How do I find a financially secure man to date? I am 45 years old and tired of dating guys who are ...?

Question

Financally challanged!

Answer 1

Well, usually financially secure men want to be with financially secure, independent women who have careers and interests of their own. So...the first question you should be asking yourself is: am I the kind of lady a financially secure man would want to be with? If not, then perhaps you are attracting men of a lower caliber because of your own personal traits. I understand your desire to be with someone who knows how to manage himself and his money. Irresponsible men are not attractive or sexy. If I were you, I would try to hang out in higher class bars, restaurants, etc.

Answer 2

Sadly you can never tell about a man's finances until you date him a few times. You may find a man who has a big house, fancy car and a boat in the driveway. Chances are he is probably deep in debt having to pay for all of that.

What you need to do is make your own money and have your own things. That way you don't have to depend on a man in order to have self worth. When you date a man, you might want to ask him indirect questions like, "What are your future plans?" or "What do you plan on doing when you retire?"

Don't just ask him straight up about his finances on a first date. He will think you are after him for his money and will run for the hills.

Answer 3

Try finding out his fincial status BEFORE dating him. Ask him if he is finacially secure. If his gas has been turned off, that would mean he isn't secure. On the other hand, if every guy you meet is telling you they are too broke to buy you expensive things, it means they see you as a golddigger, and don't want to get played for money.

Answer 4

You mean sponges or lazy useless pricks!

I am wondering the same thing. I go to bed at night saying my mantra "Responsible, Financially secure, settled"....to try to get it into my subconscious that that is what I am getting next.
I might try eharmony actually. .. It costs money, but the system matches you based on your values and needs and overall compatibility.

Good luck.

Answer 5

Good luck as we all have baggage at that age and they are usually paying out more money than is coming in but hey anything is possible?

Answer 6

stop bar hopping...go to places where men have money....by your statement i can tell that your visually/physically challenged...but u need to fequent places that men who have $$ post up and mingle....but if they have money they dont need you..so u have an up hill battle...just accept you position as a suga momma and be happy. being that your 45...it say whole lot more the u kno.

Answer 7

baby that is all our problems. My first two husbands were both losers. Luckerly I learnt my lesson and for my 3rd I took out a sizeable insurance claim.

Answer 8

oh teresa!!!!!!! i will be waiting or the answers to your question... i am in the same boat.. at our age they are either loaded with bills ..paying child support... have 3 jobs and barely have time for others.. good luck!!!

Answer 9

Your sister continues to be a arising guy or woman, she nevertheless has plenty to verify and much to develop, the two mentally and bodily. because of the fact of this this sort of lot of people regard old-youthful couples as unusual and why it is against the regulation for them to have intercourse, because of the fact in essence it is a mature man or woman taking benefit of a immature or maturing man or woman. i understand your sister would sense like an grownup, yet as a rely of actuality she has sooo lots of her existence previous to her. relationship a 40 5 year old guy or woman won't make her to any extent further of an grownup, it is going to basically tutor extra that she is infantile. I strongly advise which you urge your sister to stay faraway from this guy, he would look youthful however the easy certainty is that he's an old guy being intimate with a youthful, nevertheless growing to be female. have self belief me, there is extremely little sturdy that would come out of this sort of relationship, and in case you prefer the ultimate on your sister, you may do regardless of is on your skill to maintain her faraway from him. ultimate of success!

Answer 10

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