WHY! is it wrong to DISCIPLINE our children in today society?

Question

I read and hear how our children of today, is much worse than how most of us were raise years ago, they took discipline out the schools, now people wants to run everyones household, now you can not discipline your own children in your own home, without some telling their parent how they are going to report them to police or child protective agency and the police. these children is starting to think that they can run every thing, because of this law. some of these children need their butt spanked a few times or more, I see children who hit their parents,steal, threat,kill,and use profanity. to each it;s own I believe people should have the right to raise thier child the way they want to, just to bring respect and keep them submissive and humble. the bible says spear the rod and spoil the child, God is in favor for discipline. He that spears the rod hateth his son; but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes. everyone wonder why these children are dying and going crazy. no discipline

some say it takes a village to raise a child, they didn't say take discipline out the homes and out some of these childrens lives. I tired of seeing our children dying over a lack of knowledge and discipline in their life. but no every one wants to complain about it, and not do something to make it better. some of these kids need help. to make it through life challenges,and if they are not submissive at home they wont be on their own. and that is going to cause major problems in that childs life.
this is only my opion, now whats yours...

I DO NOT ABUSE MY CHILDREN!!!!
my children pick up wrong habbits by listening to other children who run they own home and parents, by using these laws as a CRUTCHES. and get away with a lot of things.

Answer 1

Yes, I agree. Another major problem related to discipline is that parents are no longer a teacher's ally. Instead, parents are so worried about their kids liking them, they prefer to side with their child than the teacher. Teachers nowadays have to put up with both the kids AND the rude parents!

I was spanked as a child, and I turned out OK. For me, spanking is a last resort for when my son is truly acting very bad. Usually, this means he yelled at me or yelled at church during mass. And even then, it is usually 1-2 quick swats and we're done.

I don't see anything wrong with it as long as it is done in love for the child and desire for the child tounderstand what is right and wrong. Time outs can only get you so far.

Answer 2

Hello,

Some people do and some people don't. In a general way, I found the " Great Generation "(1910-1970) maybe because of the Depression, WW I I etc, had better control and leadership skills over their children than many do today.

All in all though it is up to parents and at least in my country a good spanking is not illegal although there are those trying to make it so. Sadly if the parents won't rear the children properly and discipline them, society will be it a job loss later in life or a killing.

Regards,

Michael Kelly

Answer 3

It's not wrong to discipline a child, but when you start involving corporal punishment, it's really easy to cross that invisible line and start abusing your child. Most parents today don't have the self control not to cross the line.

When I was a child, I was occasionally spanked. Mostly, I remember the pain, the humiliation, and a sense of not knowing why. I don't think I learned anything, except to be afraid of my parents. My parents crossed the line every now and again (I remember a spanking because I drank my apple juice too fast, and a spanking because I accidentely spilled a glass of milk). This only taught me to cover up all mistakes to avoid a spanking. When I reached the age of reason (16) I realized that my parents no longer had control of me. Since they hadn't earned my respect, only my fear, I was a particularly obnoxious teenager...no fun for anyone.

Corporal punishment is best very minimally, if at all. Most of the time, you can find other ways of disciplining that are far more effective and less traumatizing. For me, the most effective punishment possible was taking away my books or my art supplies :)

Parents can raise their children the way they want to, as long as they aren't abusing them.

Discipline and corporal punishment are two different things.

Answer 4

I believe there is a need for more discipline. However, I don't thinking spanking a child will do it anymore. Maybe you can try a combination of disciplines.

I was spanked as a child. My stepfather would beat me bloody for leaving a crumb on the kitchen table after cleaning the entire kitchen, doing all the dishes, sweeping and moping the floor. He was a christian. He used to beat me because my stepsisters would come in and dirty the room right before he got home from his nightly drinking. He would blame me because I was incompetent.

I am very conflicted about spanking my children. I am still suffering the effects from my childhood. I have Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

Answer 5

I think Parents not being parents is what is wrong with children in society today. Parents do not get involved with the schools any more. They don't know where their kids are half the time. They are to worried about their kids liking them and being a friend and not worried enough about what type of parent they are being. They do not prepare their children for life out in the world.

Answer 6

It's simple really, Dr. Spock wrote books on how to raise children and discipline was a no-no. And this Doctor never had a children of his own. And second, we live in a time where we are loosing our rights to freedom, and everyone seems to be OK with that, And the funny thing is when these children ( teens ) end up in trouble with the law, society says why didn't the parents raise their kids better? Kinda STUPID? Ain't it!

Answer 7

I'm not sure that the lack of discipline is the only problem. When we have both parents working in order to make ends meet, who's going to do the disciplining?

Answer 8

Amen. I think these laws are in place to protect children from abusive parents, but I think that in the long run it's proven more of a barrier and opened the gateway to a more self-destructive society in our future. Discipline is incredibly necessary to properly raise a child, I believe.

Answer 9

Yes beat them up. If you have to hit somebody smaller and weaker than yourself you have already failed.
By the age of three children should be basically civilised by patience and attention plus giving a good example.
Children learn mainly by example, it's why they speak the same language as their parents, so if you scream and shout and use violence they will do the same.
The problem is the example they get set by the TV, absent parents, greed culture, glorification of aggresion.
The whole thing makes them unhappy, anxious and anti-social.
Until this is changed you will have problems.

Answer 10

It is not wrong to discipline children in today's society. Don't you watch SuperNanny (on television in the USA)? That's where I get my best stuff!

If someone is telling you they will call Child Protective Services or the police on you, it sounds like you are doing the discipline wrong.

Remember: Moderation in all things. (And watch SuperNanny!)

Or else try counseling to learn how to do it right.