I know I sound spoiled and selfish but wouldn't u be the same way if ur parents never allowed u 2 have a life they hate all my bf's they don't let me live my life i.e: they dont let me go out at all they are soooo overprotective i know i'm only 17 but i'm already in college i graduated high school june 1st of this year. and plus my B-day is the 29th of Oct. i should be at least treated like an adult already even if its a little bit man!!!!! F*CK!!!!
2007-07-05 11:39:25 · 21 answers · asked by Meggielicious305 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
by the way i've tried moving out and running away but they always threaten to call the cops on me 4 it!! they say i'm not old enough 2 do nething on my own!!! and they always put me down like if i'm not good enough nemore 4 them!!! I WANT OUT NOW!!!
2007-07-05 11:48:05 · update #1
If you wanted to be treated like an adult... why dont you behave like an adult and move out of the house and get a job?
See.. arent ready for that part of adult hood are you? You ARENT an adult if you still live with you parents. They still take care of you and pay for everything but you dont want to follow their rules? Under your parents house.. live by your parents rules.
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EDIT- haha.. ok.. let me get this straight.. you attempted to move out (when underage) and run away and THATS how your showing your parents your mature?
Sweetie- i would lock you up in your room too! You are very very very immature! I hope one day you grow up little girl..
Im very scared for you.. i pray you dont end up hurt. Your poor parents :(
2007-07-05 11:42:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
This is a problem that a lot of teens face. No teenager ever finds it fair and they never will. You will soon realize this when you are a parent. But that is besides the point. True, you are almost an adult and your parents may be a little over protected, but you are the child, do you even have a clue how scary that is? I'm 26 years old and when I was 17 my parents let me go out, I was always late coming home, I never called, I was smoking, drinking, and all the other things that I know now that I shouldn't have done, but everyone thinks that's what being a teenager who thinks they're an adult is all about.
I now have two kids and fear for there lives at times. You think you have it tough, try being a parent who doesn't want anything to happen to there kids.
I do think that your parents should give you a little space to breathe because if they don't it will lead to you moving out, and then what are they going to do when they can't stop you.
My advice is talk to them. Do they have any reason to think that you are a bad teen? Do they trust you? You have to have an open relationship with your parents. I'm not saying best friends here, but it can be a good relationship if you can all come to an agreement about you going out. They also should come to reality and know that they can't control you for the rest of your life. It's tough on all of you, not just you. They find it hard to let go. And that's all parents. Not just yours.
Good luck, hope I helped a little.
2007-07-12 11:15:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know when you are older you will kick yourself in the *** for feeling this way....you will wish you took your time with the whole independence thing. How do I know this. Totally been there and done that!! Trust me. You probably won't take my advice though, so I'll give you some preparation tips: Take this time right now up until your birthday in Oct. to find a job. Save money and prepare yourself for bills, bills, bills. You will need to purchase an apt., furniture, washer and dryer, food, gas, utilities, insurance, car payments. Not including your personal expenses.....expense to party, and so on. The everyday lavishes you get already while you are at home might not be a necesity once you are on your own, because you will quickly realize how much you truely did have living at your parents.
You are also going through a stage that I swear every single teenager - young adult goes through. You think you know what is best for you, and though you might have a good idea, you are not fully aware of the correct choices to make. If you really want to do things right....you must have a plan with goals that provide a structure of good choices.
2007-07-05 12:38:05 · answer #3 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to be treated like an adult you must act like an adult. Do you have a job? Can you pay for school on your own? There are lots of things that are a grown ups responsibility. Are you ready for those? October is not that far away. When your 18 your legal to do what you want. Just remember you only have on set of parents and no matter what you may think I'm sure they love you and only want the best for you. Good luck
2007-07-13 03:08:43 · answer #4 · answered by cris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your parents know how mature you are and they probably do have a good reason for not wanting you to get involved too early in some things, like spring break. Just try to go with the flow and they will eventually have to ease up when you turn 18, you can make your own decisions then. They may just be overprotective, mine were, but boy, oh, boy, what trouble I would have gotten into if they hadn't been, LOL! Thankful for the extra tough love I got. I'm glad I wasn't allowed to do things my parents thought I was to immature for, because it makes me appreciate these things in a different way now.
2016-05-19 01:41:30 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because the legal system states that at 17 or 18 years old you are an adult, it doesn't mean that you are necessarily are!!! Child (and I mean that) you need to do some major growing up. You have to EARN the right to be treated as an adult. Show your parents that you can be trusted and is mature enough to accept their decisions. The calendar may say you are an adult, but you have a loooong way to go.
2007-07-12 10:51:55 · answer #6 · answered by WVPV07 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really sad to hear how you treat your parents. I'm sure it is very frustrating for you, but parenting is a really tough job. Don't you think they would rather be a great friend than to be hated? Parents have to do what they think is best for their child, even if this is the way things are at the moment. I know you want your freedom, and you will have it soon, but just by the web name you've chosen, I can see why they are so concerned and strict. Look at it from their side. I'm not saying they are always right, but they are probably trying their best to protect you from you. Give it a thought, and God Bless!
2007-07-13 02:20:20 · answer #7 · answered by sniffles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate is a harsh word, especially containing to your parents. I felt the same way with my parents. They were so strict, I couldn't do or go no where. I even have a time to be in the house. I use to say bad things about them. Well God took my parents away from me at a early age. Now as I got older, I see why they were so over protective of me, they loved me and wanted the best for me. Remember you only get one set of parents.
Love them while you got them. Good Luck
2007-07-10 14:17:24 · answer #8 · answered by carlos r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um...if you are almost 18, then deal with it that much longer, you've been there for 18 years, what's another couple months??? nothing...they are only being overprotective because they love you. you may not think so now, but it is true. give them a little respect, and don't sneak out, or runaway, and maybe they will treat you more like an adult.
2007-07-11 14:07:16 · answer #9 · answered by Shanda Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you need to do is clean up your mouth and act like an adult if you want to be treated like one. You have to earn respect to get respect. I never knew a parent too protective for a child of theirs that is loved so much.. but misinterperted by the child as otherwise. Show them by actions and guideance accepted that they try to show you...they only want the best for you as all parents who try to guide a child in life does.
2007-07-11 13:38:00 · answer #10 · answered by cecstar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋