We all live in the same state we aren't even 100 miles apart. but we see each other like once or twice a year and never at the same time. My mom is moving to Hawaii soon and I know she will want to see us all before she goes but my siblings are a pain in the butt and can't stand each other. I am not a big fan of them either but i love them and i feel that its important to bring us all together for my mom. I need some ideas.
2007-07-05 15:05:15 · 11 answers · asked by rainmichelle2007 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We don't hate each other we just don't get along. My sister is an attchen getter and my bother is a know it all jerk and i am passive. So we just don't get a long. I can stand my sister for like 10minutes before she decides i am getting to much attchen and becomes mean, my brother starts out mean and we are 28 31 and 34 I agree we all should grow up but hey they don't want to and i am tired of trying. I just want to be there for my mom
2007-07-05 17:16:06 · update #1
Ask them if they'd come if it were for her funeral. If they say yes, tell them it's more important to come while she's alive and can get something out of it.
2007-07-05 16:09:21 · answer #1 · answered by YY4Me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, then why not organize a family reunion?
If your siblings don't attend just because of the fact that they hate each other says A LOT about their behaviour and personality. Are they always a pain in the butt?
You never stated your age, nor your siblings, but if you guys are at least over 20, I think it's time to put aside petty, uneccessary, childish arguements and behaviours and time to at least try to act more like responsible adults.
Listen, you guys are a family, these people should be amongsts the ones who matter most in your life. Don't let them down or disappoint them because you can't get along! Be there for each other for some kind of support.
Bottom line: you're gonna have to figure out how to get along with your siblings (and your siblings the same) and convince them to at least do it for mom. I think it's time you guys grew up.
2007-07-05 22:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by ♣ ♦ ♥ ♠ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the best way to confront your hatred is to sit down face to face and just talk it out. People these days are more independent (not as family oriented as before) and I find that a lot of people aren't willing to listen to you if you are not truly passionate about something (they think they are right all the time). If you are willing to talk first and lay out what you have in mind, I suggest gathering everyone up and go to a fancy restaurant. Have everyone sit down, say what you want, show them that they are doing it for their parents, and ask whether they are willing to join you. Don't be afraid, talk first (loud strong voice, no "um", look into their eyes when you speak) and have faith in your plan. If they are "educated" enough, you guys won't break into a fight because everyone in the restaurant will be looking. Fancy and expensive restaurants have a more serious tone to it. Also food is one of the best ice breakers. And if you are lucky enough you might not be the one who talks first, the waiter will be.
Something I always keep in mind when working with my "enemies" is that you don't want to push them too far. Do ask what they plan to do. Also try to remind them about the times when your mom was really there for them. Help them find their love for their mom, not the hatred.
2007-07-05 22:24:15 · answer #3 · answered by Gory 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Plan a family get together for your mom before she moves. Give everyone 5-6 weeks notice. Tell them how important it would be for your mom - have the gathering at someones home or at a local park. Take lots of photos. Everyone can pitch in some money & one person can be in charge of food.
Hope it works out..
2007-07-05 22:09:29 · answer #4 · answered by Suzi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do a theme party as your mothers going away party. Have each family member bring a "useful gift" for your mother. Send out invitations and then call the ones you really doubt will come. Let everyone know how important it is to your mom and you.
2007-07-05 22:10:21 · answer #5 · answered by Ginger O 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Family reunion in a park.Bar-b-Que Ribs, Baked beans, Fried chicken, Potato salad, macaroni salad, Wheat bread. And cake and sodas.. All store bought from a super market already prepared. Anybody want alcohol beverages have to purchase their own. Purchase paper goods such as paper plates and table covers. Some music and a lot of laughs.
2007-07-05 22:19:00 · answer #6 · answered by MS Williams 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW tough one. Would schedule a family BBQ at your home calling all and just telling them to be there, no other details, tell them individually stating and using moms departure as an excuse, ie mom wants you to be there.and do not tell anyone else who will be there, make it a private invitation to all the siblings, then be the peacemaker
2007-07-05 22:11:33 · answer #7 · answered by Pengy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask one of your siblings to have dinner with you on the day of the party. Then ask the next sibling, and the next, and the next. That way all of them think you are having dinner with them alone,a nd they will all end up at your house for the party. Tell each of them to be there 30 mins apart.
2007-07-05 22:11:55 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree, it would be nice if you were all together. Hopefully she understands that. From a parental standpoint, you want to stay near your family, even if you're divorced or something.
But... If you and your siblings are all grown up, let her move! :)
2007-07-05 22:10:10 · answer #9 · answered by Thinksalot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throw a party...a get together at your mother's house, let them know that this will make your mother happy.
2007-07-05 22:09:18 · answer #10 · answered by Brezzy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋