My friend is leaving to go to a wedding in Fl this weekend, we live in NC so think of the gas she will be spending, and she had to buy her own bridemaid dress which costs $150, and she didn't even like it! And i was telling her she didn't have to buy a gift b/c my bridesmaids didn't buy me anything, but i bought them gifts for being a part of the wedding party.. I would like an Honest Opinion!!!!!!!!!
2007-07-05 11:16:23 · 17 answers · asked by boricua_lilly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Absolutely not!
Besides the fact that ANY gift is optional, the fact of the matter is that being a part of the wedding party is a huge gift in and of itself. In fact, the bride should be buying your friend a gift, as thanks for being there!
2007-07-05 11:50:28 · answer #1 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
In most cases, I would say that yes she does have to buy a gift... but it doesn't have to be expensive. She could put together a photo album of pics from the wedding or make them some sort of memento. That would be cheaper and would probably be a better gift than a lot of the others.
However, I do think it's the responsibility of the bride to tell the potential bridesmaids about how much expense will be involved... so that the friend can accept the offer of being a bridesmaid or not. If this bride didn't do this, then it may be justified for the bridesmaid to explain to the bride that she can't get them a gift. (Whether she likes the dress or not, I don't think that part is relevant... it's the brides' perogative to pick the dress, as long as the cost is reasonable.)
2007-07-05 11:24:49 · answer #2 · answered by Laura M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok the bride is supposed to buy the bridesmaid a gift for being in the wedding.
The bridesmaid should throw or help throw a bridal shower/party of some kind
The bridesmaid should buy her own dress (think of the other money being spent on the wedding)
I listed the link below for more ettiqute. If your friend feels she needs a gift, I would sugest a picture frame, after all there was a gift at the bridal shower right?
2007-07-05 11:33:43 · answer #3 · answered by Im the girl that rocks his world 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure it's a tradition to get the new couple some sort of gift...unless you are five years old..then I'm sure your parents got them a gift. It doesn't matter WHO you are...you're invited, you attend, why show up empty handed? Thanks for the free food and inviting me to be a part of the most important day of your life now bye. Do people seriously DO that?! Besides, who ever said a wedding gift had to all be fine china or something expensive? The MoH of course doesn't have to spend a great deal of money on a gift..but I think she should, of ALL people. My MoH *AND* her family bought me gifts. They were small, but wonderful. It is the thought that matters really...that's why you register for stuff you WANT...even if it only costs $10.00...hey there's the perfect gift for someone who doesn't have much money to get you. WHO is the selfish one here who cannot spend $10.00 to help a new couple out in their new life? Weddings are EXPENSIVE. People bring gifts to HELP the new couple out...because they spent thousands of dollars on the wedding (or their parents did), they are probably looking to buy a HOUSE..and all those other things that new couples do.
2007-07-05 12:24:59 · answer #4 · answered by Jamie C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was a bridesmaid I bought my friends a gift. What we did was go in on a present together with a couple other bridesmaids to keep the individual cost down and still get them a great gift!
2007-07-05 11:21:46 · answer #5 · answered by Stephanie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The custom (in uk besides) replaced into the administrative bridesmaid offered the marriage china in spite of the fact that in recent times this has replaced, I think of on account that an excellent sort of youthful couples do not choose for china. in the event that they have a marriage record fairly purchase them some thing from this. If not ask them what they might like. propose a pair of things so as they recognize the cost selection you're speaking approximately. to assert to a pair "What might you like" and stop there they probable may be too embarrassed to ask for something. additionally money or vouchers might probable be very proper. until eventually they're contained in the minority all the sentimental tack around they probable dread getting. in case you opt for for to furnish an 'greater advantageous' get some thing like a bottle of Champagne for them, if non drinkers chocs/flowers contained in the bridal suite might additionally be a magnificent marvel.
2016-09-29 03:52:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but you have to buy a gift. Unfortunately, being a part of a wedding has become very expensive, nonetheless, it would be extremely rude not to give a gift when you are a part of the wedding. I'm sorry your bridemaids didn't give you a gift but it is customary to do so.
2007-07-05 14:54:46 · answer #7 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, traditionally the bridesmaids and maid of honor go in on a nice gift, like a vacuum cleaner, or cookware, or such. Something better than a toaster. If the couple have already set up house keeping and really don't need house hold items, perhaps a nice gift could be luggage for their honeymoon, or just cash.
2007-07-05 11:30:01 · answer #8 · answered by Laura F 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, they should buy a gift.
I know it costs alot of money to go to the wedding- and be a bridesmaid and all that - but, who knows..when its time for her to get married-her friend might return the favor if she's in her wedding.
2007-07-05 11:49:47 · answer #9 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she agreed to be in the wedding party, then she agreed to the additional costs of being in the wedding party. The bridal gift is a gift you normally give when you go to a wedding. The answer is yes.
2007-07-05 11:23:12 · answer #10 · answered by Sondra 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋