my daughter is getting married in the fall. this is my oldest child and the first of my children to get married.
the dress code is semi formal. the problem is with my bf..he's kind of an "old fart" in his ways. he owns one suit jacket that is not BAD looking, it's a cream color and on "special occasions" he will wear it with a pair of khaki pants. i know he's had this jacket for over 20 years because i've seen pictures of him wearing it when his (now 21 yr old) son was born! i'm holding off asking him about getting a suit for the wedding cause i'm afraid he'll want to wear that same get up!
it's not about money..he has money which he spends freely..
he just has absolutely no fashion sense and doesn't care about such things.
besides..i'm more than willing to pay for a suit.
any ideas on how do i approach this?
i'm kind of thinking that if he doesn't get a suit, i'd rather not have him come to the wedding.
2007-07-05 15:53:35 · 13 answers · asked by shyanne 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
if he is going to be in the pictures, i would have him wear a new suit.
and if it's 20 years old, it is time to break out a new suit ( but yay for him still being able to fit in it :) ). if he is in his 40's, that is not old fart :p that is him being lazy. go with him and get him something stylish.
2007-07-05 15:59:12 · answer #1 · answered by Christina V 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
have you or anyone else actually broached the subject of the suit or does he think its fine because no one has said anything ever?? lets face it, that suit will be so out of fashion that it will be back in again!! anyways, the problems itself? i dont think there is one. doesnt EVERYONE use a wedding as a good excuse to go shopping?? if i were you i would just forge ahead as if its a given that he gets a new outfit. i know if it were us going to a wedding (ANY wedding, but especially one of our children) there would be several shopping trips planned for my out fit and the same for him. it would be purely for the person whos outfit you are looking for. besides, every guy should have at least one good suit in the wardrobe for times of necessity, this is the perfect excuse. Since money is not a factor here, i would just act as if its the norm-that it really is and should be. i hope it doesnt come down to him not being there, cream is not good on a guy, especially for a wedding, if you have to, tell him he'll look like an usher and he needs something more appropriate, but i dont think it'll come to that. Good luck
2007-07-05 21:26:48 · answer #2 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not in the wedding party, so you really don't have any say as to what he wears.
If you are trying to be a tactful girlfriend, on the other hand, why not suggest that you go shopping with him for a new suit? Throw in some compliments on how hot he'd look in Armani (or whatever). If he balks, gently explain that the wedding is semi-formal, his 20 year old sports jacket has seen better days, you've got a new dress for the occasion, and you'd like to show him off at the wedding, too.
Basically, there's a whole sub-species of men who absolutely HATE anything to do with shopping. They know they aren't good at it, and they avoid it like the plague. Sounds like your boyfriend may be one of them. He needs some confidence :-)
Now, let's work on that attitude of yours that says, "I care more about how you look than your feelings, so if you can't get a new suit, don't bother coming." (tut, tut, tut)
2007-07-05 17:10:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could buy him a new one.
What is the problem with his current suit? Is it really that bad that you would not want him to be at the wedding?!?!?
Just because its old does not mean it is bad.
Buy him a new one if you have such a problem with it.
I agree with the others, that is very rude thinking if you don't want him to come just because he likes wearing that suit. What a g/f!
2007-07-06 03:18:14 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him shopping tell him you need a few things...when you are out take him to a place that sells mens suits...walk by them and say hon I think that would look great on you...you would be the belle of the ball at the wedding in that...see if he would maybe try on a few just for you..he might bite.
2007-07-05 16:09:19 · answer #5 · answered by mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eww what kind of relationship do you have with your boyfriend? Poor guy.
Why don't you tell him that you are going shopping together so that he can have something to wear that compliments what you are wearing and then get the old coot a new suit. If he won't get one you can either have him wear his "get up" or you can dis invite him.
2007-07-05 16:57:48 · answer #6 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him, let's get new clothes for the wedding. I want you to match me. It is a big day for our family (or your family...however you want to word it).
You must not care too much about the guy to rather him not come if he doesn't get a suit. That is kinda rude.
2007-07-05 16:30:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He could save some money and rent a suit.
Anywhere you can rent a tux you can rent a suit.,shirt,the works.
However,it would be very nice if he would buy a new one for himself.
If he has a b'day coming up you could use that as an excuse to buy him one too.
2007-07-05 17:00:18 · answer #8 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just grab him and tell him the two of you are going suit shopping.
However, your last sentence is very troubling... just how much of a bf is he anyway? Maybe it isn't appropriate that he goes at all.... and it has nothing to do with the suit...
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