What is a polite but effective way to hold off a man from having sex with you on the first few dates?

Answer 1

No

Answer 2

Tell him you are an "old-fashioned girl" and you don't have sex with a guy until you've gotten to know him and there is a real relationship growing.
This lets him know that sex is not out of the question, it's just delayed, and many guys are totally fine with that. If he presses the issue, drop the politeness, and go for a firm "I said I'm not comfortable with sexual intimacy without emotional intimacy, and I expect you to respect that." If he continues pressing, then end the conversation and the relationship.

Answer 3

don't get in the position- take your own vehicle and when the night is over its just over. any man worth dating should be able to pick up on the signs associated with willingness to put out or not.
i have found saying things like "lets relax a little" or "why don't we slow down for now" make it clear that while we won't be having sex that night, we can continue kissing or fooling around without totally ruining the moment

Answer 4

Tell him you'll be ready when you're ready, and there's no definite timetable for that.

If he's still willing to date you, notice these things about him:
- How does he treat other women (especially his mother and sister, if he has them)?
- How does he treat the defenseless (children, animals, the elderly)?
- Does he ever help someone that he's not obligated to help?
- Does he have a job?

If you've had enough time to determine that he's a kind, honest, loving person, and he's seen the same in you, you'll both be ready for a physical relationship.

Answer 5

The way I feel about is it will happen when it happens,If he is pushing you into it then tell him to get lost. You not a peice of meat. I personaly have more respect for a women who makes me wait. Gives me something to look foward to. Tell him that you would rather work on the friendship side of the relationship before you commit to having sex

Answer 6

the first few dates? LOL I hope you're kidding. Any man who expects to get laid after a few dates is after 1 thing, so there's no need to be polite.
I guess you can tell him your morals and character prevent you from offering sexual favors as a part of casual dating. Or tell him you don't believe in premarital sex.

Answer 7

i don't really understand. if you've said no but he insists, why feel the need to be polite? if the situation hasn't come up yet and you're concerned with what to say when it does, a simple no or i'm not ready to do that yet, should be more than adequate if he's a decent guy.

Answer 8

Hold your ground; the right man will respect your decision to wait until you have a better grasp on your feelings toward him. Not ALL men are pigs, after all!

Answer 9

Don't put yourself out and don't put yourself in a position in which he can lead you to that point as an after date dessert. Just let him know from the door, it is too soon for you to think about moving in that direction and that you want to take it slow.

Answer 10

Tell him the truth... Tell him that you don't want to rush into have sex...You want to see were your relationship is going. If he like you he will respect your decision if he with you for sex then he will get all hurt and try to rush you or push you to have sex then you know that not the guy for you...

Answer 11

Explain to him that you are not ready yet. If he doesn't understand that then kick his a** to the curb, because that means that all he wanted in the first place was sex.