like either a girl falling for her bff's ex boy
or a boy falling for his bff's ex girl.
two of my ex's bffs are all like interested in me since i broke up with his friend..and soometimes im afraid of telling my bffs what a great guy my ex was lol..cuz i heard many cases of this happening..i decide to not go out with any of his friends cuz i do still love him..but my question is why this happens??
2007-07-05 17:31:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can't really answer WHY it happens, but I can say I totally know what you're saying. Both of my ex girlfriends were previous girlfriends of my friends (close ones too). Maybe it's because you share many ideals with your friends and you're attracted to similar people. Sometimes people just want to be on the same playing field as their friends, so they want to date the same people to achieve that (especially if they feel inferior to begin with). Also, maybe your friends hang out with your significant other while you're dating them so much that they develop a friend relationship at first and then after you break up they upgrade to a romantic relationship. One other possibility is that the availability of potential suitors is low in a given area, so a friend's ex is one of only a few people deemed relationship material. Lastly, maybe people see their friend's relationship and see that it's a good relationship and that the gf/bf is a good partner, so they swoop in later on to also experience the good relationship aspects of that partner. Hopefully people don't hurt their friends' feelings by going out with their ex's. There must be a grace period after a break-up, especially if it was a long relationship. Dating a friend's ex doesn't have to be as taboo as everyone makes it to be. If it was a very serious relationship, and if you're good friends, then maybe it's off-limits. However, if either one isn't true, then maybe, just maybe, it can work. Sometimes you just can't stop love.
Attraction is such an interesting topic. Good question.
2007-07-05 17:40:30 · answer #1 · answered by fil676 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-19 04:11:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are friends you share the same tastes, so the ex is your type already and then you find out this person is available. Also it was forbidden fruit before and now it is possible, makes this person even more attractive in that way.
Personally I'm not into that at all. I came out of a long term thing and the only available women I knew were my ex's friends and my friend's ex's. And the innocent phone calls started. But it seems icky and incestuous to me, can't go there, don't want to have the mental image of my new girlfriend getting hosed by my good buddy.
2007-07-05 17:37:59 · answer #3 · answered by ninebadthings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there may be alot of reasons why this happens...
maybe stuff like this:
-bff was really in love with ex
-bff might think that reason they broke up was because bff's bff like their ex
2007-07-05 17:35:59 · answer #4 · answered by neiner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't, it's just u. You should also know better that ur best friends or even ur regular friends' exs' are all off limits. How would u feel if that was done to u?
2007-07-05 17:34:40 · answer #5 · answered by Max 77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely they see how you are with you bf...and if the guy broke up with you, they notice how stupid he was for leaving a great girl..
2007-07-05 17:35:21 · answer #6 · answered by DominicanBeBe4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably because they always had alittle crush on you but when you went out with their best friend they got to know you more but didnt want to go for it until it was all broken off.
2007-07-05 17:35:06 · answer #7 · answered by Dont get Infected 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from my view , i dont beleive in regular freindship between a girl and a guy ... it will end in love , this is the human being nature
2007-07-05 17:34:31 · answer #8 · answered by roro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋