we are a very close family, but all are very busy also.my sister manipulates me,my mum,brother,boyfriend, into constantly doing things for. babysitting,shopping,etc. she uses up all our spare time,and thinks a thank you card is enough once in a blue moon. she has so much more time, effort and money put into her than anyone else in the familey,and then blames all her 'problems' on the fact that she hasn't got a boyfriend. it's my mum i'm most worried about.we look after my nan full time also,she works full time,and my sister just doesn't understand that she need's time to sleep,and rest.i don't want to cause a huge fight,but her complete selfishness baffles me,as all the other member's of our family try to put others first.please help!
2007-07-05 07:25:36 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Only you have the power to say no. Your sisters reaction to you saying no is not your problem it is hers. Now your mum needs to learn its ok to say no and to take care of her own needs. So you need to teach mum this is ok and that sis will eventually learn to adjust. In fact she needs to anyway cuz mum wont always be there. You cant change sis most likely but maybe you can teach the others its ok to say no when they dont want to or dont feel up to helping.
2007-07-05 07:30:08 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to her, and sharing all of these feelings that you keep inside. If talking face to face is not your thing, write a letter or e-mail telling her how much she upsets you and your family. She needs to understand that you guys are a family, not a group of people that she can boss around. If this stil continues, why don't you ask her to pay you every time she makes you do something of her own. Tell her she needs to start acting responsible for the sake of your mom and family. Good luck and best wishes =)
2007-07-05 07:33:46 · answer #2 · answered by Cecilia B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try buying her some little gifts, and teaching her that you enjoy giving and sharing. Do this a few times and tell her how lucky you are to have a Sister. She will probably start to feel guilty and might just change into a nicer person by learning from you. But this would only work if you were serious about rebuilding the friendship.
2007-07-05 07:34:52 · answer #3 · answered by Spiny Norman 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You sound jealous of your sister. It is up to your Mother what she does for your sister not you. Being a single parent is really hard and not having a partner is hard so your Mother steps in as a surrogate partner. You never know when you will be in the same situation as your sister. It is easy to assume you would not be so dependent on your Mother and other family members but you just don't know.
2007-07-08 22:54:37 · answer #4 · answered by mike&rach 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't have to fight to win. Just a little bit of mind game will do the tricks. First of all, alert her in advance. If she starts doodling, just leave her alone. Give her a thank you card & write an ingenuously mordant note(Everyone has a life. Thank you for sparing us yours). It's payback time...
2007-07-05 08:04:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing according to me that you talk to her face to face...
Fix a time for a family meeting or only u two talk, its best that u clear all ur problems among urselves...tell her abt ur nan and also abt ur situation of how u feel, and ask her what she wanna do...ask her point of view towards her own family...
Just speak to her frankly and i m sure u'll sort it out...
Thnx
2007-07-05 18:18:27 · answer #6 · answered by King 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you think she realises she's doin this? If so then you've got to let her know its a bit unfair. Tell her you lot can help sometimes but surely not all the time. She's got to take responsibility man! x x
2007-07-05 07:39:45 · answer #7 · answered by †100% Angel† 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell her straight, tell her that your not going to be used anymore. Sometimes you've just got to tell some people. If you don't she will continue to use you all. Oh and say no sometimes.
2007-07-06 01:59:51 · answer #8 · answered by NJAS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's bullying her family, and only gets away with it, because you let her! Stop being doormats, and learn to say no - all of you. She'll learn that she's being unreasonable.
2007-07-05 07:40:38 · answer #9 · answered by jet-set 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to be honest...brothers and sisters wont gt along...EVER...until they get older...so i guess youll have to wait untill you get older for your sister to stop being selfish. but really...there isnt much you can do now
2007-07-05 07:39:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋