck.
2007-07-06 02:26:01 · answer #5 · answered by bellabri287 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if he wants time apart where you don't see anyone else except you live your lives as singles do, until he gets things together, doing this might help the situation if he really is interested in being with you otherwise it will give him a quick way out. I really don't know what to tell you except that you should talk to him about it and see how he feels inside.
2007-07-06 02:21:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a break maybe your the best thing that happen to him and when he actually try to date someone he'll realized what he had with you and come back thanking you for being there and so on, however it might be the opposite and he find someone better but i know you can find someone better to treat you i don't think any girl need to go through what your going through now as far as getting in the middle with his family and him don't do anything because if something worst happen he'll blame you no matter what!!!
2007-07-06 02:21:12 · answer #7 · answered by thesource2007<<<my psn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has told you he doesn't want to be with you anymore, why would he want to live with you? I say get out of this situation now. One day you could be friends, but today isn't that day. Living together will only make the both of you suffer every single day!
2007-07-06 02:27:11 · answer #8 · answered by ChaoticKimmy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is not ready to make a commitment. And considering the way he has been treating you, you should probably move on and find a kind and loving man who will treat you right.
2007-07-06 02:24:08 · answer #9 · answered by Flying Dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even though he's down in the dumps right now, maybe you should go your separate ways...even if it is just "taking a break".....and don't feel bad about doing that. you have to think of your own sanity. besides, if the shoe were on the other foot, he'd probably do the same to you, right? you can be there for him and not necessarily be dating him.
2007-07-06 02:21:44 · answer #10 · answered by it's_love 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
these things he says to you are mental abuse do not allow him to treat you that way. Just because he wants to insult or isolate everyone around him doesn't mean you should go with him. I know it is a hard decision but you need to make looking out for yourself number one priority. Do what you think is best for you and no one else.
2007-07-06 02:24:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋