I constantly feel belittled and talked down to by my parents. They treat my brother much better than they do me. Why do parents tend to treat the males better than the females?
2007-07-05 12:12:46 · 10 answers · asked by Jenny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Also, I'm educated and he's not, I have a stable job, he does not... if anything I'd think the tables would be turned.
2007-07-05 12:13:27 · update #1
Good Question.
I think it may be the fact that the Son will someday be head of the household. Or the one the parents turn to when they are old and need help. It is a cultural thing but not always accurate. I know more Daughters taking are of their parents than sons (like me for example). But parents thing the Son will have the better job, the most money, the best home, etc etc etc. This came from the 30's, 40's and 50's and even before. Men were treated as heads of the home. So sons were treated better and given more freedom.
I have two sons and no daughters. I feel that you can lose your sons to their wifes family as I have seen it happen many times. He turns towards them. My sons are different just because I raised them in LOVE and we are a close-knit family. They don't like being far from me anyomore than I like being away from them. We like being close and sharing our lives. Unfortunately, my older son is in the Army as a career officer so he must go where they tell him even to war. But it is hard on us not having him around.
We love both our sons. And I do miss having a daughter even though my relationship with my mother was not good. I now take care of her, while my brothers live their own lives not paying a dime or seeing her. I am her caregiver.
If I had a daughter, I would cherish her and make sure I never treated her badly. Learn from my mother what not to do.
You should talk to them and tell them how you feel. Do not bring your brother into the discussion. Just tell them how they make you feel. Sometimes parents are not aware of their lousy treatment of their child and sometimes it becomes habit. Communication is the best avenue for solving problems.
2007-07-05 12:33:16 · answer #1 · answered by Nevada Pokerqueen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's really annoying when parents treat any child better than the other. My brothers can basically do whatever they want b/c my parents are really old-fashioned, and wouldn't even let me date at all, ever, but my younger brother can go out on single dates w/ a girl he just met that very week! Oh well. I'm married now, no thanks to them! lol!
Seriously, you just have to be secure in your own self-worth. It still hurts sometimes, but I found I don't have to have my parents "approval" for everything. Just be confident in your own abilities, and find people who appreciate you...friends, b/f, whatever. Don't believe them if they are belittling you....distance yourself from them as much as possible, or if you don't want to cut ties w/ your parents, tell them how you're feeling. For me, it didn't make any diff, but it's worth a try, right?
2007-07-05 12:25:18 · answer #2 · answered by Dj 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
As a parent of both. Girl 22 and boy 20 I do not feel that I treat either child any better than I do the other. There are times that my daughter shows her butt and disrespects me where my son does not do those things. In that instance she and I have a few words and voice our opinions to each other but then its over. My son and I rarely have disagreements, but that does not make me treat him better than I treat his sister or vice versa. The same rules apply to both of my children. They follow the rules and they dont get any lip from me. They disrespect me in anyway, they hear about it. End of story. PS.. even though they are as old as they are, they still depend on me for their college education, paying their cell bills and their rent, car payments and insurance. So, yes I can make some rules still...
2007-07-05 12:31:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
It's the golden penis double standard. It's been going on for hundreds of years and it's not going to change anytime soon.
2007-07-05 12:31:44 · answer #4 · answered by Brandy 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yes in most caues yes.
2007-07-05 12:28:17 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I think it's just the contray. Girls are usually much more loved then boys.
2007-07-05 12:16:37 · answer #6 · answered by Steiner 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
im not really sure why.. i think its just cause they are just guys.. and they can "handle themselves".. and they don't think girls can do anything.. it happens to me all the time.. and my brother is younger than me..
2007-07-05 12:17:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Thats weird. Cuz daughets are treated better.
2007-07-05 12:24:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 6⤋
Perhaps he doesn't complain as much as you. You sound like a nag.
2007-07-05 12:17:19 · answer #9 · answered by Love 1 · 1⤊ 5⤋
You are bitter- judgmental, and perhaps that is why.
Little miss education!
Get over it.
2007-07-05 12:19:03 · answer #10 · answered by Brian 5 · 1⤊ 8⤋