is there ever a chance an ex will come back and want to try again after things have calmed down? even when they say they never want a relationship with you again? but they still want to be friends with you once you have pulled yourself together and come to terms with the break up?
2007-07-05 08:43:12 · 25 answers · asked by bluebell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It all depends on the situation, but if the "never want a relationship" part was said when he was angry, then yes, there's a chance.
2007-07-05 08:45:35 · answer #1 · answered by abcdefgh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a close, romantic relationship ends, the trust and care that was once established is no longer there. It is very difficult to replace romance and friendship with friendship only because someone is going to feel that something is lacking from the relationship. It is also extremely hurtful to look at someone you loved and whom you thought loved you too and know that there can never be what you once had between you again. Most of the time, it is less painful to just make a clean separation from the ex-lover and move on. Ex lovers as "friends" only serve to remind you of past failures, pointless temptations and hopeless dreams.
2007-07-05 08:55:12 · answer #2 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the reason for the breakup, but yes, many people ultimately get back together when they get themselves together. However, it is much more likely to happen, if you move on and don't try to continuously make it happen. If you shut your life down waiting for him, he won't find that an attractive thing to return to. Get on with your life and find ways to move on and be happy - that will be much more attractive to him that you are strong and independent then if you are constantly trying to work him and being needy. Give him time to realize that the grass isn't really greener anywhere else and make sure your lawn is well taken care of - how's that for metaphors. You being happy and successful will make you something he may find worth coming back to, you miserable pining away for him to come back will not be something he is interested in doing.
2007-07-05 08:51:07 · answer #3 · answered by StaticTrap 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Robin - judging by the amount of times you've asked this and many other similar questions, you need to get some friends around you, start going out, and stop dwelling on what might or might not happen. None of us on here knows, and with the best will in the world, we cannot help.
I don't suppose your ex is torturing himself like this.
2007-07-05 08:49:25 · answer #4 · answered by jet-set 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been asking myself the same exact thing every single day since my ex broke my heart. It's a hard thing to answer. Everyone tells me no, but I keep waiting and hoping. It's probably best not to expect it and move on... This is the best advice I have heard. You never know what might happen but thinking, hoping, and waiting will only succeed in causing you more heartache and prevent you from moving on your life!
2007-07-05 08:47:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you two broke up becaue or a certain situaton to "wait until things calm down" then i say you prolly wont get back together. because in the times that are not calm that is what builds the relationship. the being able to hold together when time get rough. if you cant do that then just forget bout him
2007-07-05 08:49:29 · answer #6 · answered by Dunston 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...even if you got back together, things will never be the same because break ups cause bad tensions between people. It is hard to overcome that, so I would hate for you to sit around and wish for things to go back to the way they were when in reality that just isn't going to happen.
2007-07-05 08:46:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in your same situation, exact same ******* one. I'm here waiting around, watching, wasting, waiting, for this girl to come back to me. Everyone is telling me to move on, that its hopeless, that I'm fucked up in the head to do what I'm doing. But you know what? I know in my heart, from the relationship we had and from everything we said, everything we did, everything we felt, I know from all that, there is a chance for us to get back together. You have to take into consideration what went on in your relationship, all the feelings and emotions. If you feel that your relationship had enough love, care, and time in it to be brought back together after fallen to pieces, then don't give up hope. But what I've learned is, don't just sit around waiting for him. Don't stalk him on his myspace or on the internet or whatever. Finding and looking at what hes up to will only make it hurt 10x more, so dont do that. Don't center your life around him as if hes still there. Just try moving on, just go about your life as if you did before he was in it. It's okay to think about him, just dont over do it. Distancing yourself from him too also helps a whole hell of a lot. It's cliche, but let him know what hes missing. Believe me, he will realize what its like to not have you around or not have you to talk to. He will begin to miss you, and slowly but surely give you hints or signs that he doesn't feel the same without you, that he misses. Okay, maybe I'm over doing this, but its a touchy subject.
2007-07-05 08:58:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's always a chance of anything. None of us know what might or might not happen in life. You have to be okay with whatever happens. If it's meant to be then you guys will be back together. If it's not, then you won't. Be okay with either option and you'll be fine!
2007-07-05 08:48:16 · answer #9 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always a chance. It all depends on how your lives are going.
Lucky you, at least your ex wants to be friends. Mine won't even talk to me (but he says he still cares about me, just not as bf/gf anymore)
2007-07-05 08:52:10 · answer #10 · answered by Jordyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋