My boyfriend cums too early!?

Question

Here are the details in sections. There wouldn't be enough space on here for me to write it in the form of a story.
1. My boyfriend comes after 4-5 minutes during oral and vaginal sex.
2. My boyfriend hasn't had sex in about 5 months.
3. My boyfriend doesn't masterbate because he says it's boring and that that is what a girl is for.
4. We have only been sexually active for 2 weeks now.
5. He's 29 years old so he has experience sexually
6. He is barely average probably 4 1/2 inches, and not very thick either.
7. I tried giving him a slow hand job and he ended up coming after 5 minutes too.
8. He said last night, "It usually doesn't take much the first time."
9. This morning at work he sends me a text," I must have worn u out last night." As I read that I started thinking about his"problem" and now it really bothers me.

Is this going to continue like this? Should I tell him to start masterbating so he takes longer to come? I'll go crazy if he keeps this up?! Any advise?

p.s. he gets to come 3 times when we do hook up. We hook up 5 nights a week. I have never came before through sex, I just want it to last longer.

Whether it's oral or sex in a single night he comes everythime with in 5 minutes.

Also he doesn't drink. so I can't have drunk sex with him.

Answer 1

1. He needs to please you orally first. If you have been pleasured, then it does not matter how long (or short) of time it takes him to go.

2. How is #1 possible if this true?

3. I'm not sure I believe him... It's possible, but not probable.

4. Well, this might explain #2.

5. Um, just because he is 29, does NOT mean he is experienced sexually. Besides, every lover is different and people have to communicate with each other to find out how to please each other, regardless of how experienced one may be.

6. Average is 5 1/2 to 6 1/2 inches.

7. Sounds like he has conditioned himself to go at about the same time every time. What helps some guys hold it is if they think about something else, like baseball or anything unexciting. Also, when some guys get close, they stop for a minute or two, to "cool" down.

8. It obviously does not take much the second or third time, either. Seriously, has he ever pleased you? Shouldn't this work both ways?

9. The text was over the top. I can understand confidence, but that's borderline arrogance.

If you do not talk to him about this, it will continue. Communication (or lack thereof) is the number one reason that relationships fail. YOU HAVE TO BE HAPPY TOO. It is very noble of you to want him to be happy and pleased, but then who is going to make you happy and please you? It is a two way street and he's hogging the road.

Answer 2

Keep riding him. The more you do it, the better he should get. He's fortunate to have someone who wants his 4 1/2. That's just too small for me but anyways, keep doing him in all ways. Eventually he should last longer. Try Viagra! Try giving him a ********. Heck just work him over! Variety is the spice of life and he cums...well shoot make him come again and again!!! Girl wear him out!!! He should get better. Don't be afraid to use some toys! That's always fun :-)

Answer 3

THere are a few proven techniques to overcome this problem. Number one: advise him to shower his privates under cold shower for a few minutes everytime he finishes regular shower, better twice a day. Number two: advise him not to wear underwear under jeans and whenever possible. Number three: advise him to slowly stroke himself while driving or when alone, not masturbating, but stroking thru the pants gently for extended periods of time. THere is a fourth technique, but it has to be either demonstrated personally or excersised with great care, it involves putting your hand right above his ballsvery firmly and pulling them down with a striong move just before he is ready to come, this is an old chinese technique

Answer 4

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Answer 5

if it is really bothering you... than yeah talk to him about it.

Now if he only cums once a night. And doesn't satisfy you. Than it sounds kind of selfish.

If he satisfies you. And that is his only problem... talk to him about it and maybe get some books etc on sustaining an erection.

Answer 6

Come and see yer wicked uncle Ego who's legendary prowess in all departments sexual has made lucky women miss days, weeks and even seasons; or get married as suggested above, that tends to take the fun out of it. Good luck

Answer 7

tell him about you having an issue with this. also sometimes it helps if the guy says the alphabet backwards in his head when he feels like he's going to ***. that way he's distracted a little.

Answer 8

If you are left feeling unsatisfied he can try other methods to please you before he finishes himself, like orally.
Also: the fact that he finishes quickly the first time doesn't mean that he can't go for a second or third round; or is he a one-round man?
I think masturbation is for those who don't have girlfriends, but that's my personal opinion.

Answer 9

"2. My boyfriend hasn't had sex in about 5 months." This is probably the reason. Men get sexually excited much easier when they haven't had stimulation in a long time. The more frequent he gets stimulation, the more resistance he will build up.

Answer 10

its usually the first time well then let him rest for about 30 minutes and do it again beleive me it will last alot longer and no it wont always be this way my husband was like that and i know its frustrating but as they get older they last alot longer and you will be wishing he didnt he doesnt need to masterbate he just needs to go for round 2 and you will be happy and satisfied i hope i helped you a little