Ok so I'm going out for coffee in the morning with this guy that I text alot but we don't really actually talk on the phone alot, and I have never hung out with him alone before. He tried for dinner and then lunch, but I was nervous and afraid things would get awquard, so I agreed to coffee instead, but I am still nervous. What in the hell will we talk about? I am takeing my own car and meeting him there. If I get there first should I go ahead and order my own stuff. I don't want him to have to pay for my stuff. I like to be independent. What are some good topics to talk about. What is a good way to split fast if things start to get awquard. PLEASE HELP ME!!! I NEED ADVICE!!!
2007-07-05 17:05:56 · 6 answers · asked by princess 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well from what you have said it sounds like you already know him on some level so i would start there.
relax. coffee dates are the most informal dating experience ever. if you get there first buy your own coffee. if he wants to buy you another, let him. no matter how independent you are, there is nothing wrong with him buying you a coffee or a bottle of water. i mean it is just a beverage. and depending on how long you two end up hanging out together you could buy the third round - it's just coffee.
as far as topics go, ask the type of questions to which you are really interested to know the answers. and then you should be able follow up with another question or two. the more you keep him talking the less nervous you may feel i believe.
***and remember he may be a little nervous too***
as far as the fast get-away - simply stand up and say " i am glad we had a chance to talk one on one", then exit. there is no need in p ussy-footing around if you are feeling uncomfortable.
2007-07-05 17:28:54 · answer #1 · answered by miss lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was confronted by this same predicament a couple of months ago..........I just tried to relax and chose the topics that i felt most comfortable with,,,,kids,job,hobbies............it will be awkward at first...first dates always are...good choice meeting this person there...........it allows BOTH parties the comfort of knowing that departure is NOT dependent on another person..........Honesty is ALWAYS the best policy........if it gets too uncomfortable .politely inform this person ,and excuse yourself.........whatever caused you to text and continue to talking on phone would be a great starting point for conversation............keep it light and DON'T be intimidated into doing something that you don't think is right ...by all means be yourself
by the way ,my first date and I have been seeing one another for two months and it still gets kinda awkward ...so give it time...RELAX
2007-07-05 17:14:15 · answer #2 · answered by grudgemaster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm...
if you get to the coffe place first ... you should wait for him , then buy your own stuff?
you could start a topic off something like this:
how's your summer?
then after that you people would probably go off with other topics that just came up while talking about summer
2007-07-05 17:10:42 · answer #3 · answered by neiner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself and babble if you need to --- talk about anything let him lead the conversation to start and see what happens --- and if you dont feel comfortable say you have a meeting and leave ---- and leave plenty of time free just in case you hit it off and want to have a meal together ---- best wishes
2007-07-05 17:10:21 · answer #4 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him what he likes to do, talk about your family, what you do for a living. etc, movies you saw
2007-07-05 17:09:00 · answer #5 · answered by florida 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
favorite things..
2007-07-05 17:10:18 · answer #6 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋