Why is almost every guy so superficial?

Question

almost every guy or person usually just cares about the ooks. what happened to getting to know somebody, the deeper meaning of things. where has it gone? i need an explanation.

Answer 1

Not every guy is like that. Personally I am not that way at all however most of my friends are. I am not just saying this to defend guys cause I know a lot are shallow. But there are plenty that do care about personallity.

Answer 2

WELL THAT'S AN EASY ONE.

I acnt believe you need an explanation, but I will take the time to roll up my sleaves and give you one.

>>"almost every guy or person usually just cares about the looks" <<

ITS NOT YOUR "PERSONALITY" THAT WILL INSPIRE HIM TO GET OUT OF HIS CHAIR TO WANT TO TALK TO YOU. He doesn't even KNOW your NAME. What did you expect??

>> "what happened to getting to know somebody, the deeper meaning of things. where has it gone?"<<

When it comes to ATTRACTION . . . there IS no "deeper meaning of things". You are either ATTRACTED to someone , or you are NOT.

You know . . .exctaly the same way you CANT EXPLAIN THE DEEPER MEANING OF WHY you are JUST NOT ATTRACTED to your "nice guy" friend who is sitting across from you and wants to know WHY you just dont "feel it" for him. No matter WHAT he "looks" like.

And there you have it.

not too hard to understand now is it.

:)

AND PS --> Dont bother asking why MEN are so "superficial" , because WE are not the ones who go out and buy FAKE BOOBS, or DYE OUR HAIR, OR PUT MAKE UP ON, OR OBSESS OVER EXCTALY THE RIGHT PAIR OF SHOES TO MATCH THE PURSE. etc.

Give us all a BREAK.

LMFAO!!!

Answer 3

Umm, I think those values of deeper meanings and getting to know someone usually happens after an initial physical attraction. Sorry.

Watch the discovery channel sometime... On those nature shows you'll see that most mammals don't choose their mates by personality alone... Or at all, actually. It's pretty much looks and whether they can provide.

People, whether you like it or not, are just animals too.

Answer 4

Think of it this way. If you were a product, your looks are like your advertisement. If a guy does not already somehow know you, and he is standing thirty feet away from you, the first thing that he has to go on is how you look: how pretty your face is; how tight and toned your body is; and how you are dressed.

If he does not work with you, does not go to school with you, or is not attending the same sporting event, concert, or civic function; your face, your figure, and how you are dressed, give you your best chance of him actually walking up and introducing himself to you. I know this may seem shallow or whatever, but it is also reasonable too. Do you, personally, find yourself going out of your way to meet random, ugly guys? Probably not. But I bet you have found an excuse to go talk to a cute guy before haven't you? You've probably gone through the check-out line, at a store, twice, claiming that you forgot something the first time, just to get another chance to talk to that cute checker-guy.

Looks aren't the only thing that matters, but unfortunately a lot of times, if you don't work or go to school with that emotionally deeper, less-good looking person to where you have to interact with them daily or often, you never find out what a loving, sweet soul they are so that you can develop a liking for their personality.

Also being emotionally deep, or being a nice, loving person isn't limitted only to the good looking, the plain, or the flat-out-ugly. There are sweet people who have all kinds of physical looks from the good to the bad. So if you are depending on guys to be going, "Oh! That girl looks good, but her personality probably sucks." or, "Oh! That's an ugly girl, but I bet she's really sweet because of it."; experiences are going to vary enough with different individuals that no one is going to make any such assumptions.

Since, as I say, I believe that your looks are like your personal advertisement, you owe it to yourself to always look as good as you can. And I'm just making generalizations here, because I can't see you on the internet to tell if your are good looking or ugly. But if you aren't doing these things already: you should exercise for 45-minutes to an hour everyday to keep your body toned and your weight down. You should pass up second helpings at meals, and pass up maybe half or two-out-of-three of the deserts that you could potentially eat to help keep your weight down. You should keep yourself clean by bathing regularly, shampooing regularly, and brushing your teeth regularly. You should wear make-up to help you look prettier, and perfume to make you smell better. Get regular haircuts to keep your hair looking nice. Wear as nice, new, and above all, clean style of clothes as you can afford. If you do all of this, you can only improve your chances of men noticing you and approaching you. You've heard about men rating women from 1 to 10 (with 1 being low and 10 being high)? I'll guarantee you, that even if you are a 4 now, if you watch your weight, and keep yourself clean and well groomed, with time you'll elevate yourself to at least a 7, and get more action with the guys than you will know what to do with.

I hope this helps answer your question :)

Answer 5

Believe it or not there are some people left in the world that are interested in getting to know a person... They are far a few between... but their out there! People, especially guys will always be attracted to the good looking people, but truthfully... after a while the looks wear off and the good looking ones just get annoying! Unless there one of us great looking smart people, we are blessed!

Answer 6

Guys don't talk about personal things in general. Women like to talk about their personal lives to make themselves feel better. Men can't read your mind. If you want to talk about something specific, you have to let them know. As men get older and wiser, they start opening up more. They either learn this from experience or counseling because of a divorce.

Answer 7

you are right on 1 thing MOST guys are only looking for good looks and a hot body.but every guy has there own thing they look for.i personly like to enjoy looking at a good looking skinny girl and there body but i would never date one of those girls most of the time there to stuck on them selves and im more attracted to a personality them i am to good looks and a hot body so everyone has there own thing and men are men we like to still look at the eye candy as we call it but that means nothing scence those are the girls in some cases would never give the time of day even if they were intrested in us

Answer 8

If you aren't sexually attracted to the person, then it doesn't matter how compatible you are, it will never go beyond friendship. You have to be sexually attracted for a relationship or marriage to work. Notice I said sexually attracted, not that everyone has to be the media's idea of what beauty is. Each person is different and is attracted to different types of people. And 75% of sexual attraction is looks.

Answer 9

Guys are always going to be this way...but not ALL guys are like this...high school guys are and most college guys are. There is no explanation...they are just men, men are dogs...end of story.

Answer 10

no, that is not true, not all guys are the same. Sure, im not going to lie to you, looks give you the first impression, but can only take you so far.