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2007-07-05 07:30:53 · 30 answers · asked by justgoodfolk 7 in Travel ➔ Italy ➔ Bologna
If it is a choice,does that go for straight people as well?You could just as eaesily have choosen to be gay but didn't?Please help me understand,thanks
2007-07-05 07:32:08 · update #1
It is not a choice to be straight or gay or bisexual. People are who they are and love who they love because they were born that way. People never cease to amaze me with their ignorance. Being gay is not a mental illness nor is it an easy life so why would one choose it. Being gay is the same as being straight only you love someone of the same sex. I cannot understand why anyone sees anything wrong with love. There is so much hate in the world why must people turn something as simple as 2 men in a loving relationship into a negative thing. And bisexual people have it the hardest. Straight people and gay people alike have a hard time excepting those who are bi. So to answer your question they never did choose to be this way it just is who they are.
2007-07-05 08:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by Jellicle Cat 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well for myself, up until about 9 or 10 I had no sexual thoughts, feelings, desires of any sort. I wasn't really gay or straight just neuter I guess, and though I knew what sex was I thought it was "gross" or it just didn't occur to me that someone would want to do that. Much less with a guy. I mean how could you anyway? right?
Anyway around 5th grade I noticed girls shirt's start popping out to various degrees, and I found that fascinating.. and I would get erections all the time for no reason.. and that was fascinating too. I would then notice girls legs when they wore shorts, or their chests when they wore revealing things... and the female body was more of a mystery to me being a male than a guy's and thus much more fascinating. Eventually you just kind of connect the changes in your sex with the changes in the opposite sex and you're thinking about actual intercourse.. all the time. Like chocolate and peanut butter.. two great tastes that go together.. hmm. Anyway so at what point a gay guy would make that connection between his devoloping sexuality and the bodies of the same sex I couldn't guess. I think that's the point at which straight people are just lost. We just don't understand why that desire for the same sex develops, when we can articulate the attraction for the opposite sex. IE. Girls like boys because they're strong, masculine, confident, tall, etc. Boys like girls because they're soft, feminite, sensitive, have lovely little body parts we don't, and so on. We know why we like the opposite sex and have perfectly understandable (to us) reasons. But why would a boy like another boy? No explanation is ever offered other than "we just do, we were born that way, you homophobe". Really? We weren't born liking girls... If it's for the same reason girls do then why the swishy feminine characteristics? If it's for the feminine traits of a gay man, why not like women?
And that is why it's viewed as an abberation.
2007-07-05 07:48:24 · answer #2 · answered by John L 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I have know and been friends with a couple of gay people, and there is NO WAY I believe that it is a choice.
Two of my gay friends in particular, depsarately wanted to be straight. My male gay friend lived a life of celibacy, rather than be who he is, my female gay friend attempted so-called therapy to become straight, and ended up committing suicide. Believe me, if she could have "chosen" to be straight, she would have. Since she couldn't, make that choice, she sadly made the choice to end her own life.
She was a very sweet, kind, fun-loving person. It's a tragic and unneccessary loss.
2007-07-05 16:24:48 · answer #3 · answered by queenthesbian 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
For me I really don't see how anyone could choose such a sick and perverse path in life. Some people do choose to be gay and they have very serious issues to resolve. My big decision for today is, should I have burgers and brauts or steak for the BBQ tonight? Bud light or Guinness? 12 pack or maybe an 18 pack would be better? If I go with the Guinness should I choose extra stout or draught? Perhaps both. Hmmmm... I'm sure that I will make the right choice.
2007-07-05 07:45:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Outside of a girl being abused by a man, then turning to girls, gay people do not make a conscious decision.
The same mechanisms that draw us to the opposite sex is essentially the same in people who are gay.
Nobody in their right mind would choose to be gay. They deal with daily ridicule and harassment. And possibly alienate their family by coming out.
I've had so many gay friends over my young life and I pick their brain because it's not natural for me and I like to understand people rather than treat them like outcasts.
Pretty much every gay guy I've ever asked about it says they knew very early on that they were different. It took time and experience to realize what was actually different.
Most gay guys have had sex with a woman. They try anything they can to "become straight" because being openly gay makes you an outcast and obviously makes your life harder.
It's painfully obvious when you talk to gay people that it was never a conscious decision.
2007-07-05 14:31:50 · answer #5 · answered by Josh 4 · 6⤊ 2⤋
Good point. Most, given the "choice" would never choose to a life of secrecy and banishment from the mainstream. I've worked with a couple of openly gay men who confided that they struggled for years with their homosexuality before coming to terms with it. One even went as far as getting married to a woman thinking and hoping that he could somehow change. This is not an isolated incident and many gays go through this. Of course his marriage didn't work and after a divorce he learned to accept himself for who he was. As a society we should learn to do the same.
2007-07-05 07:38:27 · answer #6 · answered by David M 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
i love it when nuts like to claim that gays arent allowed to be married because marriage is a sacred institution....lol
yea, so that means that over half of the marriages by straights that end in divorce in america are still sacred? or the fact that there are reality shows like "marry a millionaire" or "the bachelor" are clear examples of the hypocrisy of it all
Marriage has nothing sacred about it anymore. Its just a statement made by two loving people that they wish to become a fully functioning unit in the eyes of their "god" and their government.
Marriage is nothing more and those who say it is are either blind to the hypocrisy that surrounds us or are simply predjudiced to homosexuality
2007-07-06 01:25:25 · answer #7 · answered by Nooka 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only aberrations are some people's minds.
I think people are just born that way and it's not a choice. I think before religion got involved it was probably a lot more accepted. Maybe we should ban religion and support people as they are. Would make things a lot less confusing. As far as marriage, why shouldn't they be allowed to marry? It's going to be real interesting to see where this goes in the next few years.
2007-07-05 07:57:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
I am sure alot of gay people would choose to be straight if they could, it would certainly make life alot easier for them. And some have tried to marry the opposite sex in disastrous results.
I guess homosexuality can not be learned but it occurs naturally.
2007-07-05 07:39:36 · answer #9 · answered by Global warming ain't cool 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
There is a choice component.
You have a desire to eat. You have also the choice whether to eat and what to eat.
You cannot deny the desire, but the desire alone cannot dictate your choices. Its called free will.
I personally believe that being gay is with you from day one. You are born with it. You can choose to deny your desires, but they will always be there.
Marriage is a sacred thing and is defined as one man and one woman. It should not be changed.
However, gays should never be denied any of the financial or political benefits that married couples enjoy. There ought to be a civil union or something to acknowledge gay commitment. This union should entitle them to inheritance, insurances, tax filing status and medical decision making just as marriage does for straight couples.
2007-07-05 07:37:00 · answer #10 · answered by CHEVICK_1776 4 · 7⤊ 2⤋