if my fiance does not have any parents?

Question

should we still do the mother and son dance at the wedding and the father and the daughter? my neighbors are kind enough to call us their kids and she said she would do the mother and son dance but would that be hard on him since he lost his mother in a drunk driving accident when he was 15 any advice would be great apprecited?

my familys is huge he has no family anymore expect mine

Answer 1

My fiance's mother has also passed and we are doing and Father daughter dance, and then one where I dance with his dad, while he dances with my mom. You can have him dance with your mom instead.
Ultimately, you should talk to your fiance. If he doesn't feel comfortable doing it, then skip it. I'm sure most people know him well enough and will understand.

Answer 2

So, here's the thing...the way a father/daughter or mother/son dance works, is that it starts with the bridal couple. As they're dancing, the father of the bride cuts in, and the groom (now dance-partnerless) then invites his mother to dance with him. All of this theoretically happens during the same song.

Would he be comfortable asking your neighbor or perhaps your own mother to dance with him? If so, he should choose who he wants this to be. If not, you might reconsider the dedicated dances, and just let it be a "free-for-all" on the dance floor.

Answer 3

I would say at least do the father/daughter dance. It is up to your fiance if he can see your neighbor's as close enough to being a mother to be comfortable to do it. The other option is to have his grandmother (if she is still alive) to do it.

It is your wedding. There are no rules except the ones you wish to put on yourselves. Do what you think would give you the best time, memories, and be caught on video!

Congratulations and good luck!

Answer 4

This would be entirely up to your fiance, but I would tend to think that the mother/son dance can be cut. But that doesnt mean that you have to cut yor dance with your dad, in fact the mother/son dance is a newer tradition, it didnt used to be done at all, I think Mothers started getting a bit offended that they didnt have a spotlight shone on them and hence the mother/son dance was born.

Answer 5

I don't think I would do a mother/son dance if he isn't comfortable with it... what we are doing is setting a photo montage to a slow song with pictures of us and our parents growing up (happy times of course) and we will dance to that song to honor them also you can honor her by putting her in the program or just at the end of the montage in her memory with name and date she passed.. another thought but maybe really hard to accept is to leave an empty place setting for her in her honor but I think thaat would be really hard to accept for a lot of people

Answer 6

I think you two should talk about that and see how he feels about the whole thing. Are you really attached to the idea of doing that dance? Find out what he thinks ahead of time before it turns into a bad situation which you really won't want at your wedding...

Answer 7

You really have to talk that out with your fiance and see how he feels about it. If he will bring back some feelings to dance with the neighbors or not thats all up to him.

Answer 8

I suppose you could skip the mother/son dance. I see no reason why you shouldn't dance with your father though.

Congratulations and good luck to both of you!

Answer 9

Only if he wants to choose someone to do the special dance with him -- I didn't have a dad, so my older brother did the dance with me. My husband's mom wasn't there, so he danced with my mom. Otherwise, just cut out the special dances, and dance with your dad at the family dance, following the bridal party dance.

Answer 10

It's entirely up to you two. Talk with your fiance and ask him what he would like to do. Maybe your neighbor or your mother would like to stand in for his mother, and it could be a nice symbol of the family he is gaining - not replacing what he lost, just adding to circle.