How can I stop feeling insecure? should I trust him?

Question

I love him and he also loves me a lot.

I was on vacation for a month and couldn’t call him while I was away, and when I come back I found out a girl from my work called and text msg my boyfriend a couple times after I was gone, it was obviously she liked him, and I asked my boyfriend; he said they talk at night for about an hour for 3 times during the time I was gone. All the time start with her calling him. My boyfriend said he doesn't like this girl.

Another girl who works with my boyfriend, and they are said to be like bro/sis relationship, she would draw pictures on his arm; when he fell asleep during break time which I get very jealous at. After I come back I feel very insecure, because my boyfriend always tries to make me jealous by saying his ‘sis’ is cute and funny.

Then one day I asked to check his cellphone, he agreed and let me.
I saw he sent 2 msg to his 'sis' asking how she is doing and telling her he got a hair cut that day.

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I was feeling emotionally unstable and I cried very hard. He keeping saying he doesn’t like them, but I wouldn’t listen to him and I asked him “Do u like her?” and he nodded, I asked the same question 2 more times, and he also nodded.

But later he said he only said it out of madness because I wouldn’t listen to him when he said he doesn’t like the other girls. And he was feeling very lonely and upset during the time I was gone because I didn’t called him and it was also his birthday.

He said he loves me a lot more then any girls before. And I trust him coz I can feel the sincere in his apologize, he also cries when he knows he hurt me so much by saying he liked another girl.

But somehow I just feel so insecure now and I guess I can’t put it down… what can I do?
He’s now on his vacation for a month, I feel the same loneliness and I understand how he felt. But I want to ask him more question about what he said that day, but I am afraid I will annoyed him with asking too many question and repeating it over and over again. But I don’t know what to do; I am just feeling very insecure. And yea he’s very good-looking and a lot of girls around him, does that help.


I also want to ask the guys out there; do you guys say stuffs like that "like another girl" to your gf out of rage?
How can I trust him again after this...?
What would u do if u were me?

Answer 1

well i have a friend thats like a sister too so theres no biggie there u should become her friend and learn to trust her
and the fact that he let u see his phone def shows hes not cheating on u a guy thats texting another girl would NEVER let his gf see his phone but i think u can trust him people say stupid stuff when there mad and im pretty sure he didnt mean it

Answer 2

Everybody has wandering eyes, how much you can trust them is how open they are about it.
I tell my girlfriend everything and it usually comes out like this:
"Yes, that girl is pretty, but when I think about her, I can't stop thinking about you and how much more you have to offer me than she does."
In the end I feel guilty about even considering the notion, but the truth of the matter is that a wandering eye can strengthen a relationship if it is dealt with openly and honestly.
Also I have a number of girls who I'm very good friends with, but I always brag about my girlfriend to them. Perhaps he just needs someone there he feels comfortable enough to talk to. In which case, don't view these girls as invading your territory so much as guarding it.
The question you must ask yourself is if there's really any reason NOT to trust your boyfriend. Have you caught him in lies before? Has he ever done something that he felt no guilt for? If that's the case, I'd say definitely talk to him about it for your peace of mind. Otherwise, you should probably give him the benefit of the doubt and trust him.

Answer 3

He's with you now not with any one else. Don't fear if you realize he loves then you you're first-class. He is not performing specific or humorous so the whole thing is all hunky dory. And I say this from enjoy try to repair this quickly or you're going to worsen with it and force him away. Or you're going to have a gigantic combat and just about lose him or you're going to relying on how forgiving he's. It hurts plenty to understand the individual you care so much approximately does not believe you absolutely.

Answer 4

Very Honestly, you'v e already decided not to trust him, so any messag on here would not help you. Also trust is a HUGE part of a relationship, if you cannot trust him, you need to let him go, whether he has or has not betrayed you, the relationship is beyond being fixed.

Answer 5

He's checking the waters to see what else is available. I would trust him about as far as I could throw him. You have somebody who loves the one that he is near. Bail out.

Answer 6

just talk to him and tell him how you fell