how to help your son get a date or find a girlfriend?

Question

I have a 19 years old son who is a good college student. However, he is very immature and does not have a clue to looking for a mate. Is there any way that as parents, we can help him?

Answer 1

nope, hes gotta make his own mistakes. you could always throw him off a bridge to see if he flies

Answer 2

You could set him up on a date. Why not. I don't see anything wrong with parents choosing the date. Parents want the best for their children, and often know what their children need more than the children do. It just takes some time for children to realize that Mom and Dad are actually right, hopefully it won't come after a few miserable marriages.

Answer 3

DO NOT IN ANY WAY SHAPE OR FORM TRY TO HELP HIM GET A GIRLFRIEND!!! it is his job to do it. it is the most embarassing thing EVER to have your mommy go try and find you a girlfriend. leave him to do it on his own.

Answer 4

You're worried about him being immature at 19!! It's a little too late now... you should have done more when he was 3, and 7, and 11, and 15, etc... then the problem would be far less now.

The best thing you can do is butt-out and let him live his own life, make his own decisions, and even fall on his face. THAT is how one develops confidence and maturity.

Answer 5

nope im very immature 2 but im youinger than 19 soo hel find some one when he wants 2

Answer 6

If I were you, parent, I would let him reach these conclusions in his own time. Chances are that if he is entirely immature right now, he's not ready for a relationship. Boys mature slower than girls, and he'll eventually reach an age when he's ready for a girlfriend. Just because you're ready for him doesn't mean he himself has matured enough. I would also say that he might never be ready to start a family; it might not be in his life plan or goals. Not everyone is destined to be a natural socialist. Let him develop in his own way, on his own terms. If you try to put too much pressure on him to find a mate, he'll feel suffocated by you as a parent and generally end up neglecting your advice. So I would wait patiently.

Answer 7

Don't meddle. Is that really that important to you? You should be happy he is a good college student and getting good grades and what not. When it's time for him to find a mate then he will. Be thankful he's not dating someone you hate or something.

Answer 8

Honestly it usually isnt hard for immature people to get a date they usually dont know when they arent supposed to ask. The quiet mature ones are usually the ones that cant get a date because they are thinking of other things or are scared/nervous. Is he ugly or really not bright by any chance? No offense, just two things that could keep him alone. Oh, he could smell bad too. lol

Answer 9

All parents want the best for their kids, but you know you can't actually help him find a girlfriend. When he's ready, he'll figure it out. I think a boy at 19 who hasn't really dated isn't really all that unusual, especially if he's in college where normal dating (dinner, movies, etc) doesn't often happen.

Maybe talk to him about what girls find interesting about young men (hobbies, things in common, school, etc) and give him ideas on how to treat girls nicely and with respect, and when he finds someone he's interested in, he'll figure it all out.

Answer 10

NO! what could be lamer than a dad trying to hook his son up with a date. give him advice but beyond that you will be doing him a favor if you stay far away and let him work things out on his own.

Answer 11

The best help you can provide is to stay out of it. He will find a mate in his own time.