Why is she so upset?

Question

Talked to a girl online and when we met, I was late by 45 minutes because I live about an hour away from her, and I called her on the way out of town because I had forgotten to get gas. She was cool about it, and said no problem. Then, when I walked into the restaurant, I told her that she didn't look at all like her pictures, like I thought she did, and she said what do you mean? I said it's not in a bad way, it's actually better, and she told me that she thought I looked different but better.

But, the evening went straight downhill from there, and she didn't say much even though we had hit it off so well on the phone. I kept asking her if she was upset about the picture comment, and she said it just surprised her and made her think that I wasn't attracted to her since that was the first thing I said to her. She said she thought I was just saying that she looked better to be nice and save face, and that I was bullshitting. Then we went for a walk and then she was asking me if I was ready to go, and I just told her that I wanted to be friends. She said, See, I knew that you really weren't attracted, what is it about me you find so unattractive? Then she told me she thought it was wierd that my sister in law was still in contact with my exwife who cheated on me, and I have lousy taste in women. Why would she act like this?

Answer 1

Clearly you set off a chain reaction of bad feelings. Although she didn't admit to it, she was more than likely pissed you were 45 minutes late, which isn't good. The clincher was the comment about the pictures. Whenever you say "you don't look like your pictures", this can only be taken as a slam, no matter the intent. I wouldn't want to hear it either. Then for the grand finale you sentenced her to the dreaded "friend zone." There are no surprises here. If you really did like her, then this was a horrible presentation of yourself.

Answer 2

To start: Your being 45 minutes late was the seal of death. I'm 49 and as long as I can remember: it's the women who are late, not the men. Your being late is telling her she's not worth your time. Then istead of telling her: Dam, your a lot prettier in person than in pictures. You tell her you don't look like your picture! Oh I mean you look better. You just told her she lied about her looks. So first your late, then you insinuate she's a liar. Cross her of your list. You better do some studying on women and how they think.

Answer 3

In case you haven't noticed people can be deceitful on the internet. Maybe you didn't plan well enough regarding the extra time you needed for the drive and getting gas so it seemed to her you couldn't be too serious. It is a first time meeting and it doesn't mean anything really. People either don't care or try too hard. I'm married and not looking for anyone but if I was I wouldn't trust the internet.

Answer 4

Sometimes, Girls you meet online, Think you are this charming, cool, and cute guy who is into everything about her. But Whith that first comment, It made you seem like you were expecting someone else. Girls don't like that. You shouldv'e had a a better coverup. Also, girls who find out they don't like you, even though they thought they did. They will try to be mean and push you away. This girl just wasn't the one for you.

Answer 5

You set the bad vibe with the comment. I would have walked out on the date after that.

Some (if not all) women are sensitive. You said what you said but she interpreted it way different...

It is unusual that a sibling would stay in touch with someone that hurt you. I would never do that to my brother. Family comes first

Answer 6

chances are she was too emotional and you're better off not dealing with her. I can understand if she took the comment offensively at first but she has to get over it. She made the whole date awkward and didn't give you a chance to prove that you were attracted to her. Best start looking for another girl with better manners. Sorry. :\

Answer 7

Because she was let down...then after you said you just wanted to be friends she was really disappointed and I am sure mad so she thought she would insult or hurt you with the "lousy taste in women" comment.

Answer 8

she is immature and also has no self esteme.
I would say - meet someone else.

on your ex wife - she hurt you not your sil - i think it is hard when people get divorced and you have a relationship with the other half. It doesn't mean your sil doesn't love you but again, she was not hurt by your ex wifes indiscretion.

good luck in finding the right girl - you sound like a nice person.

Answer 9

Who knows why she would act like this....unfortunately having had an online relationship with her prior to meeting her first - you don't know how to gauge her reactions and all that. Best bet - let it go and move on. She seems to already know too much about your personal life and is insecure. Leave it as an online friendship and move on.

Answer 10

such a long question dont you get tired.

dont let her put you off pursue her talk sweet words give her flowers offer her to give a back massage.she would sweeten up generally.just be earnest and honest.the outside world is full of cheats and disagreable persons and all type of crooks and hooligans.may be she had lots of bad days in a row.which had made her pessimistic.try to cheer her up.