Im really just venting here but i could use some good advice?

Question

ok heres the deal my bro, his GF and their baby live with me. The GF is really getting on my nerves she always makes these snide little comments and downplays my parenting skills. I admittedly let my 6 yr old son play video games(quite often) but she always says "my son wont even know what video games are hes gonna be active and play outside" when i comeback with "well he takes Karate so he stays pretty active and we live in SE Tex so I am not gonna force him outside in this heat" she gets all huffy puffy with me. Then if he misbehaves shes always like " if that was my kid id tear his butt up" and gets mad when i say"well hes not so dont worry bout it" On the other hand if I offer any small amount of advice on the baby she really gets mad for example he just turned 3 months old and she is already feeding him all of the infant cereals and has started feeding him 3 or 4 different foods at a time. I told her she should start with rice cereal and wait 2 or 3 days before trying a new food

incase he has a bad reaction to a certain food. She of course mimmicks me"Well hes not your kid so worry bout it" (but its my bros kid so i do worry) so am i being over sensitive or is she unreasonable and what can i do?

incase he has a bad reaction to a certain food. She of course mimmicks me"Well hes not your kid so worry dont bout it" (but its my bros kid so i do worry) so am i being over sensitive or is she unreasonable and what can i do?

i didnt mean to add that twice sorry

my bro does see it and it is actually causing some problems between them when he says something to her like" i wish youd back off my lil sis shes an excellent mom she knows what she is doing" she gets mad ans says "oh so she can give advice on my son but i cant on hers?" then my bro says "well she is giving good advice over something she knows about out of concern for Her flesh and blood youre just running your mouth to piss her off" then they just escalate from there

Answer 1

i think you shou stnd your ground. It is your house and she needs to respect it or get out. Big score for bro way to stand up for you. next time she says anything just say hey I have been a mom alot longer than you and our parenting skills might be different but this is my opinion about my nephew's well being. And have a talk with your bro. Tell him you love them being their but if she doesn't start slacking up some, that she will have to leave. I am not saying kicking your brother out or anything but if she lves him she won't act like that for long.

Answer 2

First off, the saying of "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it all" has to come into play. She doesn't need to comment your parenting skills, especially if her child is only 3ms old and she's living in YOU! She has yet to handle a child your son's age. What do her comments do except make you angry/upset? They're pointless, it's time to grow up. If she makes a comment to you, I think the best thing to say is "Ok." I do it with my mother-in-law all the time. She's very pushy and makes comments all the time. Saying "Ok" or just simply ignoring her makes her realize that the comment really doesn't have an effect and she moves on to something else.
Secondly, instead of just giving her advice, I'd ask if she'd like to hear it first. Say "Do you mind if I give you a little advice about giving the baby..." Try and stay away from using the phrase "I've had a kid before" or "I've done this". If she says no, then I'd let her go and speak to your brother about it later on and suggest they talk to a doctor about it .
It seems like the two of you are on your last nerves with each other. If you really cant work this out, it's probably best just to not not talk to each other. She'll learn or maybe they should find their own place.
Best wishes =]

Answer 3

A 5-letter word that starts with a B comes to mind.

I'm amazed that she has the cojones to speak to you that way when living under your roof. But beyond that, I think she has as much right to speak her mind about your methods as you do hers - assuming it were all done in a pleasant and well-meaning way. That clearly is not the case.

I agree with you regarding baby feeding - she didn't react to it well, so I'd probably address it with the bro to see if he understands why one should wait, and feed them one kind of food at a time, etc... Unfortunately though it's still their decision on what they feed the baby. All you can do is try.

I'm impressed at your patience - I'd have thrown her out already. Perhaps a "family meeting" is in order. You surely don't deserve to be spoken to in such a manner, and should not let it go on in front of the children. If she dislikes you that much, perhaps they should move out on their own, and get started on supporting that active, video-game-ignorant, superactive child of theirs.

Answer 4

I think you should say to her exactly what she says to you - "It not your kid so don't worry about it". It is so funny how some people think they are the experts on other people's kids especially when they haven't even had kids that age before. I used to say that I would breastfeed all my kids for 1 year and not use disposable diapers. But then when I became a Mum doing those things was impossible. I know it's hard but you have to have confidence in yourself and your decisions as a mother and try to ignore her comments.

Answer 5

It is none of her business but then again it is just as much none of your business. you both really need to sit down and talk to each other about this because you sound really unhappy (and i bet she is) and you shoudnt have to live with that everyday. just have it out with her and get it all off you chest that way there isnt so much tention around the place, so dont keep living like this sort it out.

and another thing i would let my child on the games but not very much cause i believe they arent good for children at all. your best bet would be to get some educational games that are fun aswell

Answer 6

your the better mother obviusly.. she just haqs no clue yet.. LET HER RASIE HER KID the way she wants, and raise yours, continue with the "help" u have been trying to give. In the end of the line shell see your right.. also consult with your bro. Im pretty sure he wont like how shes treating his own sis and her son. After all. IT IS HIS NEPHEW!

Answer 7

If it's your house, then give them a time limit and that's when they have to move. It sounds like your brother's gf is not very educated on the topic of parenting, and she also sounds very catty and immature. You and your family have a right to live without the stress of a whiny brat (referring to your bro's gf)invading your home. I understand that you care about your brother and nephew, but her living with you and stressing you and your family out is not going to change her, so best to have them move out for the sake of your sanity and your relationship with your brother. Good luck!

Answer 8

Next time she says "my son wont even know what video games are hes gonna be active and play outside". Tell her, NO he will play at his friend's House with HIS video games and he will think you are a moron for living with your BF's sister cause you can't afford your own place!

Answer 9

Perhaps its time for your brother and his GF and their baby to find a place of their own. It's obvious you don't see eye to eye on parenting skills. Just like politics, maybe all 4 of you (huband, brother GF and you) have a sit down and come to an understanding that voicing opinions on parenting are taboo.

Answer 10

i think that selfish little bi..h!
you allowed her into your house,how ungrateful to be picking at you.Act like her mother(seems like she needs it )and tell her if she doesn't like living with you pack her bags.