im 22 and my brother is 17.my mom pretty much lets him do what he wants and talk to us however he wants.he's a big guy & hands out with older cousins&he thinks he's grown.she says she cant tell him what do to because he wont listen.i tried telling her the bad things he does but it just blows up in my face "let him,let him he's the one who is going to deal with it" and the way he talks to me is killing me.according to him im not sister anymore im *****.since my mom wont tell him not to talk to me like that he does it.i just want to know what can i do to try and save my relationship with my brother.im moving out of the house this year because i cant live with him anymore. so what can i do? i love my brother but it kills me that he's like that with me. especially after i took care of him since i was 12 because mom always worked and dad wasnt there.sometimes i feel like telling my dad what he does just to see if maybe he'll do something about it, but i dont want him to go argue with her.
2007-07-05 08:32:12 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
MOVE OUT NOW.
You're 22 freaking years old....why have you been hanging around so long putting up with this crap?????
Once you're gone, you can call him up or write him and tell him that you don't want him in your life if he's abusive to you in ANY way....and either he'll change, and you can have a relationship, or he won't. Either way you won't be hanging around getting beaten up emotionally.
2007-07-05 08:41:23 · answer #1 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your dad and explain everything you just explained above to us here. Tell him that you do not want him to go and argue with your mom. It is so plainly evident in everyone that is trying to raise a young man without a father present that a dad makes a difference in the lives of his children and it is very important for the men of the family to behave as family leaders. It is good that you are getting your own space away from your brothers obvious attempts to exercise his independence in the wrong way. If he cares about his son, he should come see him and find out what is going on. He will have much more of an impact on his behavior than any female could, regardless of her relationship to this kid. I hope things work out for you and your brother comes back to his senses before it is too late to change his lifestyle effectively.
2007-07-05 15:45:34 · answer #2 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your problem. He doesn't want a relationship with you obviously, so leave him alone. He's legally an adult. The cops would treat him like one, so let him live his life. You're moving out anyway, it's not your problem.
2007-07-05 15:36:37 · answer #3 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do. He thinks he is a man he has to learn on his own. All you can do is let him know you love him.
2007-07-09 15:25:37 · answer #4 · answered by LDJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋