In my experience i have found that some of the most succesful relationships are based on lies and deciet... since thats where most of them end up anyways, it's a logical place to start"
2007-07-05 19:07:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thats on my bfs myspace title page. i dont think he knows ive seen it.
2007-07-05 19:17:41 · update #1
the only issue we had was that he lied about his age because he knew that i wouldnt date someone younger. we did resolve that but i did tell him that hes gonna have to work to gain my trust again. and he said he totally would wait and work through it with me. we've been together as bf/gf for 19 days now. weve known each other longer. hes 17.
2007-07-05 19:22:43 · update #2
I think that even though they may seem successful, lies and deceit will only harm relationships in the long run. Sure, a lie might stop a relationship from falling apart at first, but then someone will tell and it will all fall apart. If everyone is honest, sure, your guy might get mad, but he will forgive you since you were honest about it.
2007-07-05 19:12:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A relationship based on lies and deceit is an incomplete one. In a truly loving relationship, everything can be shared. While that is extrememly difficult, all relationships should attempt to achieve that level of trust. In that way, the two people can more closely connect with each other. Theoretically, this type of relationship could succeed if at least one of the people involved is able to silence his or her conscience and brazenly lie without guilt. Either that or if one of the people does not care about being deceived. This can never be called true success, though.
2007-07-05 19:38:42 · answer #2 · answered by La_ponderousman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only if you're a glutton for punishment, have woefully low self worth or are an idiot.
I know of not one really successful relationship that's based on anything else but trust and once that's gone....forget it. People are attracted emotionally, intellectually and sexually and trust is the glue that hold the whole thing together.
I guess it depends how you define success. Just staying together means nothing. Look at all the middle aged miserable people out there that have raised lousy kids by the examples they set. Success means that whenever you're apart, you want to be together, success is actually wanting to be around each other and growing together as you explore life.
2007-07-05 19:14:33 · answer #3 · answered by the_kidfrost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.. no. Don't do that to yourself. If you start something, anyway, with lies, it will always end badly. Even if it takes a very long time, somone, will end up hurt or angry. Take this from me. I've learned the hard way. And it's still something I think about and regret to this day. Do what you like. Just keep honesty to a maximum. Within reason, of course. There will always be a time where a situation comes along, and lies are noticed or found out. When that time comes, it can be very unpleasent.
2007-07-05 19:15:21 · answer #4 · answered by Bliss in Ignorance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you're incorrect. some successful relationships are based on lies and deciet. but most relationships that have lies turn out bad in the end. successful relationships are based on trust. even a small lie can hurt and crush your relationship with someone but the truth doesn't hurt.
2007-07-05 19:12:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow so cynical, already. But those could be words of wisdom.
Sometimes telling the truth as you see it, can hurt, where a lie, could make your partner, feel a whole lot better.
Men don't want to answer that dreaded question, "Honey, do I look fat, in this outfit?" When we all know the answer is "Yes you do, dear"
So men bite their tongue, and say "No dear. you look lovely in that'.
Sure it's not true, but she will feel good, and the hubby will survive.
It's all about give and take. If you want to hurt the one you love, tell the truth, if you want to spare them hurt, lie to them.
2007-07-05 19:15:21 · answer #6 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself, would you want the person you are dating lying about what it is you are lying about. I don't know where you got your experience, but lies and deceit do not make for a successful relation, and healthy relationships do not end up in lies
2007-07-05 19:18:33 · answer #7 · answered by traehshalo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hes 17 and you have been together for 19 days and your worried about him lying? Ummm yeah this is a stupid waste of time! Nineteen days is nothing! Jesus the dumb questions that are posted on here floor me! You should lose your question asking priviledges!
2007-07-05 19:50:55 · answer #8 · answered by G Money 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
they're successful till the end...thats when the truth comes out. makes it easy to start but will bite you in the butt later
2007-07-05 19:15:09 · answer #9 · answered by someone, someone else... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have got to be more clear on successful.
do you mean that they are going to last longer, that the feelings between the two people are stronger or that they are just plain funner, etc.
2007-07-05 19:13:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋