I think that is very MEAN FOR SOMEONE TO SAY TO another.."You did not take so and so's death very hard"...that

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is sooo cruel....THAT PERSON DOES NOT KNOW HOW THE OTHER ONE TOOK IT.... the nerve...the many nights of crying...of course SHE TOOK IT HARD, JUST NOT IN FRONT OF PEOPLE!!!...(thank God she broke up with him)..he was mean....what do you think of that???

Answer 1

people mourn in different ways, that was really disrespectful of the other person.

Answer 2

every person deals with death in their own way. I myself, dont cry in front of others when a person dies. At first it doesn't seem real, like its a dream or something. But when it finally hits her, although it may be weeks, months or even years to come, she will need someone to talk to. I had someone very close to me die, and people around me kept asking me if I was okay and if I needed someone to talk to. I said no, I dont and they raised eyebrows at me. Some people hold their hurt in, which is what I pretty much do, until it finally hit me and I was able to release my hurt and anger.. which i did when I was in my room alone.
There is nothing wrong with someone not showing any emotions when a person first dies. It takes time. Each person is different. People can't expect others to immediately be in a depressive zone or break down when horrible events play in their lives.

Answer 3

That is cruel. We all mourn in our own ways and in our own time. Many people put up fronts so they never show how something effects them in public but be hind closed doors they could be a huge mess. that is why you should watch what you say.. You never know whats really going on...

Answer 4

I think that was extremely rude. Some of us prefer to mourn in private, and many people have trouble expressing deep emotions like grief in front of others. No one should ever assume they know what someone is or isn't feeling.

Answer 5

everyone deals with deaths differently. our emotions resond depending on who we are. when i went to a funeral, there were people that looked absolutely normal...and they were some peole crying their eyes out...at first, i didnt want to cry, but i ended up staying outside the rest of the time because i was bauling my eyes out. it was horrible....then the followig nights, i tried to keep it in, but one ime i totally fell apart in front of my dad...sometimes the person is more is shock bout what happened, and they dont know how to feel..of course you want to feel sad but you gota let it sink it too you like "wow..this isnt a dream, this is real life"

maybe some people are too scared to cry alot in front of people so they hold it in until they are alone..then let is alllllll out

Answer 6

no one has the right to tell someone else that they did not take their friend's death hard enough. because no one knows how you feel inside except for you. he was very inconsiderate to tell you that. but dont forget, he was probably hurting too from the person's death. and he was "angry" that you maybe didnt outwardly cry like he did. and he might wonder why u didnt outwardly cry.

Answer 7

Everyone deals with death and grieving differently. You can not know what someone is feeling inside so for someone to say something like that is just really insensitive.

Answer 8

My mother had Alzheimer, the day she died, it was a relief,
She was not suffering anymore. Yes, I cried, but she was in a better place.
Before she died, my father had to place her in a nursing home, she would fall off her bed and had bruise all over.
I miss her very much.

Answer 9

WOW..THAT IS HARSH..YEAH I WOULD AGREE...IVE BEEN IN A SITUATION WHERE SOMEONE TOLD MY FRIEND SHE DIDNT TAKE SO IN SOS DEATH REALLY HARD AND I WAS THERE...AND I TOLD THAT PERSON YOU DONT KNOW WHAT SHE HAS BEEN GOING THROUGH AND SO WHAT IF SHE ISNT TAKING IT HARD...PEOPLE HANDLE DIFFERENT SITUATIONS IN DIFFERENT WAYS...BUT ALSO NO MATTER WHAT PEOPLE ALWAY HAVE SOMETHING TO TALK ABOUT..

Answer 10

That's just one aspect of their relationship, and I doubt you know all of it. Let other people sort their own business out, especially if they don't specifically ask you for your advice.