I'm a stariaght A student and on the student council. I never got dentention and some people refer to me as popular. I like my life alot, exect for one of my closet friends Kelly. She always mocks me telling me I'm a stuck up and a teachers pet. Sometimes she'll call me a geek and Ms. Perfection. And sometimes she'll get so far I'm crying at recess. All my other friends say she's just jealous, but I think she is far from jealous with me. Kelly is a punk/goth/emo person. She wears black everyday, and she put these ugly red and yellow highlights in her beautiful light brown hair. She get's dentation everyday pratically because she is not obeying the school dress code most of the time. She has a couple of friends but not alot. It really hurts me a friend would be calling me this. I set a counsler appointed for both us to talk but when the counselour had to go to the bathroom she said "I can't believe this" and ditched the meeting! (countinue on notes)
2007-07-05 07:26:17 · 11 answers · asked by granvillegirl9 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know what to do, because Kelly is hard core and she'll complety make your life hell. I also tried talking and stuff but all she dose is cause at me or call me a prep and walks away. I have no idea what to do. I get hurt everyday from her and she always brings my confindence level below even the negatives. I rethinked the whole jealous thing. And it might be true, but there isn't proof that it is. Or maybe it's just plain meaness. Is she jealous or just mean? and how do I handle?
2007-07-05 07:28:59 · update #1
I know a lot of people are going to trash her because frankly that's how you portrayed her.
It's very possible and likely that she has problems at home or elsewhere in her life that are simply overwhelming her. It's likely that you have a home life that others would (metaphorically) kill for. It's nothing to feel guilty about but try to understand that there are things that happen to many people that are bad beyond what you can imagine.
It may be hard from your experience for you to understand or grasp just how disastrous life can be. And don't assume you know what her life is like because many people feel embarrassed and cover up horrendous things that happen to them at home.
Did you ask if she wanted to go see the counselor or did you just do it? If not you didn't show much respect for her. And sadly many adults are no better at dealing with major problems. Teachers often unintentionally single out the kids with problems at home and make their school life equally miserable.
There may be some jealousy involved but it's likely much more complex than the dismissive way you and others are portraying it. It's very possible that she dreams of a life like yours and yet goes home to an unbearable living hell.
I have no advice for you because it's likely you have no frame of reference to understand her, her life or what she may be going through.
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As I and I'm sure you also expected you got lots of sympathy and people rushed to support you the one with the dream life. See how things work out when people only look at the superficial side of a situation?
2007-07-05 07:30:58 · answer #1 · answered by elurle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry you're going through this!
It sounds like she is jealous, but maybe she is also unhappy with herself. To make herself feel better, she lashes out at you to bring you down. Maybe there are things going on at home that even you don't know about. It sounds like she has some pretty big issues to deal with and doesn't know how.
You did the right thing by asking to go see the counselor together and trying to talk to her.
You can try writing her a note. Tell her that you do consider her your friend and you want to have a friendship, but you don't like the way she is hurting you. Ask her if there is something going on that she wants to talk to a friend (you) about.
If, after that, she still acts that way towards you, maybe she is telling you that she doesn't consider you a friend the way you consider her one. You may have to break off the friendship and do your best to ignore her comments. Maybe she will come around.
Good luck.
2007-07-05 07:49:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have kicked her butt!! But no use stooping to here level.
It sounds to me her jealousy has gone to meanness. She wants to be like you and looks up to you but she does not know how to respond. You don't want to alienate her, because she tries in her own ways to be good, and there must be something about her you like, or something about you she likes.
Why don't you try to invite her on the weekend someplace. You two can sit down and share each others ideas, of the two differences you both have. Like wear her clothes and she wear yours, just an idea. Ask her what she likes and why? Maybe you haven't gave her a chance to see who she is... of course she has a hard time showing it. Just trying to help... Good Luck
2007-07-05 07:53:03 · answer #3 · answered by Charley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a friend? Anyway, sounds like normal girl's jealous teenage angsty mean-ness to me. You ever ask her why she's like that? Do you ever comment on her appearance or attitudes? Sounds like you two need to do some serious talking, or maybe watch Potter Puppet Pals together (the Wizard Angst episode seems particularly appropriate).
2007-07-05 07:31:34 · answer #4 · answered by John R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's both. I think you need to stop hanging out with her. You must have other friends. Go with the nicer ones. Kelly has too many problems and she will drag you down with her. Beware of her.
2007-07-05 07:31:35 · answer #5 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to try talking to her. Things are most likely weird between you because you are losing more weight. Try sayng " Hey, we haven't spent much time together lately, do you want to get together?" If she says no or makes some bad excuse it might be time for a break in your friendshiup. Good Luck!
2016-05-18 23:51:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your friend just doent understand how important you find your relationship with her ! I think your her only hope so keep trying . Yes she is a little jealous of you . But keep doing what your doing dont change for her sake !
2007-07-05 07:29:32 · answer #7 · answered by wishingstar5555 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just trying to act that way...I don't know why. Its that "I'm going to try to be as ugly as possible to be popular, even though I say I don't care" phase. Ignore her. You don't need a loser like that as a friend.
2007-07-05 07:30:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its time for both of you to go in different directions. In this case, opposites dont attract.
2007-07-05 07:41:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ditch her she is just gonna drag you down. a good friend would try to make your day brighter not diss ya. move on shes toxic
2007-07-05 07:33:10 · answer #10 · answered by sweet young thing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋