Im 14 going into the 9th grade...so Im gonna be a freshman...but she wont let me go to Public school...she says theres too much drama and crap like that...how that time has changed since she went to school...she wont even let me try it...how can I talk her into it? please help me I really want to go...and she just dosent get that...
2007-07-05 08:59:12 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Home Schooling
I keep reading and re-reading your question here in the home school section and wonder how people think that you are in private school going to public school rather than home school going to public school.
Anyway..........
I work at the public high school. . I home school my son. He has many friends from home school and public school.
I don't know your particular school, but ours is relatively 'tame'.
Give your mom your reasons for wanting to go to public school. See if she will let you enroll, with the condition that if either of you see that home is better, you can come back to home school.
My personal belief is that learning at home is a better education than learning in a class room. Your education can be planned and scheduled for you, and only you, at home.
I believe in home school but would let my son go back to public IF he gave me plenty of notice.
Your mom has probably designed her life around the plan that you will be home and she will be your teacher for the next few years. It is not fair for you to suddenly decide that you want a different plan. Look at it from her point of view.
2007-07-05 12:30:12 · answer #1 · answered by Janis B 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
First, if you're homeschooled right now, as her about getting into a private school...it should get you what you want, and still let her know that you're getting a good education. And if not, ask her to let you go for a trial period, even 6 weeks or so. Assure her that you just need to see it to find out for sure if that's what you want. Work out a deal, that if you don't do well, then you'll go back to where you are now. Also, offer up that maybe you're missing things neither or you are aware of, either educationally speaking or socially. Tell her that you need to find out.
2007-07-08 22:51:45 · answer #2 · answered by garciajennifer@att.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Public school comes with a lot of not-very-fun things, like peer pressure. If I'd had a choice, I would've not gone to public school. The best friends I ever had, I met in Girl Scouts - which I could've done without a public school education.
Now - if you REALLY think you want to try it out, talk to her. Come up with a list of reasons why you want to be a part of public education, how you'll take care of yourself, and how you'll make sure you do well on all your tests. She's just worried about you - that's why she wants you to stay out of public schools. If you let her know that you're ready to take care of yourself, she might let you go.
2007-07-05 09:10:21 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to her about your feelings. Try to show her your mature side, dont interrupt her, dont get upset. I know its easier said than done, but try to sit down with her, mom to daughter, and talk like mature people. Tell her why you want to go to public schools. She is right, it is a little harsh and rough out there and tell her that you understand that, if you do, but tell her why this would be so important to you. Ask her if you could just try the 9th grade and if you don't make it through then you are willing to take the 10-12 grade with out so much as a whisper about it ever again. Let her know that you are growing up and you do want to be in a "normal" school setting. Try not to get upset or yell other wise she will just tune you out and then you would get upset and nothing would get accomplished. Maybe its not the fact that its "scary" or "harsh" or whatever, maybe she is just scared to let you go.
2007-07-05 10:35:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anayden 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell her you will be embarrassed in front of others during gym and on days you will wear shorts and that others will tease you about it. I let my daughter start shaving at 12 I dont see anything wrong with it if you are willing to be aggravated by having to shave every other day. Dont aggravate her about it though cause you may irritate her enough to constantly say no. See which answer seems like a good way to explain how importatnt it is to you to shave and go with it if she still says no then just wait a while and try again just dont fight with her about it sometimes it works to not fight it out.
2016-05-19 00:35:56 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
My name is Sherry and I saw your question. Your mom is right alot of the public schools no a days are really bad and it's to much stress, and the kids your age that go to public school have bad manner's, and disrespect other students and teacher's and the teacher's play favorites and fail you if they don't like you, plus they really don't have good teaching methoods in publick schools to a point kids your age want to quit school, get there GED, to get out of public school or beg there parents to homeschool them. so you see your mom is right public school sticks. I have a 13 year old and he's going into the 7th grade, and he hates it. My 12 year old son is going into the 6th it starts JR. high and he's very nervous and scared, and there both autisum, and special ed may not be in the public school system anymore and my son's need it. Listen to your mom please she very right. I'm a single mom and I know with my boys. I plan to home school my 2year old daughter when she's 5 years old pre-school age.
Feel free to e-mail me back ok.
2007-07-05 15:20:58 · answer #6 · answered by snfiftzgrl72 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want to prove that you are ready and mature enough for it then do some research on it and sit down with all the valid points you find (such as more opportunities for learning, sports, how important it is to be exposed to the public school systems) and talk to her- don't get mad. If you have all the info right and can handle yourself maybe you two can make a deal about the 1st time trouble comes about or your grades drop you go right back to private school
2007-07-05 09:09:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think the best way is to ask your mother to sit down with you and tell her exactly how you feel. Let her know that you appreciate and respect that she is trying to protect you and that you know she loves you, but that you want to try somehing new. It might also be helpful to have her talk to the parent of someone you know that attends public school-it may alleviate some of her fears.
2007-07-05 09:16:23 · answer #8 · answered by lovemybear 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to let you go to public school for one year. After one year, you both can re-evaluate the situation. Maybe you won't like public school, or maybe you will excel and she will be impressed.
The key to negotiation is to work in small increments. Try to get a concession from her, however small (like asking her to tour the school with you), and give her something in return (like thanking her and saying how much you like the school). Keep communication open at all times without having an argument. Be happy whenever she is open to your idea, but quiet (not upset) when she disagrees with you. You could say, "Mom, will you tour the school with me?" If she says no, go to your room and be nice to her without arguing. If she says yes, say thank you.
There is an old saying that he who speaks first loses. If you feel like arguing with her, don't do it. Just go to your room and be nice to her.
Get what you want by working one small step at a time and being nice with every step.
2007-07-05 09:07:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
First, try to remember that your mom is doing what she believes to be best for you, and she might be right. Parents often make decisions that kids don't understand or agree with, but they have more experience and knowledge and often really do know better.
See if you can come to a compromise, but if not, try not to get to angry at mom, she might know what she's talking about.
2007-07-05 10:42:48 · answer #10 · answered by Thrice Blessed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋