From the sound of this do people think I'm ugly?

Question

Friends have told me I'm pretty, but they could just be saying this right? I have had some women say to my friends that they think I'm pretty. So they're not telling me to my face. I've had guy friends tell me I'm pretty or have a pretty smile. Like one guy friend said to me one day that I was looking good. But there again he's a friend. People know I'm self conscious. Some people I know at work when they talk to me they won't look at me for very long. What does this mean, and then a couple girls I don't know very well one very pretty and the other ok. But can tell she thinks she's hot. When talking to them in the bathroom they stare at my face funny and quickly move on. But one of them did compliment my outfit one time. a couple of guys I've seen in the hall at work especially this one guy at first was decent said hello in the hall. But not when he sees me he either looks down straight ahead or turns the other way to avoid me and he's very good looking. Am I ugly what d

what might some of these scenarios mean that I've mentioned. Sometimes strangers like when I go for my allergy shot, and I talk to them they'll look at me at first but then wont. Do they sense that I don't like to be looked at or do they think I'm ugly so they don't want to be rude and stare at me? And sometimes I've noticed people I know will really stare at my eyes like my manager and others. I do have really long eyelashes but it makes me think my eyes are weird or something. I mean I know people look at you in the eyes when talking to you but this is different this is like they're studying my eyes.

Answer 1

Unfortunately, when you have poor self esteem - it doesn't matter HOW many people tell you that you look good...

All it takes is one look, one mean (and hate-filled) person, or just some smartassed loser to shatter EVERYTHING you have built up!

I'm sure you are FAR from ugly, but only YOU can convince yourself otherwise. It doesn't matter how you compare yourself to others - there will ALWAYS be someone better looking than you are, and a lot of people MUCH worse ;);)

Answer 2

No lol i had the same kinda problem
you care to much
your pretty oviously if people say it when your not there then your definetly pretty
i've been called pretty, gorgeous, beautiful and yet i feel ugly somtimes
somtimes i felt like they were lyin
and somtimes i felt discusted with myself.
Everyone has opinions about somone and there were 2 girls that mad me feel so ugly! I actually boelived them.
THEY WERE JELOUS THO LMAO
because the girls boyfriend asked the girl what my name was and after that she just said UUHH what her umm i unno and she started treating me bad because she saw i was happy and she wanted to ruin me,
I am also self conscious lol it sucks but its my nature.
You oviously intimidate them because your beautiful.
Pretty is another way of being beautiful.
To be beautiful you must be pretty and have a great personality.
since your self conscious that probably decreases your appearance
i mean i 've only been called beautiful by people who really got to now me and im sure they will call you that when they really get to know you
change yourself
get confident and start getting edgy
if she laughs at you look up at her and say do you have a ******* problem cuz if you do i can solve it for you and punch her 1 in the face(or wait and see what she says)
this is an immature post i know, but i'm trying so give me some credit. & sorry for bad spelling. By the way that
guy won't completetly look at you for a long time because he gets shy when he knows you notice he looks at you.
When i had a crush on this guy i stared at him when he wasn't looking and as soon as he looked it;s like my eyes had a mind of their own they just went straight to the floor
LOL chear up you GORGEOUS!

Answer 3

Your making the situation a lot more than it is. You dont sound like an ugly person at all. You need to gain confidence and stop trusting other peoples judgement to determine whether your pretty or not. That was something I had to learn to pull my confidence together.

P.S. Long eyes lashes are beautiful. So many people, even in Hollywood, wear fake eyelashes to make them long and you have them naturally so be happy with the beauty you have. Also a lot of people do not stare people in the eyes for so many reasons. Also staring at people for no reason is out of the social norm.

Answer 4

None of this means your ugly. When someone tells you pretty.. they wouldn't lie about it. Why would they randomly say it if it was a lie.. if they thought you were ugly they would have avoided the topic altogether.
And People can sense confidence, and if you don't have it..they can see that too. What you need to do is get some confidence. I can promise you that if you gain enough confidence(without getting cocky) you will see a major difference in not only yourself, but also others around you!!

Answer 5

Look sweetie, this is how it works. What you think of yourself on the inside is what people view you on the outside. So for instance: If you think your not pretty, people will think you are confused about yourself. If you are confident, you will be prettier on outside.

Go do this next chance you get: Go walk around the neighborhood and keep walking until you get the adrenaline pumping and then every morning when you wake up say to yourself, Thank you God that I have hair, face, yada yada and that I do not look like Amelia Bedilia. There is someone out there that is uglier than you is my point. Remember that ugly person and thank God that God gave you a much more beautiful face than her. Don't compare yourself to other people, you are unique and one of a kind and there is noone in the world like you. SO - Be yourself and Be proud of who you are. You are Unique girl!

Answer 6

Don't worry about what people think or say so much just know who you are. If it takes you looking in the mirror everyday and saying I'm beautiful and I love my self then just do it. Once you realize that you are beautiful it doesn't matter what people think or what people say.Who are they to call someone ugly? They are not anybody important.You are made after Gods image and after his likeness if they got a problem with how God created you then they need to go to God.Well I hope I encouraged you.

Answer 7

Why do you care? I know this sounds cheesy, but what you need is not a makeover, but some self-help. When I was younger I didn't carry myself well. I hated my skin, my hair, my clothes...all of it. But I grew up. I realized that if I didn't like the way I looked and if I wasn't happy with me (goofy hair, bad skin and all) then I was doomed. I'm much better off now that I walk around with my head up and don't worry what people say or think.

Answer 8

Your looking too much into peoples actions and facial expressions. It only matters what you think of yourself. If you want strangers opinions who will tell you the truth, post a pic here on yahoo answers and ask what they think. Otherwise, just chill and be happy with the way God made you.

Answer 9

Yeah, that definitely doesn't sound good. Of course your friends will tell you what you want to hear. People won't look at you for long...ouch. Maybe you have some very obvious deformity or a lot of acne or something very strange going on with your face? Or if you don't, it just sucks either way. Hopefully it doesn't bother you too much.

Answer 10

ok, here is the scoop. People react to your perception of yourself. When you have confidence it shows, also when you don't, it shows. In your question you never said how YOU feel, just what you think others are thinking. Forget what you think they might think. Wear what makes you feel good, fix your hair like you like it. The one person you need to make happy is you! When you are beautiful to yourself, you become beautiful to others!