Gut feeling?

Question

I have had this crazy gut feeling lately that my boyfriend is losing interest or is interested in someone else. He used to be so tentative and now we hardly speak. I know he is going through some tough things at the moment so should i just keep giving him space? He is 25 and alot of his friends are down for the summer from college and he seems to only be interested in them? I miss him greatly but I dont want to seem pushy or clingy. Advise please

Answer 1

If you have a gut feeling. listen to it. Your gut doesn't lie.

Answer 2

Ask him if anything is wrong between you two. Being open is great, and if he dosnt except that, then something is wrong in the relationship all together. Give him some space. I think he just wants to hang out with him friends and if he has problems, maybe thats bothering him. Ask him if he wants to talk about it. But dont bug him on the topic of where hes at or why he dosnt call you. He needs to know he has a trusting supporting partner. Hope i helped! :)

Answer 3

Id sit down and let him know how you feel and ask him what is going on and How you can Help as a couple you are to work together to make things work not push apart when times are tuff Be ready I know how those gut feelings work and you could be right be Ready to walk away If he is with some one else Good luck I hope it is juts the hard times and your back on track soon

Answer 4

I don't know any really good "proactive" advice other than to suggest that when you sense that "vibe" that something is wrong or has changed, it's probably dead-on accurate. I was just recently in a similar situation and like you, I didn't want to seem paranoid or clingy. Even though I was right, that information didn't really help me any...her honesty about the issue did. I hope your outcome is as painless as possible.

Answer 5

Men need their space. You say he's going through some stuff and I'm sure being with his friends is comforting to him at this time. Be as supportive as you can, even though it's tough, because once the dust settles you'll be the one left standing waiting for him with open arms.

Answer 6

Our Bodies can always sense when their is something wrong. Try to confront him with the issue you are feeling. And if he refuses give him space. The fact is he is probably a little depressed . If things continue to be this way you should probably call it quits or take a break from one another. Either way it's your happiness that counts the most.

Answer 7

Let him have his summer fun with his buds.I would think he will understand and after summer he will love you more for giving him his space. He doesn't want to look hen pecked in front of his friends,maybe you or calling or texting to much back off a little. More reason if he is going thru tough times.Love is wonderful but its not all.

Answer 8

If you love him you should talk to him. It could all be in your head...or you could be right. You should be open and honest about how you're feeling. Don't nag him or make him feel guilty. That would probably start a fight. Just simply ask if everything is okay between the two of you. Perhaps ask for a specific date night for just the two of you. That way you get one on one attention, plus he can hang out with his boys while they are around.

Answer 9

if he is going through some tough times then this is normal. Just give him his space and time. He's trying to feel better by being with his boys and doing boy things. We guys don't like to show that we are weak and that we are troubled by things. So we don't like to whine and complain and share with our girls. Just know that we still interested and still love/like our girls and that when things are good again we can be happy with you again. May sound bad that we don't share, or may seems like we don't trust you to even share our problems with you but that's not it. We just not good with showing our vulnerability.

Answer 10

Well if your friends come over, that you havent seen in a while you would like to spend time with them too right?? Just support him and ask him about his day with his friends (not sarcastically, but really take interest in what is important to him) but also let him know that you feel a little distant from him, ask him if everything is ok. Guys dont know how to read minds and body guestures like girls know how to. Dont get discuraged just play it cool, ask him if you can go hang out with him and his friends.

Answer 11

Try to talk to him, but if he refuses to talk, you can write him a letter explaining how he is making you feel. Let him know that you understand that he is going through something right now, but you won't stand for him cheating on you, etc.