My ex boyfriend and I were high school sweet hearts, he was such a good boyfriend in high school. We shared alot of things together. I was his first and he was mine, but when we went to college he turned stupid and cheated on me and pushed on me. Well, I met this other man at college and I feel deeply for him. We had so much fun together, but when school let out we decided to give each other space because he live a couple hours away. And I miss him so much. We still talk about us gettin back together everyday. He treated me like his queen, and I never liked sex till I did with him. Although I have not did it that many times. My ex from high school be callin me tellin me that he took showers with his new girlfriend and she is spendin the night with him, and the other night he told me he had sex with her. I want the man I met in college back, but I still think bout my high school sweet heart at times especially since he told me about his new girlfriend.
2007-07-05 13:06:50 · 15 answers · asked by PREGO WITH #2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just ignore that loser HS bf. He knows you have a guy and he is jealous and trying to get back at you. As far as you thinking about him, its only natural because he was your first love. You just have to remind yourself what kind of a person he has become ~ probably not the same person you fell in love with is it? As far as you collage guy, just wait till school starts again and I bet you guys will be together again, or you could go up for a casual weekend visit!
2007-07-05 13:20:12 · answer #1 · answered by JWilridge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have noticed that as an ex we fear someone else being able to make a good relationship with our exes because it would mean we personally failed, not the ex.It also makes us think "what is so good about he/she that my ex likes them so much?" and "Why couldn't they treat me that way, didn't I deserve it more than her? After all look what I did for him." Not only do we fear it will prove we failed, we worry about being proven inferior to the new flame in our exes life and what stories our exes are telling them.
You know deep down you don't want your ex back, you know he treated you horribly and would most likely do it again. You also know that just because he says things are good with her one, it may not be as he describes it, and two that even if it's perfect now, it could very well go down hill as soon as the relationship gets older. It is going to be hard for you to see him happy with another woman and you will feel your competitve nature coming out, you will want to prove your worth. Instead of focusing on that focus on your current flame. Or just focus on you which is better, try a new haircut, buy a new outfit. Go out and about and enjoy life.Spend some time looking at yourself and figure out what it is you want in life. If you re-focus your energy on yourself you should find new purpose and direction.
Remember, your exe's new flame doesn't take value from you in any way. She might even have the personality to put up with a guy who pushes her around where you didn't. That doesn't take from you in any way.
2007-07-05 20:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by GreenSea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just get over with the ex already. I mean he's such a jerk doing that to u. If i were u i would call him back and tell him that we're over. And about the college guy, i don't know about it so it all depends on ur feelings for him. The feeling u have for ur ex i think is jealousy so that's why u want him back.
2007-07-05 20:14:06 · answer #3 · answered by wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth would you want your ex back if he cheated and pushed on you? Are you in desperate need to be abused?!
Move on and find someone else--let go of the past. The college guy doesn't sound too bad--but hell no to the ex!
P.S. Think about what you're saying, you'd risk being abused so you can shower with him like his new gf? lmao
2007-07-05 20:13:11 · answer #4 · answered by poison_angel32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, the high school dude seems jealous of ur new guy and he is probably lying about his gf because he wants u back. no guy would be tellin u about sex w/ his new gf unless he wanted to make u jealous. but ditch him. he sounds like an ***. i think you should go for the college guy. he sounds sweet and loyal. go for him and get back together. good luck!
2007-07-05 20:11:16 · answer #5 · answered by Hannah G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some "sweetheart" your HS guy is!! He called you to tell you that he is taking showers and what-not with his new girlfriend? He achieved his goal to make you jealous. You should give him the heave-ho and go after your college guy, cause *he* sounds like what a REAL MAN ought to be.
2007-07-05 20:13:41 · answer #6 · answered by bitadkins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweety you need to let your highschool sweetheart be let him go if its meant to be it'll be is sounds like he is immature right now , in the mean while u need to pursue that realtionnship with the college guy it sounds like he is a great guy the sex is enjoyable he cares for you treats you the way you should be treated what more can u ask for .... i think that ur ex is just trying to make u jelous plus he knows that he can get to you so he is just playing with your head so ... ur better of with the college guy
2007-07-05 20:13:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a butthead, getting a boyfriend to get back at your ex will make you as bad as him yes revenge is sweet but you could be hurting this guy in the process, and your ex's girlfriend is not that lucky because who wants their other talking to their ex about their sex lifes.
2007-07-05 20:13:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He told you that to get you jealous, he is playing you let it go smile and tell him hope he has fun. Get over him and move on to better things. You want a man that treats you like dirt?
2007-07-05 20:11:58 · answer #9 · answered by Pengy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, it honestly sounds like your hs sweet heart is jealous of u, i mean y else wud he bother tellin u wat hes done, what will he achieve by doing this. and also listen to your heart, and dont let go of this opportunity because one day you will decide to meet up with the guy you like and he will be gone with someone else. remember..those who mind dont matter, those who matter dont mind,..... i mean its only natural you think bout ur hs bf cos he was ur first, but u have to dump those memories and make some new ones with sum2 who will actually be with you for you..... hope that helped... good luck!!!!
2007-07-05 20:15:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋