OK I am not going to lie. I have been a jerk to alot of people. People that I now value friendships with and I feel super guilty about it. Though I have repented for these sins that I have committed and I have asked for forgiveness from my friends, I just can't get over the guilt. I feel that I might have ruined what could have been a really good thing in some cases. So how many times do you apologize to someone, and how do you make it up to them?
2007-07-05 07:30:11 · 15 answers · asked by Joel 2 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Besides an apology, did you ask for their forgiveness?
you don't have to keep apologizing, one is sufficient..
I thought about someone in my life I have not seen in 20 years and I remembered an incident between the 2 of us, well, that bothered me..
I called this person last year and they were quite surprised to hear from me since we ended on a sour note..
I asked them, "I would very much like to know if you would forgive me for what happened in the past"? they didn't really remember until I reminded them..
Anyway, I got a "Yes, Karen, I already did, now can you forgive me"? I said "I already have"...
2007-07-05 07:42:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd do it how many times I had to if I were in the wrong or even to get a good friend back. But the bible says I believe if not mistaken 7 X 70. Do what I did. I went to each and asked for forgiveness. 99% of them forgave me, and those that didn't live with that choice too. I don't sweat that small percentage, because I do better focusing on those who did/do care about our friendship.
To make it up to them - try starting over with them, and hope you have learned from your mistake.
2007-07-05 14:36:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Once.
If they cannot forgive you, or you cannot forgive yourself, that is a sin in of itself.
Everyone makes mistakes. That is how we learn. Forget about the past and move forward with your life.
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Jesus did NOT say apologize 7 X 70 times! He said FORGIVE 7 X 70 times! People don't know the Bible, I see.
2007-07-05 14:35:05 · answer #3 · answered by Randy G 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You apologize once and learn from your mistakes. Your guilt is something you live with for the rest of your life. It remains as a reminder of what happens when you don't do the right thing.
2007-07-05 14:34:02 · answer #4 · answered by 006 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The Bible says that we should forgive seventy times seven, meaning that we should always forgive. If you are willing to forgive those who have sinned against you, then you are forgiven also for the people you have sinned against.
Man's greatest need and highest accomplishment is for forgiveness.
2007-07-05 18:02:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
777 x 7
2007-07-05 14:33:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Once, as long as you're sincere, and then be good friend to them. Even if they no longer want to associate with you, relax knowing in your heart that you did the right thing. Let go of the guilt, it's not going to do you any good. God loves you no matter what you do, so be happy.
2007-07-05 14:39:08 · answer #7 · answered by lillith 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Jesus says 777 times 7. That is his way of saying, forgive them everytime. Tell people just how much you feel bad about how you hurt them. Tell them that you feel that they aren't accepting your apology. Ask them why. You say you've repented. By this I hope you mean you've prayed, and asked God to forgive you for hurting these people, and for help apologizing to them. If you have done this, and apologized honestly to your friends, it is God's hands. Trust him to get you through this tough spot. Pray about it, and God will ease your guilt.
2007-07-05 14:41:40 · answer #8 · answered by Wottermelon 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You apologize as many times as is needed and ask them how can you make it up to them.
2007-07-05 14:35:43 · answer #9 · answered by Caleb's Mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may have ruined the relationship. However, your job is to follow Jesus & genuinely ask their forgiveness.
You cannot control their response to you.
2007-07-05 14:36:46 · answer #10 · answered by Jeff- <3 God <3 people 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋