mother in law over my flowers (she wanted to make them, but my mother in law had somebody elso do it as a back up plan)? She was my made of honor and her children were my flower girls.
2007-07-05 09:09:10 · 33 answers · asked by dumbblond 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Your sister can be mad at our MIL all she wants (I don't blame her), but pulling out of the wedding now hurts you, not your MIL. What's to be gained by that? Your sister should be doing everything she can to help make your wedding day a happy one, not a stressful one. Your MIL overstepped, but your sister boycotting your wedding doesn't change that. Your sister needs to get past this slight quick for your sake.
2007-07-05 09:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is she truly your sister - because that sounds so childish and she really is hurting you not your mother-in -law. She is playing an important role in your wedding and should be supporting you not stressing you out like this. If she truly loves you she would put her hurt pride aside and be in the wedding. At the end of the day - the flowers will be okay - the drama can be kept out of the day by just showing up because if she isnt there - I am sure there will be a whole lot of explanations and she will really look silly
2007-07-05 09:21:44 · answer #2 · answered by Rush 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its terribly wrong, when I read the intro to your question I thought it was going to be about a young teen angry about something silly and pouting, But this is an adult and a mother of the flower girls, for her to behave this way is inexcusable, it has caused a ruckus that takes the focus off you as the bride and puts it on her, now people will have to take time to placate her and you will probably be doing this for the rest of your life, people as selfish as that rarely change. I'm almost tempted to tell you that no one will miss the flower girls, and the matron of honor, assuming she is married, otherwise the maid of honor. Since she is your sister, make one phone call, tell her everyone was hoping to make it easier on her and so the flower job was given to someone else, ask her to please come to the wedding and share this special time with you, if she says no, say you will be sorry not to see her, and leave it. Let her know now that you won't be manipulated.
2007-07-05 09:58:54 · answer #3 · answered by justa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong for her to act her shoe size and not her age. And you need to speak to your mother in law. if her person is a bakc up plan and your sister is still able to do the flowers then let her do the flowers. What do you mean was your maid of honor and the children were your fower girls.
I'm assuming everyone already have their dress since the wedding is 2 days away. I think your sister will come around. she is just upset she is not getting to help you on your special day. But you should talk to her and take control of YOUR wedding day.
2007-07-05 09:24:51 · answer #4 · answered by Ethan's Mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be thinking about right and wrong right now. You need to either fix this or find a replacement. Talk to your sister. If you agreed to have your sister make those flowers, then you need to have your sister do it. Apologize on behalf of your mother-in-law for overstepping her bounderies. Offer to pay your sister for any money she may have lost over this and ask your sister to change around the flowers your mother in law had made. Lie to your sis a little and tell her you don't like the flowers that the outlaw got you and you need her to come to the rescue.
2007-07-05 11:19:59 · answer #5 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the mother's flowers are as a back up plan and not to replace your sister's flowers, then she really doesn't have any room to be made. you two are still going to be siblings after the wedding is over and she should be there because beside you and the your groom, she is the next important person in the wedding. explain to her how it will hurt you if she and your neices are not there. im sure that she will understand.
2007-07-05 09:24:06 · answer #6 · answered by PreciousLady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's childish and selfish. This wedding is your day and she is not thinking of your needs or your feelings. Let her know how disappointed you will be if she doesn't keep her word to be your maid of honor on this special day. She should put you first and let go of this petty argument.
And you might suggest that she make some flower arrangements that you can use as centerpieces at the tables for your reception.
2007-07-05 09:14:01 · answer #7 · answered by Stefka 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong of your sister to not attend her sisters wedding. And over some flowers? If your mother inlaw wanted to pay for your flowers then thats great. As you said it was for backup. If she really loves you she will attend and get over that stupid argument she had with your MIL. That is just really childish and crazy to be stressing and arguing over.
2007-07-05 09:57:38 · answer #8 · answered by TJ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong. But then again she just wanted to be apart of your special day by doing the flowers and your ML kinda took that away from her. You should make your ML apologize to her. Because if that was done to me it would feel pretty shitty. She probably feels like she's not as good as your new family.
2007-07-05 10:23:51 · answer #9 · answered by Staceygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, YES she should come. What do YOU want as far as flowers? What you want is what you should have. Inform both of them that this is your decision and thats the end of it. Tell your sister how important it is that she is there for you and at your wedding!! She would regret this for the rest of her life if she couldn't be there.
2007-07-05 10:08:44 · answer #10 · answered by sun day 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋