My sisters and I are hosting my parents 25th anniversary party. Being that my parents are married and established they have no needs. They are not the collectible type either. We were wondering if there is any way to request monetary gifts in the invitations. Not that we are sleazy or anything. But we plan to send my parents on a trip and we think money would be the best gift. Mature responses only.
2007-07-05 13:35:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I obviously don't want to be tacky or rude. That's not the point of the question. I don't expect anyone to foot the bill for my parents vacation except for myself and sisters.
Also this party isn't a back yard shindig. It's a sophisticate black tie event with a five course meal. So please don't make assumptions.
2007-07-05 14:53:55 · update #1
A better idea would be to request a donation be made, in their name, to their favorite charity.
2007-07-05 13:40:53 · answer #1 · answered by bete noire Carpe Noctum 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is not appropriate to ask for donations or money in any form for an anniversary celebration. The invitations should have a note on the left hand bottom saying, "Your presence is the only gift necessary". There is no tactful way to ask for money. It would be considered crude. The party for your parents is a wonderful gift from you and your sisters. If your parents need spending money for the trip, your family needs to get the money together for them. Asking for financial help might subject your parents/family to embarrassment, and I know you don't want to take that chance. Good Luck !
2007-07-05 16:03:25 · answer #2 · answered by SpongebobRoundpants 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 15:57:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Etiquette is always tricky. Yours is especially because it's so unique.
I may have misread the question, but it sounds as though you want to ask for donations to help pay for the gift. If that's the case, my suggestion (which you can feel free to ignore) would be to not ask for money.
This gift was you and your sisters' idea -- it should be financed by you.
I'm not an etiquette expert. Just my two cents.
good luck at the party,
Mike
2007-07-05 20:23:30 · answer #4 · answered by Ask Mike 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is sleazy to ask for money. If they are established and have no needs, then why the need to ask for money? Guests should not be the ones sending YOUR parents on a trip. YOU and your siblings should be the ones sending them on a trip. I get the impression that this party is a way to get money for your parents' trip. A party should be one where guests are treated to free food and the host enjoying their company.
2007-07-05 15:39:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Telling people to not make assumptions, is very rude of you. Of course people need to make some assumptions unless you supply them with ALL the information needed to make an intelligent answer to your question. IT IS YOUR question, so obviously you need help making a decision, and that's why you are written a question in this forum, I ASSUME.
If you and your sister don't need to help pay for the party or the cruise, and your parents don't need anything, then I think you really have two good choices: state on the invitation "NO GIFTS PLEASE", or "In lieu of gifts, donations to _______ would be greatly appreciated". In NO case should money be requested or hinted at as a gift. To do so is tacky and sleazy no matter how you package it.
2007-07-05 15:03:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
I think it's tacky to expect gifts to fund a trip for your parents anniversary.. Maybe, getting close family to "donate" to the cause would be more appropriate, but asking people who come to celebrate is kinda rude. If you can't afford the trip on your own don't expect "donations.."
2007-07-05 14:03:32 · answer #7 · answered by pebblespro 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think you can tactfully request 'cards only' and perhaps people would see that as a way to send a monetary gift, but other than that I am not sure of a way.
You could set up a 'money tree' but, in my opinion, that would be way tacky.
2007-07-05 13:51:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Note in the invitations that there will be a "Wishing Well" for a surprise trip at the event. They'll get the idea. Be sure to follow up with where ou sent them, so people don't think they got hosed.
2007-07-05 13:44:37 · answer #9 · answered by ladytaurus83 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
There are no circumstances under which it is appropriate to "request" a gift - monetary or otherwise.
2007-07-05 17:21:35 · answer #10 · answered by Catchet22 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋