Why is it that girls say they want a "prince charming" but settle for guys that treat them like garbage?

Question

i ask this because i'm tired of seeing female friends and family members who pick poorly when it comes to relationships

Answer 1

I speak from experience...


Every girl says they want a great guy to take care of them. WRONG! What we really want is a guy we can take care of and save. We want to help him and change him into the person we know he can be. We want to be treated like sh*t because, be honest girls, we kinda like the drama.

When you hid 25 to 30. That changes. Your taste in men changes and you start noticing the quite guy who seems sweet instead of the hot guy who's the center of attention. You grow up and realize that you want a partner, not a child.

Answer 2

Well I think I am pretty suited to answer this question having falling for both. The reason a good majority of the time cause of confidence the ones that have hidden agenda's aka treat women like crap are usually the one's that are very confident. And unfortunately the really good ones are to shy to approach or yet alone even ask you for my number. So unfortunately since the majority or the men out there that have confidence enough to ask a women out or her number are usually the arrogant or players.

Im assuming that you like a girl/women and she either does not know you exsist or picked the other guy. Well that is life just remember a women cannot say yes or no if she don't know how you feel. So if you truley care about her let her know how you feel. You have to remember the worse that can happen is she does not feel the same way, but hey at least you can tell yourself you tried and don't sit there for weeks, months even years wondering and crushing on that person.

Answer 3

While it's true girls like a "bad guy" but when a guy treats a woman like crap, all he's doing is preying on her low self esteem, and by him treating her that way, and then accepting them as a girlfriend, it gives the girl an "artificial" sense of acceptance. Don't be that guy. A woman may spend her time with those guys until she grow up and matures, and realizes that they need a guy that will open doors for them and treat them with respect. So do you want to be with a mature woman, or someone who doesn't value themselves as a person? Also tho, don't be a pushover. Be kind and respectful, but no woman wants to date a spineless dude. Stand your ground if you have to, and show 100% confidence 100% of the time, and you can get any girl. The key is confidence, not assholeness. :)

Answer 4

Ups..
With all my respects first and of course, i admit that i don't like to talk like this but, i "must" clarify ur doubts:
Toads have a fantastic and easy "ability" to disguise as "prince charming".
A princess learns how to smell and distinguish a "real" prince charming from a false one (that treat her like garbage) along the way, mostly after her heart's been broken like twice or 3 times (that is an average).
Anyways, remember the fairy tale says:
"Before kissing a prince, many toads have to be kissed first."
Honey we don't "settle" for bad guys, believe me ... sometimes some of them (women) are just confused, unmature, resignated, lack or law of self-steem ...I don't know.
We all women like to be treated like a princess, i swear we do.
Never hit, a rose once in a while, the sweet touch, the honesty, the tender hold, the patience, the unforgetable kiss, the romantic word ...we are made for that, and it doesn't even change through the years. Those things "feed" our hearts, light our lives ... always.
And if u know somebody close to u with those problems, talk to them. Let them know how beautiful and good life can be ok.

Answer 5

Well this is definetly a good question! Even though it is not my case I have seen so many of my friends do this over and over again is like we don't learn our lesson. Yet I also have guy friends that end up with a girl that treats them like garbage as well and are not really worth it. But believe it or not some of those that are in a relationship in which the partner treats the like "garbage" not always realize it. Sadly those that do realize it and stay with that person are simply ignoring it not because they enjoy being treated that way but because they give them "comfort" Yes we women are "crazy" like that sometimes and it is better that guys don't break their heads and try to understand us.

Answer 6

That's a damn lie... I do want a prince charming and I don't settle for guys that treat me like garbage. Like my ex was "prince charming" for 1 year and a half, and then after he treated me like garbage, I threw him away... Wutchoo gonna say now? =P Obviously the one you met are the one who don't want prince charming. And I have met jerks and "fake" prince charming, never met the real one... So it's not my fault and stop judging, because you are wrong and that's a fact.

Answer 7

This question has no real answer. Just like if someone were to ask "what's the point of life?". It's a mystery, man. I'll tell you my theories though. First of all, some women have no clue as to what they want. Ever see them shop? They think they know exactly what they want in a man, but they have no clue. Also, some women like what they can't have. Assholes have that 'x' factor that women think they can control. Women wont admit it, but part of the reason they are so turned on to these douches is cause they think they can 'fix' him and he'll be forever greatful to her and they'll live together forever. Not all girls are attracted to assholes though, just some.

Answer 8

They look for prince charming and think they see him. They are not looking deep enough but are attracted by looks usually, maybe wit and outward charm. Then, when they are really hooked they get abused. There is no prince charming, don't you know? But, yes, they need to look deeper to see what a guy really is before they jump in with both feet.

Answer 9

"Prince Charming" may be a person who is handsome physically charming and damn dashing in looks ,but what about his behavioral traits?
Same way ur female friends and family members may pick poorly in the sense they are average or below average with respect to the above prince charming attributes but again i pose the same question-what about his behavioral attitude?
So the "real person" comes out only when you start staying with him interacting with him and observing him.And only then this crucial outward attitude as you said *treat like garbage" comes out into open.
So no one will wantonly select a dumb or unworthy guy but inspite of best mate selection process it may turn out to be tragic one.

Answer 10

Well prince charming is usually also the knight in shining armor. Maybe they think if they're with a guy that treats them like garbage, guys like us (the good guys) wil see it and come to the rescue?

ierno man

But maybe you can let your opinion out to those girls you care about that are gettin hurt maybe it'll help them realize they need to pick better.