that i cheated on her numerous times with multiple partners. i mean she is great and all. she cooks and cleans and a big heart. i don't want to stomp on it. i think it's best to keep my mouth shut. you know the saying, "what she doesn't know, won't hurt her." what do you guys think?
2007-07-05 17:36:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dude, better to tell her before she finds out herself.
2007-07-06 18:00:30 · answer #1 · answered by BrOwN eYe GiRl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell YES tell her. Obviously i'm no guy, so I don't think like you all do, but as a HUMAN, I have a right to put in my opinion!
If she is really "great and all", then you need to do the right thing, for once, and tell her so that you don't keep it going and make it worse. If you care about her at all, I'd definatley tell her, so that she can make a decision and hopefully move on and find someone who will actually be faithful to her.
"What she doesn't know, won't hurt her" only goes so far. She may not "know" everything, but even if she has only a suspicion that something is going on, that will hurt her even worse. I say this from expeirence, my ex was always going out at weird times and leaving for work WAY too early, and hiding his calls and texts on his phone... that gave me suspicion which hurt MUCH worse than when I found out that he was actually cheating on me.
Please do whats right to your wife and tell her... she deserves it!
2007-07-06 00:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by Proud mommy of Logan! <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should tell her, b/c theres a saying that states... what you do in the dark may soon come to light.. i think that she would possibly respect you more for coming out and telling her...but if she's the crazy type, then maybe not a good idea!!LOL.. but yes...u should or give her a scenario..as if ur friend billy is cheating on his wife and does she think billy should tell her, and then go from her advice...and in the end let her know youre BILLY!!!! i guess? worth a try...but it helps to be honest... if u keep it hidden it will eventually began to eat u up..
2007-07-06 00:45:18 · answer #3 · answered by gorjess86 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is sad....
You mention how great she is but never that you love her...
sounds like you are in the marriage because it is convenient for you....
She probably is great to you because she loves you....
You sound selfish and self-centered....
If you want to change that about yourself and do right by your wife.......
Tell her how selfish you are..... that she does not deserve you....all of the things you have done that contradicted the commitment you pretended to have..... and tell her you will allow her to divorce you with no fight..... and do it!
Then maybe you can gain some sense of being a respectable man.......
OR..... just continue to lie and keep your life convenient for you!
2007-07-06 01:32:40 · answer #4 · answered by warriorandangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a lowlife!Whether or not she cooks and cleans,you would still cheat on her.How could you betray her like that?I bet you have so many diseases.Probably to many to count!You don't even care that you're exposing her to diseases,not to mention yourself.You ought to be castrated!If you cared anything about her heart,you wouldn't have done that crap in the first place.All you care about is you!Do her a favor,and leave!JERK!
2007-07-06 00:53:27 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Luck 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like all your wife is good for is cook and clean... why not just get a maid? Even if you don't tell her now, truth will eventually catch up with you and when it does... all hell will break loose.
2007-07-06 00:45:40 · answer #6 · answered by single_n_hopeful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
deff tell your wife!!! Marriage is major these days and too many people take it lightly. not to lecture b/c thats not at all what i am trying to do. try putting yourself in her shoes. what would you think?! If you truly loved her you couldn't have went and cheated on her. Love is forever, as is marriage... you should tell her, especially before she finds out from someone else.
2007-07-06 00:44:17 · answer #7 · answered by your_everyday_answer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude you in a bad spot. you need to tell her. but it is going to be very hard on her and i feel really bad for her, you shouldnt have cheated stupid. she sounds great, and if you want to fix it you better get her a $30,000 ring to make up for it.
2007-07-06 00:43:41 · answer #8 · answered by Merlin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! THATS SO LAME: HOW YOU DO KNOW THAT SHE HASNT FIGURED IT ALREADY AND WAITING TO GET YOU GOOD? IF IT WAS YOU IN HER SHOES: HOW WOULD YOU FEEL DOING EVERYTHING YOU ARE SUPPOSE AS A SPOUSE ONLY TO GET TREATED LIKE NOTHING. TOO LATE YOU HAVE CRUSHED HER HEART REGARDLESS IF SHE KNOWS OR NOT. I HOPE YOU KEEP AIDS TESTING IN THE FUTURE AND THOSE HOMEWRECKERS IN CHECK. PLEASE GET OVER YOURSELF QUICK! A GOOD WOMAN GOES BAD REAL FAST.
2007-07-06 00:49:33 · answer #9 · answered by roughdelicate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're a cad,among other things
2007-07-06 01:26:24 · answer #10 · answered by sugarpie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋