My stepdaughter calls me (at times) by my first name, is this wrong and if so, what should she call me?

Answer 1

i think most kids do that. my husband has always called his stepfather Rob and he was 7 when they were married.

if it bothers you, i think it is up to you to come up with a name you rather be called.

Answer 2

You have to understand that you are only her step-mother and you can not ask her to call you anything else until she feels ready that she wants to call you something else. She has a mom and only one and for you to ask her to call you mom would not be right for you to ask. I'm sure she understands the situation and that her dad is not with her mom anymore, but she is being raised not only by you but her mom also and you can not take that away from her. So accept that the situation is tough for her and she will never get over that her parents are not together and that as long as she respect you and you make sure she does allow her to call you by your first name any other name might be worse and the name mom will never come out her mouth.

Answer 3

There is no right or wrong with this situation. Maybe you should talk to your spouse. It really is a family issue. It's never fair to expect children to just jump into "mommy" or "daddy" with a stepparent. There is nothing wrong with talking about a way to address you that works for everyone. A family meeting to get it out of the way is a good idea. I hope this is a matter you all can resolve easily.
Good Luck and God Bless,

Blaze

Answer 4

I have been a step mother for 21 years! I have two wonderful daughters (yes technically step but we do not defrinciate) I have been there since one was 2 and the other was 1.....
I always called myself my name to them but one called me by my name the other called me mommy so we made an agreement as not to disrepect there biological mother she called her mommy and called me meme. Now that they are adults they both call me meme and noone is offended

Answer 5

Honestly, she probably doesn't feel 100% comfortable calling you mom. Give her some time. Depending on how old she is, she may always call you by your first name. Just be patient with her. That is the best advice I can give you.

Answer 6

What you want her to call you "Mom"? You aren't. You want her to call you "Step Mom"? That's a little unwieldy. How about "Mrs "? A tad unfriendly.

I'd go with the first name and let it go. There are so many other, much worse things she could be calling you...be grateful that it's your first name.

Answer 7

I think that's okay. I actually think it's pretty common for step children to call their step parent by their first name. They can't really call you mom, unless their biological mom is completely out of the picture.

Answer 8

A lot of step-mothers get called worse things than your name. My neice says that being a step-mother is the best job. She can love the kids, and enjoy them, but doesn't have to totally raise them bec they have a mother that does that.

Answer 9

no
there should be a "limit" to what she calls you
you never call your parents by their first name
basic respect
I have no idea what she should call you
just make sure that you understands the border
you are older, you needs to respect you
if you both are ok with this, there is no need to call a different name

Answer 10

Don't push her calling you by another name.
She may want to call you by another name eventually, but right now she is comfortable with your name. If she is older, she may never call you by another name.