Wedding etiquette question?

Question

My fiancee and i would like to invite most of our family members and friends to our wedding. This will mean a pretty big group, around 350 pax. Since we want to include everyone, serve delicious food, have good entertainment and decor, we need to find ways to budget in other areas. Here in the Philippines it is not unusual for guests who are close to one another (like siblings and their wives or football buddies) to be given a shared invitation. Basically meaning one invitation with two couples written on it or three buddies, or the like, then they just inform each other of the details. I personally don't mind when this happens to me but i would like to know your opinion, would it really matter a lot to you to share an invitation?

Just a question ok, i haven't done anything yet so no violent reactions! Thanks!

Answer 1

If it's a Filipino tradition, or considered ok by Filipino families, send shared invites to the Filipino guests, and individual ones to the others

Answer 2

I'm a Filipina too but US based and I'm about to wed in the Philippines in Feb 2008. i totally feel you on the budget side since I'm having 300 guests. I see nothing wrong with shared invitations but you should look at how the arrangement is. Siblings usually get shared invitations but what if they don't reside together? Who do you send the invitation to? Personally, the general rule I follow is - "1 invitation per household." It's very typical in the Philippines that 2 families reside under one roof and if that's the case, go ahead and send 1 invitation.

Hope this helps.

Answer 3

I feel of it this manner: having a greenback dance at a marriage ceremony, a wishing good, a cash tree or some thing is collaborating in a culture. Various cultures have fun marriages on this manner, and for lots of persons it is aspect of the joys and most likely saves the concern of a travel to Macys. Including for your invitation a request for coins or items is an quandary of etiquette seeing that you are implying, whether or not you imply to or no longer, that giving items (the items you pick, certainly) is needed of visitors. This difference might appear a little bit foolish seeing that such a lot of persons would not dream of displaying up for a marriage ceremony with no present. But the present is some way of celebrating, no longer a demand. The invitation is supposed as a honor to the recipient, some way of claiming "I care ample approximately you to desire you at my marriage ceremony." Diminishing that message with a coins seize is rude. In the top, I feel etiquette is often approximately demonstrating recognize for persons greater than following a few ridiculous record. Chewing together with your mouth closed is well mannered seeing that watching at part chewed meals is disgusting, no longer seeing that Miss Manners says it is well mannered. It's some way of respecting your eating partners. In brief, traditions may also be performed in methods which are retaining with etiquette and in methods that don't seem to be. Let's take some thing on no account approximately cash: the entire garter toss. If the groom eliminates the garter, traces up his unmarried peers, and tosses it over his shoulder, that is really nice. On the opposite hand, the groom would stick his head up the bride's get dressed and root round even as the groomsmen make a ruckus. Granny is embarrassed and the minister is blushing. The father of the bride wishes to kick the groom within the pants. It's nonetheless "conventional," however the groom is not demonstrating recognize for his visitors. So. I say each issues are same and certainly not distinct.

Answer 4

I'm not easily offended so I don't think I would mind getting a shared invitation, but I do think some people in the US might be offended.

I'd say if most of your guests are from the Philippines, and they know the custom, then there is no reason why you couldn't give a shared invitation. To keep from offending people, maybe you should not do a shared invitation for any guests who are unfamiliar with the custom.

Answer 5

If it's tradition there, then of course it is fine. The only time that happens here in Canada would be if someone sends an invitation, lets say to my mom - and they ask her to let all us kids and our families know about the wedding, then she would put the numbers attending on the one reply card.
Congrats and good luck planning!

Answer 6

As the others have said if it's common and expected then go ahead it's not a huge deal. If I didn't know the custom I might be insulted or I might not if I was close to you guys which would just make me happy to be invited to see you get married.

Answer 7

When in Rome.... since it is an accepted thing where you live, I would say, go for it. Here in the US it isn't done really, not with a formal affair. With a casual affair, more ok.

I wouldn't mind so much, but I imagine some people would.

You sound very nice good luck.

Answer 8

If that is common practice in the area then I would say: Go for it!
Here in the US it is custom to give separate invites. One way we saved is by creating our own instead of going through a service.

Answer 9

It wouldn't matter to me at all...especially if it is the custom.

Honestly, I wish the modern tradition of formal invitations for everyone would change. I definitely don't need a $10 piece of paper just to believe you really want me there.

Answer 10

i don't think it really matters. go for the shared invitations. last night i received a wedding invitation thru myspace!!!! I didn't care cuz it's free!! if i had everyone's email address i would have sent out the invitations thru email! so yea go for it!!